What makes you drop a guy?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy online. Smart, handsome, funny. He talked about his Russian ex during the first date briefly. On the second date I found out that he was so desperate after the break up that went to Ukraine and tried to meet a woman through a Russian speaking agency... During the same date he mentioned that he has 3-4 Russian speaking female friends that he likes to hang with. Clearly he was obsessed with Russian women.
It was a turn off and I told him I wasn't interested. He was a very kind man but I just couldn't stand that obsession. It was also a red flag that he flew all the way to another country to find a woman right after the breakup. Shows his emotional immaturity...

Another guy. Handsome, smart, SUCCESSFUL. Uses coupons for everything, makes sure his secretary fills out rebate forms, doesn't tip pizza delivery guys, loans money to people for a certain interest rate, lives in a very old house in a bad area, rents out some space there, owns several cheap used cars, invited me to have dinner with him at a DINER! Hahaha. No comment

[Anonymous]

Handsome, successful and generous. Has sex with him twice - it was absolutely horrible.
Had to tell him we were not a fit...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

Yeah, I didn't get that one either. That could either be viewed as endearing, depending on the context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

[Anonymous]

Plays golf
Plays video games
Plays poker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plays golf
Plays video games
Plays poker

Golf??? Why? My DH plays golf and taught me. We often play together. During the week he plays with clients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

I bet he did not build it from scratch; I bet he bought parts, and assembled it. I am sure, for example, he did not build a custom mother board or CPU. Probably bought the motherboard, CPU, memory, Hard disk, etc...it takes about 2-3 hours to assemble a computer. I have done this many times. Now, my time is too valuable, and computer assembly people are too cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plays golf
Plays video games
Plays poker

Golf??? Why? My DH plays golf and taught me. We often play together. During the week he plays with clients.

Golf is a divorce-able offense at my house. No golf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plays golf
Plays video games
Plays poker

Golf??? Why? My DH plays golf and taught me. We often play together. During the week he plays with clients.

Golf is a divorce-able offense at my house. No golf.

Seriously, though, because the guys in my office golf and they spend 8-16 hours at the course and the clubhouse on a Saturday. They drink WAY too much and they bet on it. Too much drinking and too much frat boy behavior. One of them drove a cart into a pond. Another one killed a goose with a golf club. They hit on the wait staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a guy online. Smart, handsome, funny. He talked about his Russian ex during the first date briefly. On the second date I found out that he was so desperate after the break up that went to Ukraine and tried to meet a woman through a Russian speaking agency... During the same date he mentioned that he has 3-4 Russian speaking female friends that he likes to hang with. Clearly he was obsessed with Russian women.
It was a turn off and I told him I wasn't interested. He was a very kind man but I just couldn't stand that obsession. It was also a red flag that he flew all the way to another country to find a woman right after the breakup. Shows his emotional immaturity...

Another guy. Handsome, smart, SUCCESSFUL. Uses coupons for everything, makes sure his secretary fills out rebate forms, doesn't tip pizza delivery guys, loans money to people for a certain interest rate, lives in a very old house in a bad area, rents out some space there, owns several cheap used cars, invited me to have dinner with him at a DINER! Hahaha. No comment

The obsession with Russian women sounds like a fetish thing. I dated a guy who seemed to have an obsession with Asian women. That, coupled with other things, was a turnoff. There's a difference between having an aesthetic preference for a certain look (a look that one ethnic group might have more off) as opposed to an obsession with a certain type that really reflects a view of women as merely objects of desire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

[Anonymous]

Lacks basic courtesies. Unfortunately, I am seeing a lot more men without manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

[Anonymous]

Opinionated men. There is a big difference between someone who is decisive and self assured vs. someone who wants to dictate your life.

[Anonymous]

Makes disparaging comments about people - race, looks, SES- and thinks that you agree with them.