Please help stop looking down on my mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op again. It's probably because my mom represents where I came from and I run hard to get away from it. She's not a bad person. She's actually very tolerant. She's just unsophisticated.

Well, apparently so are you - since anyone who was truly sophisticated would have enough class and decency not to resent the person who brought her into the world and raised her simply for being unfamiliar with consumer product innovations. Knowing what a backup camera is doesn't make you sophisticated. Knowing how to treat people well might. Try working on that OP.

PP here~ Thank you for doing a much better job than I at setting things right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op again. It's probably because my mom represents where I came from and I run hard to get away from it. She's not a bad person. She's actually very tolerant. She's just unsophisticated.

Well, apparently so are you - since anyone who was truly sophisticated would have enough class and decency not to resent the person who brought her into the world and raised her simply for being unfamiliar with consumer product innovations. Knowing what a backup camera is doesn't make you sophisticated. Knowing how to treat people well might. Try working on that OP.

+1 being cruel to her because she is unsophisticated is an embarrassment. Sophisticated means nithing if you are unevolved as a human being. The only way to overcome this is to become a better person who doesn't put more value on being a regular at whole foods than being a kind, tolerant person. Don't know how to advise you to get there if you're not horribly embarrassed by your own post (which you should be!).

[Anonymous]

What a dreadful excuse of a human being yummy are. I wish that you receive all that you so richly deserve soon and in spades. You should be a retroactive abortion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a dreadful excuse of a human being yummy are. I wish that you receive all that you so richly deserve soon and in spades. You should be a retroactive abortion.

You as there is nothing yummy about you.

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There is nothing we can do to help you become less judgmental. That has to come from inside of you and come from a compassion for others stemming from a sense of security in yourself. Right now you show neither. Nothing is an unattractive as someone acting superior to others, especially when those others are people who love them the most.

Look inward. You need to make those changes yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is here to spend a few weeks with us this summer and every time she comes over I'm so mean to her. The thing is my mom is very unsophisticated and I seem to snap at every question she asks. She's a rube a Clampett and everything from. It knowing what an iPad is used to do to thinking a backup camera is "futuristic". And she's overweight and uses a cane so I'm embarrassed to take her out in public. She thought whole foods was "magical". Ugh. But when she leaves I feel really bad.

I'm so sorry your mother didn't give you up for adoption at birth.

You nasty, horrible, disgusting excuse for a woman. So what if your mother is fat and uses a mobility aid? You should be ashamed of yourself for being ashamed of her. How can you stand to look at yourself in the mirror?

You suck. You really do. Your poor mother - I hope that she finds a better way to spend her time than visiting with such a poor excuse for a daughter. Shame on you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP said she feels bad for how she treats her mom -- she is asking for help stopping it. What is your advice, rather than scolding her for doing it?

She doesn't feel bad enough to stop feeling ashamed of her mother BECAUSE HER MOTHER USES A MOBILITY AID. And I don't care why that lady uses it. Being ashamed of a loved one because that person needs a mobility aid is past awful, mean, nasty, and unempathetic. Someone who feels like that is beyond redemption and, quite frankly, should just go jump in a lake.

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Anonymous wrote:What a dreadful excuse of a human being yummy are. I wish that you receive all that you so richly deserve soon and in spades. You should be a retroactive abortion.

+ 1.

OP, if you feel that way about your mom, woman up and cut ties with her. That would at least show some backbone. You lack even that. You keep having a relationship with her and then you trash talk her on the Internet for ridiculous reasons.

My own mom doesn't have the slightest idea about IT devices, she's underweight and she's hardly a top-model looks-wise. Guess what? None of that matters in the slightest to me. She's a wonderful mom and I love her to bits. Who the hell is embarrassed about her mom because of lack of IT knowledge. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Why all the mean responses. I actually know I have a problem and talk to my therapist about it. All my friends mothers are tall and regal and are enjoying life at 66 and then I bring along my WT mom who loves to watch the weather channel and calls every single relative to talk about the weather in their town. "Oh aunt Susan says it's raining in Michigan today" "Aunt B. says it was really hot in Carmel, In this morning." No one cares. That's stuff uneducated people talk about. I'm so happy she's progressive politically or she would never meet our friends. Yesterday she wanted to sit in the front and "look at the neighborhood". Great way to drive down property values seeing this fat lady with her clothes from Target sitting out here. It takes her a minute to climb into my SUV because she's so fat. She talks with her mouth full (something she told me not to do as a kid). I could go on and on about the stuff she does. BTW my mom has a masters degree in child psychology and taught at a prestigious private school. She had an accident in 1999 and had surgery to clip nerves in her brain. After that she's been bumbler. She retired at 60 and the last 6 years has just put on weight.

