When did you realize your SO was wealthy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Assuming this is true, I don't really understand it. If he kept his money a secret all that time, why choose to reveal it like that when he proposed? Why not do it in a mature conversation about money and the future? I admit to cringing a bit when I read this because it felt to me like he was somehow trying to buy you, like you might not say yes, or at least might not realize just how lucky you were that he was proposing, if he didn't dazzle you with his wealth. Wouldn't you still be a lucky woman after 15 years and two kids if he didn't have all of that money?

Yes, I would be lucky no matter his assets or lack thereof. I understand your concerns but we manage just fine. I'm not poor myself. No reason to flaunt it, but he didn't hide it for years- we dated for years. We did have conversations about money and the future, we still do as everyone does. I shared with you but a moment in time.

NP here. If he didn't hide it and you talked about it, you must have "realized" that he was wealthy long before that evening? So your story is really not relevant.

No, that is not what I said. I said he didn't hide it for years, because we dated for years. It was always his 'parents' possessions but it was easy to do because he is not a flashy or extravagant person. I'm sure he knew I would figure it out eventually. I knew he was doing well. But it was not until I visited his other home and yacht that I realized the extent of it. We talked about money as couples do, of course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Haha!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:20 years in and still waiting for the big reveal.

I was going to say the same thing about my SO.

This is MY marriage!*

But i did date a guy quite seriously who asked me for a pre-nup before he actually popped the question. That's when i bolted.

*so much happier now

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:20 years in and still waiting for the big reveal.

I was going to say the same thing about my SO.

This is MY marriage!*

But i did date a guy quite seriously who asked me for a pre-nup before he actually popped the question. That's when i bolted.

*so much happier now

Good call!

[Anonymous]

When he was 21 and driving a Porsche I knew his family had $$. When I heard the school he went to i knew he WOULD have $$. When I saw him handle newborn puppies and their stray mum with gentleness and confidence I knew he'd be a great dad. When I spent a day with him and saw our shared goals and values and the way he handled adversity I knew he'd be a great partner. When he clearly told me his intentions and dreams with him I was in love and respect with him.

The money thing mattered the least in all of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Haha!

Yeah! I'm with Ron.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Having grown up on an island with beaches and harbors, in my experience you typically don't hear waves crashing in areas where boats dock. They design it to minimize the wave action because it would damage the boats.

Since when are there cabins at a dock

You don't get out much? The cabin is another name for the interior of a yacht.

So he forced you on a boat in rough seas and made you eat food that had sit out all day. Later he tried to get you drunk to take advantage of you. How charming, troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Having grown up on an island with beaches and harbors, in my experience you typically don't hear waves crashing in areas where boats dock. They design it to minimize the wave action because it would damage the boats.

Since when are there cabins at a dock

You don't get out much? The cabin is another name for the interior of a yacht.

So he forced you on a boat in rough seas and made you eat food that had sit out all day. Later he tried to get you drunk to take advantage of you. How charming, troll

Where did you read about force and rough seas or food that sat out? Are we reading the same thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

Assuming this is true, I don't really understand it. If he kept his money a secret all that time, why choose to reveal it like that when he proposed? Why not do it in a mature conversation about money and the future? I admit to cringing a bit when I read this because it felt to me like he was somehow trying to buy you, like you might not say yes, or at least might not realize just how lucky you were that he was proposing, if he didn't dazzle you with his wealth. Wouldn't you still be a lucky woman after 15 years and two kids if he didn't have all of that money?

Classic example of a woman over thinking a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

When he took me to Chipotle and didn't bat at eye as I ordered the extra guac.

[Anonymous]

Are those of you who are so cynical of a PP's account married or single? If married...wow. I can't imagine being with someone so pessimistic and determined to prove that an anonymous stranger is lying.

I haven't married a wealthy man (yet), but its nice hearing some of the posts so far.

[Anonymous]

these and the troll's stories are hilarious! everyone knows true millionaires or billionaires are the biggest cheapskates the world. Only those with new money would flaunt it like it's going out of style. Keep them coming!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:these and the troll's stories are hilarious! everyone knows true millionaires or billionaires are the biggest cheapskates the world. Only those with new money would flaunt it like it's going out of style. Keep them coming!

You must not know too many people with money. You should get out more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he took me on a date, keeping the location secret. He met me at my modest house, and brought me a formal little black dress in a pink box with a bow on it. He asked if I would put it on, he had somewhere special to take me. After driving twenty minutes or so, he pulled over and asked me to wear his tie around my eyes and no peeking!! He stopped shortly after and lead me to a place that seemed dark and first then bright. Then, I heard waves crashing.

He pulled off the tie and I was aboard his yacht that was docked awaiting me. He asked me if I was hungry and lead me to the bright lights of his cabin he had decorated and had dinner awaiting us with wine chilled by the table. He asked me to marry him. 15 years later with two kids I am one lucky woman!

This is obviously not true because the dress would not just fit out of a box. I know this because I tried on 3348558 dresses last weekend and only 1 fit.

Hey, are you the poster who had the missing boyfriend?