Are you the married guy? |
I am. Dropped him when I was 30. |
| He was mean to my brother. |
Any woman mean to my siblings would be axed. That is a huge no-no. Good for you |
I was faced with this also. But my sibling is a bitch.....so I understood both sides. |
If a date asked me to have a joint account after two months, I'd dump him/her too. |
Guy here - that's probably my biggest flaw. Now, i would never be talking about marriage by a third date - that's silly. But for all of the casual 'successful encounters' that i've always had, when i find a woman i truly like i fall pretty hard and fast. but some of the stuff i've read on this thread are crazy - joint bank account during dating?!?! wtf. and i thought i was bad. I'll give an example - went out with a woman I really liked and could see serious potential - 5 hour first date, back at her place making out for an hour or so. got home and sent her a short email with an interesting picture that we had talked about earlier that evening before I went to bed. radio silence. essentially what women have shown is that they want to be treated like ONS's or flings even when you think they have long term potential. |
The goal is to care as little as possible. |
I should save this for my future wife if she bitches about me not caring enough.
"Well darling, if I did when I was pursuing you, we would've never ended up getting married. I'm just trying to be consistent here" |
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It's the truth. It's the slightly less callous version of "treat 'em like shit, and they'll love you forever."
No follow up "I had a great time" texts/emails, unless she does first, and then keep it short and sweet. Etc. |