When did you realize your SO was wealthy?

[Anonymous]

When you were dating were you filtering for wealth? If so, how did you know they were wealthy?

[Anonymous]

I wasn't filtering for wealth. About 6 months into dating I found out how much he made but we were serious at that point. I was 25 he was 29.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wasn't filtering for wealth. About 6 months into dating I found out how much he made but we were serious at that point. I was 25 he was 29.

I think Op is talking about family money. There are actual real issues with that versus just marrying someone with high income.

[Anonymous]

I knew DH was wealthy and so did he but not by how much until 1 kid and 25 yrs+ together bc his parents were always vague. Did not find out until his father passed away and DH became a trustee.

So no, I did not filter...

[Anonymous]

Right after we married, I had the sudden realization that my wife was half as wealthy as I was right before I got married

-- posting anonymously today

[Anonymous]

At my DH's father's funeral, we stayed in his step monster's house and I saw the bank statements just lying out on the table. Cheapskate was worth millions!

[Anonymous]

When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

barf he bought you like a hooker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

barf he bought you like a hooker

No, not at all. We dated for years before he had let on he was wealthy. I assume to make sure it wasn't about the money...and it wasn't. But if it makes you feel better to say so. That's quite OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

barf he bought you like a hooker

...and you're just jealous, PP

[Anonymous]

I didn't realize until quite a few years after our marriage, when he walked me through his investment strategy.
Thought I'd married a guy poor as a church mouse, and that I had been the one to bring money into our marriage. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I didn't realize until quite a few years after our marriage, when he walked me through his investment strategy.
Thought I'd married a guy poor as a church mouse, and that I had been the one to bring money into our marriage. Oh well.

I'm so sorry. That must have been hell! lol

[Anonymous]

When I was being nosey and saw a bank receipt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

barf he bought you like a hooker

that sounds incredibly romantic actually. You're jealous and a hater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Assuming this is true, I don't really understand it. If he kept his money a secret all that time, why choose to reveal it like that when he proposed? Why not do it in a mature conversation about money and the future? I admit to cringing a bit when I read this because it felt to me like he was somehow trying to buy you, like you might not say yes, or at least might not realize just how lucky you were that he was proposing, if he didn't dazzle you with his wealth. Wouldn't you still be a lucky woman after 15 years and two kids if he didn't have all of that money?