When did you realize your SO was wealthy?

[Anonymous]

I found out that my DH was wealthy when we separated. He moved out of our 1960 split level and bought himself a mansion in Potomac.

[Anonymous]

20 years in and still waiting for the big reveal.

[Anonymous]

^^Exactly!

[Anonymous]

When DH and I were dating in college and he mentioned that a person I was learning about in a Modern American History class was his great-grandfather.

[Anonymous]

I first realized that my SO was wealthy when my wicked stepsisters and their horrible mom came up with all kinds of ridiculous reasons why I couldn't go to the ball. It turned out that they were terrible gold diggers who thought that my natural beauty and unassuming manner would damage their chances to land a prince.

I figured out a way to go anyway and then the prince and I bonded over shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I first realized that my SO was wealthy when my wicked stepsisters and their horrible mom came up with all kinds of ridiculous reasons why I couldn't go to the ball. It turned out that they were terrible gold diggers who thought that my natural beauty and unassuming manner would damage their chances to land a prince.

I figured out a way to go anyway and then the prince and I bonded over shoes.

You should write a book about it. Who knows, it might turn into a movie one day.

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Anonymous wrote:Frankly I think the PP of the crashing waves and perfectly fitting dress is full of shit. It sounds creepy and even her writing is weird. ("a moment in time"?) Is she practicing bad romance writing.

I believe none of it, and it's not because I'm envious.

Too good to be true? Yeah I thought that at first myself.

NP here, but, yeah, this is weird. There is something creepy, to me, about a guy buying a woman an outfit and them making her put it on. Like he's making her look exactly how he wants her to look in his fantasies or something. Ick. The dinner on the yacht thing is sweet, but the dress thing just strikes me as something my cheese-ball ex-boyfriend in college would have done. And it would have been awkward and uncomfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly I think the PP of the crashing waves and perfectly fitting dress is full of shit. It sounds creepy and even her writing is weird. ("a moment in time"?) Is she practicing bad romance writing.

I believe none of it, and it's not because I'm envious.

Too good to be true? Yeah I thought that at first myself.

Actually too weird and owner-ish to be true.
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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly I think the PP of the crashing waves and perfectly fitting dress is full of shit. It sounds creepy and even her writing is weird. ("a moment in time"?) Is she practicing bad romance writing.

I believe none of it, and it's not because I'm envious.

Too good to be true? Yeah I thought that at first myself.

NP here, but, yeah, this is weird. There is something creepy, to me, about a guy buying a woman an outfit and them making her put it on. Like he's making her look exactly how he wants her to look in his fantasies or something. Ick. The dinner on the yacht thing is sweet, but the dress thing just strikes me as something my cheese-ball ex-boyfriend in college would have done. And it would have been awkward and uncomfortable.

Where in the story did I say he made me put it on? As if I am without backbone to do as I please...that is a bit offensive. Without going into great detail and length at explaining the origins of said dress, I'll say it was in good taste. I thought it was romantic and he knew it would fit. As to why, that is another story entirely. We were young at the time. Cheesy? Sure, maybe to some. It was shocking initially but not awkward. Poke holes in it all you want- it remains a great memory.

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when my FIL amended his will to specifically add me to it. My DH is an only child and no other extended family members. FIL keeps DH 100% informed of all financials but I had never really talked about what that meant for us as a couple (My own parents have nothing to leave us and we will probably lose money on their "estate" quite frankly. They have saved NOTHING for retirement). FIL leaves way below his means, drives a 10 year old car, small house paid off. short answer is that we are informed that FIL intends to fully pay for our kids college education (also an only child) and likely private school in high school.

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Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Assuming this is true, I don't really understand it. If he kept his money a secret all that time, why choose to reveal it like that when he proposed? Why not do it in a mature conversation about money and the future? I admit to cringing a bit when I read this because it felt to me like he was somehow trying to buy you, like you might not say yes, or at least might not realize just how lucky you were that he was proposing, if he didn't dazzle you with his wealth. Wouldn't you still be a lucky woman after 15 years and two kids if he didn't have all of that money?

Yes, I would be lucky no matter his assets or lack thereof. I understand your concerns but we manage just fine. I'm not poor myself. No reason to flaunt it, but he didn't hide it for years- we dated for years. We did have conversations about money and the future, we still do as everyone does. I shared with you but a moment in time.

NP here. If he didn't hide it and you talked about it, you must have "realized" that he was wealthy long before that evening? So your story is really not relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20 years in and still waiting for the big reveal.

I was going to say the same thing about my SO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Anastasia is that you going on and on and on about Christian again?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Having grown up on an island with beaches and harbors, in my experience you typically don't hear waves crashing in areas where boats dock. They design it to minimize the wave action because it would damage the boats.

Since when are there cabins at a dock

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Having grown up on an island with beaches and harbors, in my experience you typically don't hear waves crashing in areas where boats dock. They design it to minimize the wave action because it would damage the boats.

Since when are there cabins at a dock

You don't get out much? The cabin is another name for the interior of a yacht.