Do you hold your teen's hands?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That is the sweetest thing. We are an extremely affectionate family. My 15 year old grunts and groans at me all the time but today he did really well in a sporting event and the first thing he did was give me a big hug -- before slinking away to be with his friends.

OP, work on this issue. Healthy relationships are affectionate.

I hug my teens, I give them high fives. I don't remember the last time that I held their hands or they sat with their head on my shoulder, they were pretty little I think. And I have a really great relationship with my kids.

I think it is more odd that you never do any of those things with your kids. You are the adult and you are the reason it does not happen.

I am not saying it should happen everyday, but the fact it never happens is odd.

I can see holding their hands or having them rest their head on my shoulder if they were going through something very difficult - like a funeral of a close family member.

I really can't see myself just hanging out holding their hand or having them snuggle up to me like that during normal every day stuff.

Why? Nobody is expecting a teen to cuddle with their parent, but holding a hand, putting you arm around them, putting their head on your shoulder for a moment is normal. Do you associate these things with sex? I don't. If you read about "love languages for teens" physical touch is a normal need teens have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the sweetest thing. We are an extremely affectionate family. My 15 year old grunts and groans at me all the time but today he did really well in a sporting event and the first thing he did was give me a big hug -- before slinking away to be with his friends.

OP, work on this issue. Healthy relationships are affectionate.

I hug my teens, I give them high fives. I don't remember the last time that I held their hands or they sat with their head on my shoulder, they were pretty little I think. And I have a really great relationship with my kids.

I think it is more odd that you never do any of those things with your kids. You are the adult and you are the reason it does not happen.

I am not saying it should happen everyday, but the fact it never happens is odd.

I can see holding their hands or having them rest their head on my shoulder if they were going through something very difficult - like a funeral of a close family member.

I really can't see myself just hanging out holding their hand or having them snuggle up to me like that during normal every day stuff.

Why? Nobody is expecting a teen to cuddle with their parent, but holding a hand, putting you arm around them, putting their head on your shoulder for a moment is normal. Do you associate these things with sex? I don't. If you read about "love languages for teens" physical touch is a normal need teens have.

I didn't say I was freaked out by touching my teen. I actually said that I do hug my teen which includes putting my arm around them. I give high fives. I pat their backs. I can not see myself or my teen being comfortable holding hands with each other or wanting to hold them with their head on my shoulder like I did when they were sleepy and little.

They aren't babies anymore and I don't treat them like little babies. They can cross the street all by themselves now too, they don't need me to hold their hand anymore. It is odd for me to sometimes see people holding their teens like they would a little kid. You are the one who mentioned sex btw.

[Anonymous]

I am the PP who had teen hug at sporting event.

I also noticed my other teen had serious hand warts from hand holding and we snuggle all the time to watch movies on the weekends. They both go hang with their friends but they know one night a weekend they are home and we do something they want -- pizza, inappropriate movie and hang out close on the couch. I recommend it for everyone. Start early or they won't know it is expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had teen hug at sporting event.

I also noticed my other teen had serious hand warts from hand holding and we snuggle all the time to watch movies on the weekends. They both go hang with their friends but they know one night a weekend they are home and we do something they want -- pizza, inappropriate movie and hang out close on the couch. I recommend it for everyone. Start early or they won't know it is expected.

I know (or at least I hope) there are typos in this post. Or you are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had teen hug at sporting event.

I also noticed my other teen had serious hand warts from hand holding and we snuggle all the time to watch movies on the weekends. They both go hang with their friends but they know one night a weekend they are home and we do something they want -- pizza, inappropriate movie and hang out close on the couch. I recommend it for everyone. Start early or they won't know it is expected.

I know (or at least I hope) there are typos in this post. Or you are nuts.

Nope. Zero actually.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Not in front of their friends obviously, but otherwise yes. They'll hug me in front of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had teen hug at sporting event.

I also noticed my other teen had serious hand warts from hand holding and we snuggle all the time to watch movies on the weekends. They both go hang with their friends but they know one night a weekend they are home and we do something they want -- pizza, inappropriate movie and hang out close on the couch. I recommend it for everyone. Start early or they won't know it is expected.

I know (or at least I hope) there are typos in this post. Or you are nuts.

Nope. Zero actually.

Hand warts from hand holding????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had teen hug at sporting event.

I also noticed my other teen had serious hand warts from hand holding and we snuggle all the time to watch movies on the weekends. They both go hang with their friends but they know one night a weekend they are home and we do something they want -- pizza, inappropriate movie and hang out close on the couch. I recommend it for everyone. Start early or they won't know it is expected.

I know (or at least I hope) there are typos in this post. Or you are nuts.

Nope. Zero actually.

You put on an "inappropriate" movie and snuggle with your teenager on the couch? That is weird. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Yes, hand warts are completely normal and common in children. I assume you have a child.

We aren't talking about doing this with your neighbor's hisband. THAT would be weird.

[Anonymous]

I appropriate like Daddy's Home or 300- not porn. Now I see why you people are fucked up with your teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, hand warts are completely normal and common in children. I assume you have a child.

We aren't talking about doing this with your neighbor's hisband. THAT would be weird.

That would be wrong but not necessarily weird. You watching inappropriate movies while holding your teen's warty hand and snuggling with them is weird on pretty much all levels.

You do realize that a teenager should be noticing warts on their own body don't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, hand warts are completely normal and common in children. I assume you have a child.

We aren't talking about doing this with your neighbor's hisband. THAT would be weird.

That would be wrong but not necessarily weird. You watching inappropriate movies while holding your teen's warty hand and snuggling with them is weird on pretty much all levels.

You do realize that a teenager should be noticing warts on their own body don't you?

And come to you and say "oh mom I have two warts on my finger!"

Ha. Right. Have a teen boy and get back to me.

We also watch Bosch on Amazon. Awesome and they read the books too. With his warty hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appropriate like Daddy's Home or 300- not porn. Now I see why you people are fucked up with your teens.

You said "inappropriate". You chose that word. I read that to mean: you were watching movies that were somehow not appropriate for a teenager to watch....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, hand warts are completely normal and common in children. I assume you have a child.

We aren't talking about doing this with your neighbor's hisband. THAT would be weird.

That would be wrong but not necessarily weird. You watching inappropriate movies while holding your teen's warty hand and snuggling with them is weird on pretty much all levels.

You do realize that a teenager should be noticing warts on their own body don't you?

And come to you and say "oh mom I have two warts on my finger!"

Ha. Right. Have a teen boy and get back to me.

We also watch Bosch on Amazon. Awesome and they read the books too. With his warty hand.

I've got two teenage boys, dear. If they had a wart growing on their hand they would say something.

[Anonymous]

Don't know about a teen, but my NT 10 yr old boy holds my hand often. He's a wrestler and football player. Hid dad kisses him all the time. At night, he wants mom to pet his back. I'll take it as long as I can.