Twenty-month-old DS doesn't want my parents babysitting him anymore...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just get the nanny for those days, OP. Period.

Everyone will be happier. Cut out cable and eating out to afford the overtime.

+1,000,000. And don't listen to the trolls on this thread this morning.

[Anonymous]

if the arrangement is working for you and your parents, then your 20 month old is going to have to adjust and get used to it. He isn't in charge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: It is a regular day, same day, every other week. I do present that grandma and grandpa are coming in a very happy and excited tone. He immediately asks for his nanny and continues to ask for her during the day with my parents.

Can you stop doing every other week. Instead make it the same day every week. A:so tell him earlier. Grandma is coming Thursday what ever day it is. You can show Grandma whatever.
You will see nanny whenever the next day is. Nanny can help with this too by talking up grandma time.


Additionally I would have a special box of toys just for grandma visits. Or you can make a bag for grandma to bring with her when she comes that has special things just for the visits.
Give grandma ideas for a few activities he likes to do during the day.
Let Grandparents know they can be firm with him if he is acting up. In addition to be active and playful I'm sure his nanny also has firm boundaries with him.

My parents aren't available every week and I am home with DS every other week on that day.

DS, according to my parents, doesn't "act up" he is just cranky and asks for nanny.

My mother brings him a new toy when she comes up and my Dad always has DS's favorite cookies with him.

The main problem is that DS always wants to go outside when they are with him and my parents aren't up for going out as often as the nanny does.

This is the most important part. Your son needs someone who can keep up with him.

I wouldn't switch because an 18 month old said "no".. that's absurd. However, clearly 8 - 10 hours with people who can't keep up with his needs isn't good. It must be frustrating for your parents, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get the nanny for those days, OP. Period.

Everyone will be happier. Cut out cable and eating out to afford the overtime.

+1,000,000. And don't listen to the trolls on this thread this morning.

Don't listen to the nannies looking for extra cash.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a good time for your son to learn that going out every day just because he wants to isn't necessarily going to happen. It's fine for him to have his preference and make it known (as you said OP, he's not 'acting up' with your parents, just asking for the nanny) but that doesn't mean he's always going to get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get the nanny for those days, OP. Period.

Everyone will be happier. Cut out cable and eating out to afford the overtime.

+1,000,000. And don't listen to the trolls on this thread this morning.

Don't listen to the nannies looking for extra cash.

I am not a nanny, PP. And OP never said if her nanny even wants to work those days or is available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get the nanny for those days, OP. Period.

Everyone will be happier. Cut out cable and eating out to afford the overtime.

+1,000,000. And don't listen to the trolls on this thread this morning.

Don't listen to the nannies looking for extra cash.

Sorry. I am the PP here and never have been a nanny or hired a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could find a "mothers helper" to assist your parents on those days? Like a high school girl who could take him to the park in the afternoon or in the yard to run around a bit?

[Anonymous]

Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's a good time for your son to learn that going out every day just because he wants to isn't necessarily going to happen. It's fine for him to have his preference and make it known (as you said OP, he's not 'acting up' with your parents, just asking for the nanny) but that doesn't mean he's always going to get it.

+ 1

He will be fine.
As you said this is 2 days a month.
Not worth going into debt for.
Not worth hiring someone else when this is most likely a short term phase and it's likely he'd act the same with a new part time sitter.
It really is okay for kids not to have their every demand met. He is not going to be traumatized and this is not going to cause long term damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

If my child acted like that because he wanted to go outside I would simply never let him outside again. 18 you can do as you please but at 1 my rules and you never see the light of day again if you act entitled. No child is entitled to go outside and play. Food, clothes and shelter and a stupid non important education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

No, I feel bad for him too. He just wants his nanny. For a couple days a month and until he is older, I would absolutely have the nanny take care of him.

Come on, people - he is not even two-years-old. Make him happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

If my child acted like that because he wanted to go outside I would simply never let him outside again. 18 you can do as you please but at 1 my rules and you never see the light of day again if you act entitled. No child is entitled to go outside and play. Food, clothes and shelter and a stupid non important education.

You clearly are not a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

No, I feel bad for him too. He just wants his nanny. For a couple days a month and until he is older, I would absolutely have the nanny take care of him.

Come on, people - he is not even two-years-old. Make him happy.

You clearly are not a parent either or haven't been one for very long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently, I am the only one who feels sorry for the little guy who wants to go outside and be with his nanny. He is expressing his feelings clearly and sounds like he is simply sad to be stuck in the house all day with his grandparents.

I would let him be cared for by his nanny on those two extra days a month and not put my parents in that position.

No, I feel bad for him too. He just wants his nanny. For a couple days a month and until he is older, I would absolutely have the nanny take care of him.

Come on, people - he is not even two-years-old. Make him happy.

You clearly are not a parent either or haven't been one for very long.

I clearly am a parent or else I am nursing someone else's kid as I type while my DH has someone else's kid on errands this morning.