Advice Needed for Romance with a German Man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad is American but was raised by two German parents and spent most of his youth there. He likes order, timeliness, cleanliness, thrift and intelligence. Don't know if he is typical, though.

I have two German parents. They are exactly like this, and my sister and I are too to a certain extent. Chaos, changing plans at the last minute, making illogical decisions drive us all crazy. It could just be us, but I'm pretty sure its partly cultural thing.

[Anonymous]

They are not circumcised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad is American but was raised by two German parents and spent most of his youth there. He likes order, timeliness, cleanliness, thrift and intelligence. Don't know if he is typical, though.

I have two German parents. They are exactly like this, and my sister and I are too to a certain extent. Chaos, changing plans at the last minute, making illogical decisions drive us all crazy. It could just be us, but I'm pretty sure its partly cultural thing.

My husband's grand parents who came here as adults is like this, so are my husband and his mother. It may be cultural because my mother who was a SAHM raised all her 5 kids to be like that. She is also a meticulously record keeper so are her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad is American but was raised by two German parents and spent most of his youth there. He likes order, timeliness, cleanliness, thrift and intelligence. Don't know if he is typical, though.

I have two German parents. They are exactly like this, and my sister and I are too to a certain extent. Chaos, changing plans at the last minute, making illogical decisions drive us all crazy. It could just be us, but I'm pretty sure its partly cultural thing.

My husband's grand parents who came here as adults is like this, so are my husband and his mother. It may be cultural because my mother who was a SAHM raised all her 5 kids to be like that. She is also a meticulously record keeper so are her kids.

So are there people with ADD in Germany?
It's a serious question, because it makes ADD seem like a cultural thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, here. I am usually not attracted to men with blonde hair and blue eyes, but yep, he's blonde, blue eyes, over 6 feet tall.

What are German like in relationships?

They start wars in International Relations. In fact it scares me that we are allies because they always lose. Tell him your Jewish but make sure he doesn't have a gun.

You're such a pukeworthy ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is always on time. He is very efficient. We've had long make out sessions. He plans itineraries to include making out. We give each other back rubs, and he tells me that he rubs my back for 7 minutes and I rub his for 5 minutes. Then I set the timer. He's so charming, in that way. I can't tell if I am falling for him because of his German-ness, or it's his personality.

This is controlling, not charming. Run, run. Run.

I thought the same thing. This one example, one time, is charming. Expand that to many aspects of your life every day, smothering control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is always on time. He is very efficient. We've had long make out sessions. He plans itineraries to include making out. We give each other back rubs, and he tells me that he rubs my back for 7 minutes and I rub his for 5 minutes. Then I set the timer. He's so charming, in that way. I can't tell if I am falling for him because of his German-ness, or it's his personality.

That sounds nice. I'd love a partner who factors in making out as part of an outing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad is American but was raised by two German parents and spent most of his youth there. He likes order, timeliness, cleanliness, thrift and intelligence. Don't know if he is typical, though.

I have two German parents. They are exactly like this, and my sister and I are too to a certain extent. Chaos, changing plans at the last minute, making illogical decisions drive us all crazy. It could just be us, but I'm pretty sure its partly cultural thing.

My husband's grand parents who came here as adults is like this, so are my husband and his mother. It may be cultural because my mother who was a SAHM raised all her 5 kids to be like that. She is also a meticulously record keeper so are her kids.

I never dated a German, but I've had a lot to do with Germans both socially and professionally, and I had several German teachers in high school (attended Modern Language School). This is for sure something you need to expect when dealing with a German. Ordnung muss sein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Germans regard sex as an athletic challenge. They are vigorous yet ruthlessly efficient lovers.

This is absolutely true. My most satisfying physical relationship was my 4 years with a German. He was ruthlessly efficient to the very last. Body like Barishnykov. *sigh* But emotionally, the coldness of the break up took me years to recover--so, yeah.

[Anonymous]

WRT to planning the itinerary of romance--yep, that sounds exactly like my experience. I loved it. Making out for an extended time was always a part of things--nothing was rushed. Everything was always squeaky clean and tidy and he was well-endowed with many gifts. If only German efficiency didn't have such a sinister and murderous application to social engineering.

[Anonymous]

My DH is German born, raised there until his early teens. To meet him you'd never suspect he's German.

That being said, he's exactly like all the PPs have described: detail oriented, rigid in planning, operations, etc. it's certainly helped his career. How PP described ruthlessly efficient is about it. He budgets to the penny having detailed spreadsheets on every detail of our lives, including our future dream plans. That being said, he is a wonderful partner and companion, given to totally unexpected episodes of complete silliness at times.

My relationship with his parents is cordial but not warm. I was raised with a crazy French Canadian family on my mom's side, so I am WAYYY too much for them. That being said, they are very supportive of their children and grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is German born, raised there until his early teens. To meet him you'd never suspect he's German.

That being said, he's exactly like all the PPs have described: detail oriented, rigid in planning, operations, etc. it's certainly helped his career. How PP described ruthlessly efficient is about it. He budgets to the penny having detailed spreadsheets on every detail of our lives, including our future dream plans. That being said, he is a wonderful partner and companion, given to totally unexpected episodes of complete silliness at times.

My relationship with his parents is cordial but not warm. I was raised with a crazy French Canadian family on my mom's side, so I am WAYYY too much for them. That being said, they are very supportive of their children and grandchildren.

At least German in-laws will switch from Sie to Du as a form of address right after the wedding at the latest, and there's none of that silly crap of using the formal you to address your mother- and father-in-law that's still so prevalent in Italy. It drives me up. The. Wall. And I'm Italian so it's not like I'm being racist or anything of the kind. It's the custom, and it's darn stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is always on time. He is very efficient. We've had long make out sessions. He plans itineraries to include making out. We give each other back rubs, and he tells me that he rubs my back for 7 minutes and I rub his for 5 minutes. Then I set the timer. He's so charming, in that way. I can't tell if I am falling for him because of his German-ness, or it's his personality.

I don't care whether this is a joke or not, because it is hilarious. And so effing German.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad is American but was raised by two German parents and spent most of his youth there. He likes order, timeliness, cleanliness, thrift and intelligence. Don't know if he is typical, though.

I have two German parents. They are exactly like this, and my sister and I are too to a certain extent. Chaos, changing plans at the last minute, making illogical decisions drive us all crazy. It could just be us, but I'm pretty sure its partly cultural thing.

My husband's grand parents who came here as adults is like this, so are my husband and his mother. It may be cultural because my mother who was a SAHM raised all her 5 kids to be like that. She is also a meticulously record keeper so are her kids.

I never dated a German, but I've had a lot to do with Germans both socially and professionally, and I had several German teachers in high school (attended Modern Language School). This is for sure something you need to expect when dealing with a German. Ordnung muss sein.

They are known for their meticulous record keeping. It helped the Allies to figure out who did what, when and to whom after WWII.

[Anonymous]

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