husband won't go to church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have. He's Catholic and was practicing until we left DC shortly after our wedding. Now he has a choice of two Catholic churches and doesn't like either. Won't attend a Protestant church - "too early". I suppose it's most likely more than that.

He sounds like a hypocrite who needs to stop harping on you for not being "devout" while skipping out on services

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[Anonymous]

Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

Yes, they must have activated his mind-control chip!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Advice?
Stop trying to change the behavior of someone else. The only person you can change is yourself. Your only choices are to either let him be and be okay with it or determine it's a deal breaker and leave him. Pick one and be okay wih it. There is no in between. If you're looking for some magical argument to present to him to get him to change, you're not going to find it.

+1

Religion is very personal. His religious observance is his personal choice.

Signed, churchgoer married to non-churchgoer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

Yes, they must have activated his mind-control chip!

sounds more like it's been de-activated -- a dangerous new development for the future of religion

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

I was the one who asked the question. Obviously I'm not Catholic. I guess it's just that a Catholic priest won't perform the marriage without that commitment, but that although the marriage does not have the Church's blessing, it is not sinful; is that correct?

I hope this does not sound snide; I'm just trying to get my facts straight.

[Anonymous]

You can get married and have thar marriage recognized by a priest though it is not a sacramental union through the church. Not agreeing to raise kids catholic is not a sin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

I was the one who asked the question. Obviously I'm not Catholic. I guess it's just that a Catholic priest won't perform the marriage without that commitment, but that although the marriage does not have the Church's blessing, it is not sinful; is that correct?

I hope this does not sound snide; I'm just trying to get my facts straight.

OP here. We did not have a Catholic wedding, so he's actually sinning all over the place. He's been denied Communion at his last church over it. Hmmm....

Also, to the poster who said I was nagging, I am not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

I was the one who asked the question. Obviously I'm not Catholic. I guess it's just that a Catholic priest won't perform the marriage without that commitment, but that although the marriage does not have the Church's blessing, it is not sinful; is that correct?

I hope this does not sound snide; I'm just trying to get my facts straight.

If you are not married in the church, and you are Catholic, you are living in sin. Only marriages celebrated by a priest are valid, sacramental marriages. The parents must promise to raise their children Catholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

I was the one who asked the question. Obviously I'm not Catholic. I guess it's just that a Catholic priest won't perform the marriage without that commitment, but that although the marriage does not have the Church's blessing, it is not sinful; is that correct?

I hope this does not sound snide; I'm just trying to get my facts straight.

OP here. We did not have a Catholic wedding, so he's actually sinning all over the place. He's been denied Communion at his last church over it. Hmmm....

Also, to the poster who said I was nagging, I am not.

It's a mortal sin for Catholics to be married outside the church. It's a mortal sin to not receive Communion and Confession once a year (the Easter duty). It's a mortal sin for a Catholic to skip mass on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

OP is not married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not married.

Oh, honey, stop with your Catholic nonsense and go take your birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it a sin for a Catholic to marry without committing to bring his kids up as Catholics? Perhaps he is feeling too guilty to attend church.

No.

I was the one who asked the question. Obviously I'm not Catholic. I guess it's just that a Catholic priest won't perform the marriage without that commitment, but that although the marriage does not have the Church's blessing, it is not sinful; is that correct?

I hope this does not sound snide; I'm just trying to get my facts straight.

If you are not married in the church, and you are Catholic, you are living in sin. Only marriages celebrated by a priest are valid, sacramental marriages. The parents must promise to raise their children Catholic.

OP here. I'm not living in sin. I even waited to have sex until we were married by an ordained Anglican priest. I'm sorry the Catholic Church disagrees with that, but their opinion of marriage has nothing to do with the state of my salvation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go with a friend. My H does not go either, it's called freedom of religion.

NP, but huh?? That's a political and legal term.

OP couldn't have her husband arrested for not going to church, but she could make his life miserable, as another poster recommends, by guilt-tripping him.

Freedom of religion is a legal term, maybe I should have said free will... God gave him free will.

Also, I don't want my children to blindly follows religion ... I think it is healthy for them to see we believe different things and practice our religion differently.

Those without sin shall cast the first stone. I am without a stone to throw.