What makes you drop a guy?

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Expects that you will put out because they paid for the date.

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Anonymous wrote:Opinionated men. There is a big difference between someone who is decisive and self assured vs. someone who wants to dictate your life.

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Doesn't know/mispronounces my name.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn't know/mispronounces my name.

Ouch!

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Anonymous wrote:Opinionated men. There is a big difference between someone who is decisive and self assured vs. someone who wants to dictate your life.

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Too many men try to make up for their own perceived lack of masculinity by trying to order a girl around. To me it's such a turnoff and makes me think of them as being an immature child, the opposite of turn on.

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Checks his phone in my presence.

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I hope some men are taking notes!

Good list. Keep it coming, ladies!

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

*daddy issues= mommy issues.

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He puts down and is rude to wait staff and/or his mother.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you specified a "dumb move" rather than like, a personal quality (not smart, etc.) - I'll say flakiness. These days men (and I do mean MEN, not boys - I'm in my mid-30s and not dating young guys here) will ask you for a date, then want to reschedule several times, or cancel and you don't hear from so you write them off, then you hear from them and they want to go out again, etc.
It's happened several times to me and my single friends. You can't tell if they're OBOing you (Or Better Offer aka trying to juggle more women than they can handle/keep straight) or if they are just naturally ditzy.

29 man here. I do OBO however women my age mid twenties to 31/32 play FOMO as as well so it is an issue of both sides playing Mutually Assured Destruction.

If i tell a woman, "hey lets get coffee this week or a drink sometime" then most likely i do string it out until the last minute.

However, if i say "I want to take you out on thurs at xxxxtime at such and such place and then go and do this" or "lets meet for brunch and then go do xxxx activity at this place and time". Essentially making concrete plans that include a location, time, and day - then it is obvious i have put thought into wanting to see you and have made it a priority. In this case I have never flaked in my life and have always kept up my end.

PP you quoted here. What is FOMO?

Also, I don't know about all the ladies, but I get that tentative plans are tentative. The flaking that I am talking about is that of the variety you said you never do - make a date for Saturday at 4 at a certain coffee house. A day later, he pushes it to 4:30. Two days later, says he's really looking forward to meeting you at said coffee house, and asks if you've ever been there (which he already asked you when he made the plans, and you specifically told him you hadn't, and had had to Google it). Then the night before, asks if you could do Monday instead. Then, the day of, an hour before the meetup time, says he got in a car accident AND his phone died and asks to to do it Monday. Then sends 16 whiny messages about how he can't believe you are won't forgive the 'perfectly good reason' - a car accident. The reason was not the car accident. If all had been on the up-and-up to that point, no problem if a car accident had postponed the date. The reason was everything that came before it.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you specified a "dumb move" rather than like, a personal quality (not smart, etc.) - I'll say flakiness. These days men (and I do mean MEN, not boys - I'm in my mid-30s and not dating young guys here) will ask you for a date, then want to reschedule several times, or cancel and you don't hear from so you write them off, then you hear from them and they want to go out again, etc.
It's happened several times to me and my single friends. You can't tell if they're OBOing you (Or Better Offer aka trying to juggle more women than they can handle/keep straight) or if they are just naturally ditzy.

29 man here. I do OBO however women my age mid twenties to 31/32 play FOMO as as well so it is an issue of both sides playing Mutually Assured Destruction.

If i tell a woman, "hey lets get coffee this week or a drink sometime" then most likely i do string it out until the last minute.

However, if i say "I want to take you out on thurs at xxxxtime at such and such place and then go and do this" or "lets meet for brunch and then go do xxxx activity at this place and time". Essentially making concrete plans that include a location, time, and day - then it is obvious i have put thought into wanting to see you and have made it a priority. In this case I have never flaked in my life and have always kept up my end.

PP you quoted here. What is FOMO?

Also, I don't know about all the ladies, but I get that tentative plans are tentative. The flaking that I am talking about is that of the variety you said you never do - make a date for Saturday at 4 at a certain coffee house. A day later, he pushes it to 4:30. Two days later, says he's really looking forward to meeting you at said coffee house, and asks if you've ever been there (which he already asked you when he made the plans, and you specifically told him you hadn't, and had had to Google it). Then the night before, asks if you could do Monday instead. Then, the day of, an hour before the meetup time, says he got in a car accident AND his phone died and asks to to do it Monday. Then sends 16 whiny messages about how he can't believe you are won't forgive the 'perfectly good reason' - a car accident. The reason was not the car accident. If all had been on the up-and-up to that point, no problem if a car accident had postponed the date. The reason was everything that came before it.

PP here. FOMO = fear of missing out (on something better).

Yeah, what you say is something I never do - and it is odd to hear men do it. My time is valuable and so is my word so when i say/make something concrete then i'm going to follow through. If i want to 'back burner' a girl to keep my options open, i'll never give her a promise of date/time/place until i want to follow through on it. Essentially the less inclined or interested i am, the more last minute i'll be towards her.

I've had a couple of women do what you said guys do on me however after making concrete plans then pushing and pushing. So i don't think your issue is a 'what men do to make you drop them" but 'what immature adults do in the process of failing in relationships'.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

I did. Found a great husband that way. Thanks!

In the mean time, I will continue to say that you are fucking idiots. In a few years, you'll be complaining bitterly that you can't find a husband, or that can't get pregnant because it too you to long to get married and you are too old, or that you can't believe your non-geeky DH just knocked up the OW. Keep chasing the cool guys, ladies. Have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Comes on too strong. One guy was talking marriage by the third date! Another told me he dumped his girlfriend for me.

The worst, though, was the guy who told me he had built a computer from scratch and had named it after his mother.

You don't deserve that guy. He's smart and he probably makes money and he probably stays home. If he is reasonable looking and reasonably fun, he's a keeper.

He stays home in his mom's basement.

That's a different problem then "tech-y" and "loves his mother."

Its not far off. Were you him?

No. I'm female. I went to an engineering school, though. I know tons of great male engineers and scientists. 90% of them are great catches. They might build a computer and name it after their mom or their girlfriend, though.

Great. Go date them then. If someone else is turned off by that and thinks a dude has daddy issues because of it then that's her preference, get over it.

I did. Found a great husband that way. Thanks!

In the mean time, I will continue to say that you are fucking idiots. In a few years, you'll be complaining bitterly that you can't find a husband, or that can't get pregnant because it too you to long to get married and you are too old, or that you can't believe your non-geeky DH just knocked up the OW. Keep chasing the cool guys, ladies. Have fun.

I am a M...I am a Nerd/Geeky. Before I met DW, I dated a woman who believed that I was not a good enough drunk, so she dropped me -- I become very self absorbed when drunk. But, I am almost never drunk, like the last time I was drunk was probably in 1998.