Pregnant and husband has been sleeping with intern

[Anonymous]

It's unusual that trolls write so much in their original post. Usually it only takes a few sentences to get the resident cat ladies started.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's unusual that trolls write so much in their original post. Usually it only takes a few sentences to get the resident cat ladies started.

Speak for yourself, Miss Winchester...

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/500436.page

[Anonymous]

I am with the other poster, you told him how you felt anout monogamy and gave him the go ahead. Sounds like you made your own bed

[Anonymous]

How is it you get these magical phone bills?

Verizon, at$t, they send like two pages.
Here's the monthly, here's the taxes, pay us.

There is no details. No one would know
Who we call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it you get these magical phone bills?

Verizon, at$t, they send like two pages.
Here's the monthly, here's the taxes, pay us.

There is no details. No one would know
Who we call.

O F F S. roll:

How are you capable of turning on the computer and posting here if you are that technology illiterate?

[Anonymous]

Let him play and share the adventure within you- op is such an American prude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it you get these magical phone bills?

Verizon, at$t, they send like two pages.
Here's the monthly, here's the taxes, pay us.

There is no details. No one would know
Who we call.

Good lord woman. It's all in your online profiles. Log in to Verizon, click "detailed call log. " it will tell you numbers called and texted, what time they occurred, incoming or outgoing, and the duration of the call.

welcome to the 90s!!

[Anonymous]

Why on earth did you get pregnant with this assholes kid?

[Anonymous]

I can't get past the part where you say you "are not even remotely worried" about raising the kids yourself.
You are not even a first time mom yet. Of twins.
You have seriously no idea how difficult the first year is going to be. With twins. You are being really cavalier and naive about doing this alone.
Also, it's not really your choice to do it alone or not. He may fight you for custody and visitation and then you're dealing with a messy divorce, and twin babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My dear OP,

You went ahead and had babies with this sex addict / disrespectful fellow, when you KNEW that he was morally (and perhaps physically) philandering?

And now that he continues to do so, you are hurt?

Is he very rich and powerful? I don't understand why you didn't leave when you had the chance. Co-parenting is hard, which is what you'll have to do if you divorce. But living with a man who obviously can't control himself is perhaps worse - or maybe not, for you.

I would suggest therapy for him and yourself, separately! (the together kind aims to keep the relationship going, just so you know), and an evaluation for sex addiction.

Really OP. I'm sorry to say this, but you've acted like a complete moron. Good luck to you.

No need for me to repeat what you stated so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant with twins and just discovered my husband has been sleeping with someone half his age (an intern, of all things, which is what I was to him when we met!). I want advice but think I should share our history first.
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This relationship was never on equal footing; OP got to marry some staffer or young executive and took her lumps b/c it seemed like a fairy tale. She may never had sex before, considering her medical condition -- so your first is some powerful older dude, that really messes with a girls head.

[Anonymous]

When people show you who they are, believe them. The first time.

[Anonymous]

If you already knew he was having online relationships with strangers and people he knew, and that you had decided monogamy wasn't in the cards, what changed so suddenly?

You finally got confirmation that he had cheated (but you suspected he was having affairs before -- at least emotional ones because you had seen some of the chats). Most people don't have explicit chats with people that they know unless something more is going on.

So, if you could accept it before (maybe it was easier because you didn't really know for sure), then you are over reacting now. You two need some counseling.

He definitely does sound like a sex addict. If he is willing to try to resolve his addiction issues, you could stay together. Otherwise, it probably does not bode well for a healthy relationship.

Don't be constrained by what society calls a "normal" relationship. You and he can define your relationship rules in any way you want. But, be realistic. You will have a child soon.

[Anonymous]

You allowed this to happen yet now you're hurt. Makes no sense.

Either deal with the situation or move on.