A thread for ugly women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think almost anyone is beautiful. (I used to play a game with myself in the subway, look for someone's best feature and give them a virtual makeover in my mind.) Almost everyone has some wonderful feature. It's just that lots of people (including myself) aren't focusing on it at any given time. Some people really need to lose weight (me!) but underneath they have stunning skin, hair, bone structure, eye color or something else. For some people, improving make up would help.

But honestly, the people who turn heads - those women - are put together and confident, but generally no better looking underneath it all than anyone else.

PP here. As an example - Jennifer Aniston is not a stunning beauty, but she's got a great body, good hair and she's got a ton of confidence. Sandra Bullock just got named Hollywood's most beautiful. Again, underneath it all she's probably about the same as the rest of us. She just pulls it off better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I finally found DH, I was thankful for the complete lack of male attention I had gotten before him, because it made me the person I am and that attracted the kindest, tenderest, most loving man into my life. A man who saw past my face and body and loved me for who I am.

That is the biggest gift. I'd rather have gone my path - 29 years of singled and virginity, unattractive and alone - and found a man who loved me for me, than attracted a man who only saw my outer looks.

Love this. So happy for you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you feel makes you ugly, pp?

Cut the crap. This isn't rocket science; we all know what is ugly and what is pretty. This thread doesn't have to turn into some condescending counseling session so the pretties can pretend to feel good about themselves.

I'm pretty average looking. I think very few people are truly ugly and am wondering what makes people define themselves that way.

Freckles

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if some are confusing being truly ugly (of which I think there are few few truly ugly people) with poor self esteem and the way you carry yourself.
I am not naturally beautiful, I think I clean up nicely and pay attention to my appearance. I make an effort at it. I could lose some weight and have been smaller, even recently. While I when I am smaller and in bars/like places, men may try to pick me up more often, I have not noticed a difference between normal street behavior. Men often hold the door for me. My body language tells them I expect it. People do nice things for me. Random people, men to little old ladies chat me up in random places. I like to think it's because I walk with my head up, I'm not looking scared or scowling - though I have noticed when I'm in a hurry, people tend to get out of my way.

I may be completely wrong, but maybe it's something to consider?

No some people are ugly. That's just reality.

[Anonymous]

What is "truly ugly"?

Someone mentioned freckles?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if some are confusing being truly ugly (of which I think there are few few truly ugly people) with poor self esteem and the way you carry yourself.
I am not naturally beautiful, I think I clean up nicely and pay attention to my appearance. I make an effort at it. I could lose some weight and have been smaller, even recently. While I when I am smaller and in bars/like places, men may try to pick me up more often, I have not noticed a difference between normal street behavior. Men often hold the door for me. My body language tells them I expect it. People do nice things for me. Random people, men to little old ladies chat me up in random places. I like to think it's because I walk with my head up, I'm not looking scared or scowling - though I have noticed when I'm in a hurry, people tend to get out of my way.

I may be completely wrong, but maybe it's something to consider?

No some people are ugly. That's just reality.

Show me someone who is truly ugly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is "truly ugly"?

Someone mentioned freckles?

Freckles are hardly busted ugly. Don't confuse brown spots on your sun damaged skin for freckles either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is "truly ugly"?

Someone mentioned freckles?

Mmhm,. I was cursed with freckles all over. I have always felt that it made me ugly. I still had boyfriends but I think they saw them the freckles) as something to overlook. I wear makeup now which helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is "truly ugly"?

Someone mentioned freckles?

Mmhm,. I was cursed with freckles all over. I have always felt that it made me ugly. I still had boyfriends but I think they saw them the freckles) as something to overlook. I wear makeup now which helps.

What! Ask julianne moore if freckles are ugly! They are not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is "truly ugly"?

Someone mentioned freckles?

Mmhm,. I was cursed with freckles all over. I have always felt that it made me ugly. I still had boyfriends but I think they saw them the freckles) as something to overlook. I wear makeup now which helps.

What! Ask julianne moore if freckles are ugly! They are not!

My toddler has asked why I had dirt on my face

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you feel makes you ugly, pp?

Cut the crap. This isn't rocket science; we all know what is ugly and what is pretty. This thread doesn't have to turn into some condescending counseling session so the pretties can pretend to feel good about themselves.

I'm pretty average looking. I think very few people are truly ugly and am wondering what makes people define themselves that way.

Freckles

No way. My mom is a pale freckled redhead with blue green eyes. A stunner. My daughter looks like she will be the same.

[Anonymous]

I really don't see too many people I can define as ugly.

I bet you're just average, OP, like many others.

I am average, btw.

It's all good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am ugly, too tall and too heavy. I married at age 35 to the only man who ever asked me out and who is even uglier than I am. We have had a great life, and I can almost read people's minds when they see us together: thank God they found each other.

You say you have a great life, but do you wish you had a more attractive husband? Did you just settle because you didn't want to be alone? Would you pick him now if you had your pick of men? Just wondering. I have a few friends who have had a rough time in the looks and attracting men categories, but I didn't have that problem, so I would feel funny asking them directly. Sure everyone has their own answer, but I just wants to finally ask it!

Why, to gloat over your comparative good fortune? Why don't you fuck off? NP here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you feel makes you ugly, pp?

Cut the crap. This isn't rocket science; we all know what is ugly and what is pretty. This thread doesn't have to turn into some condescending counseling session so the pretties can pretend to feel good about themselves.

I'm pretty average looking. I think very few people are truly ugly and am wondering what makes people define themselves that way.

Freckles

No way. My mom is a pale freckled redhead with blue green eyes. A stunner. My daughter looks like she will be the same.

Wait, not to derail, but I thought everyone knows Gingers are nuts (not in a good way)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if some are confusing being truly ugly (of which I think there are few few truly ugly people) with poor self esteem and the way you carry yourself.
I am not naturally beautiful, I think I clean up nicely and pay attention to my appearance. I make an effort at it. I could lose some weight and have been smaller, even recently. While I when I am smaller and in bars/like places, men may try to pick me up more often, I have not noticed a difference between normal street behavior. Men often hold the door for me. My body language tells them I expect it. People do nice things for me. Random people, men to little old ladies chat me up in random places. I like to think it's because I walk with my head up, I'm not looking scared or scowling - though I have noticed when I'm in a hurry, people tend to get out of my way.

I may be completely wrong, but maybe it's something to consider?

Can't we just be ugly? I don't want people to stretch thin to find the one part of me that is "pretty." I realize that to some people their beauty and body size are a form of currency but it doesn't cheapen their beauty if I accept that I'm ugly.