When you are forced to let go of the dream you had for your child

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Anonymous wrote:Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.

I'm so sorry. Thinking good thoughts for your health and wellness.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter turned down Yale for University of Florida. Admittedly, I had a hard time with her decision. But my DH and I both felt strongly that it was her decision to make, especially given the number of scholarships she won.

She is finishing her junior year and interning this summer. She has already been offered a job after graduation. Florida was the perfect school for her.

If your son was smart enough to get into several Ivys, he's smart enough to choose his college.

[phone]......... Let the kid go where HE (not you) wants to go.

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Anonymous wrote:There is no evidence that the name of the school he attends will have any impact on his success and happiness in life. Just like you know that attending the state school did not affect your own success. He's the smart one. He knows the brand-name label means nothing.

I remember reading a study that showed that kids who got accepted to ivy league schools but chose not to attend did as well as those that went. I.e. it's because the kids are smart and driven that they're successful, not that they went to an ivy league school.

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Op Three members of my family turned down Ivies. They wanted a more rounded experience and less completion in college. They did the Ivies for grad school instead. So your DS may be Ivy material after all. In any case, he did very well and you should be proud.

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Why don't you apply and get another degree at an ivy. It's clearly important to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.

This thread is not about you. Post in the health section.

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You people worry waaayyyyy too much about colleges and universities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.

This thread is not about you. Post in the health section.

Fuck you.

(Not PP or OP) Here's hoping you develop something awful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.

This thread is not about you. Post in the health section.

Hey, have some sympathy! No snark towards the mortally ill, thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:
Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.


This thread is not about you. Post in the health section.

Not any of the PP's.

Totally uncalled for response!

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troll topic

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Anonymous wrote:Gee. My dream was that my child would be able to hear. She is not able to do that. People like you make me sick, OP.

+1 I honestly thought when I read the title of this thread that it would be from a special needs parent trying to grapple with the idea that their child will never go to college or have a typical adult experience. Please recognize your good fortune OP.

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Tell him you will only pay for an Ivy League school.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him you will only pay for an Ivy League school.

I agree. The cost of college is way too much for it to be a decision made solely by the child. My deal with my children is that they can solely choose the school if thy get scholarships (athletic or academic)- we do not qualify for financial aid. Otherwise it is a joint decision and I will not pay for a school if it is decidedly inferior academically. If they are close, then the decision can be more the child's.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Life never goes as planned. A few months ago I was talking to my high schooler about looking at colleges next year. Well I was just diagnosed with cancer and start chemotherapy soon and now all I do is cry in my bed at night and hope I live long enough to see my dc graduate high school. OP just grab your dc, hug them, and enjoy this happy time whatever they decide.


This thread is not about you. Post in the health section.

Not any of the PP's.

Totally uncalled for response!

I agree. The PPs who are trying to turn this thread into a pity party about their lives are far off topic.