Oh and I feel really really bad for feeling like this. I just had to write that to get it out. But I really love her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Why all the mean responses. I actually know I have a problem and talk to my therapist about it. All my friends mothers are tall and regal and are enjoying life at 66 and then I bring along my WT mom who loves to watch the weather channel and calls every single relative to talk about the weather in their town. "Oh aunt Susan says it's raining in Michigan today" "Aunt B. says it was really hot in Carmel, In this morning." No one cares. That's stuff uneducated people talk about. I'm so happy she's progressive politically or she would never meet our friends. Yesterday she wanted to sit in the front and "look at the neighborhood". Great way to drive down property values seeing this fat lady with her clothes from Target sitting out here. It takes her a minute to climb into my SUV because she's so fat. She talks with her mouth full (something she told me not to do as a kid). I could go on and on about the stuff she does. BTW my mom has a masters degree in child psychology and taught at a prestigious private school. She had an accident in 1999 and had surgery to clip nerves in her brain. After that she's been bumbler. She retired at 60 and the last 6 years has just put on weight.

Oh and I feel really really bad for feeling like this. I just had to write that to get it out. But I really love her.

This is something wrong with you, not her. She's a smart lady, who has had some setbacks in her life and is now retired. You're not worried about something being wrong with your mom. You are worried that something is wrong with YOU. What do you think people are going to think about you if they see your mom? Do you think it's true? If it's not true, you have to convince yourself that it is not true. You have to believe it. If it is true, you have to convince yourself that it is okay that it's true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Why all the mean responses. I actually know I have a problem and talk to my therapist about it. All my friends mothers are tall and regal and are enjoying life at 66 and then I bring along my WT mom who loves to watch the weather channel and calls every single relative to talk about the weather in their town. "Oh aunt Susan says it's raining in Michigan today" "Aunt B. says it was really hot in Carmel, In this morning." No one cares. That's stuff uneducated people talk about. I'm so happy she's progressive politically or she would never meet our friends. Yesterday she wanted to sit in the front and "look at the neighborhood". Great way to drive down property values seeing this fat lady with her clothes from Target sitting out here. It takes her a minute to climb into my SUV because she's so fat. She talks with her mouth full (something she told me not to do as a kid). I could go on and on about the stuff she does. BTW my mom has a masters degree in child psychology and taught at a prestigious private school. She had an accident in 1999 and had surgery to clip nerves in her brain. After that she's been bumbler. She retired at 60 and the last 6 years has just put on weight.

Oh and I feel really really bad for feeling like this. I just had to write that to get it out. But I really love her.

Do you read what you're writing? And then you wonder why we are "mean" to you? Who on this Earth says that their Mum brings down property value because she's fat and wear cheap clothes? How can you even say something like that? How do this kind of thoughts even enter your mind at all.

Don't kid yourself. You do not love her. No one can say such horrible things about a person and love that person. No way in hell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Why all the mean responses. I actually know I have a problem and talk to my therapist about it. All my friends mothers are tall and regal and are enjoying life at 66 and then I bring along my WT mom who loves to watch the weather channel and calls every single relative to talk about the weather in their town. "Oh aunt Susan says it's raining in Michigan today" "Aunt B. says it was really hot in Carmel, In this morning." No one cares. That's stuff uneducated people talk about. I'm so happy she's progressive politically or she would never meet our friends. Yesterday she wanted to sit in the front and "look at the neighborhood". Great way to drive down property values seeing this fat lady with her clothes from Target sitting out here. It takes her a minute to climb into my SUV because she's so fat. She talks with her mouth full (something she told me not to do as a kid). I could go on and on about the stuff she does. BTW my mom has a masters degree in child psychology and taught at a prestigious private school. She had an accident in 1999 and had surgery to clip nerves in her brain. After that she's been bumbler. She retired at 60 and the last 6 years has just put on weight.

Oh and I feel really really bad for feeling like this. I just had to write that to get it out. But I really love her.

Do you read what you're writing? And then you wonder why we are "mean" to you? Who on this Earth says that their Mum brings down property value because she's fat and wear cheap clothes? How can you even say something like that? How do this kind of thoughts even enter your mind at all.

Don't kid yourself. You do not love her. No one can say such horrible things about a person and love that person. No way in hell.

OP has a massive inferiority complex and is trying to fill it with stuff and by putting on a good face. Her mom reminds her that she is not her zip code.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Why all the mean responses. I actually know I have a problem and talk to my therapist about it. All my friends mothers are tall and regal and are enjoying life at 66 and then I bring along my WT mom who loves to watch the weather channel and calls every single relative to talk about the weather in their town. "Oh aunt Susan says it's raining in Michigan today" "Aunt B. says it was really hot in Carmel, In this morning." No one cares. That's stuff uneducated people talk about. I'm so happy she's progressive politically or she would never meet our friends. Yesterday she wanted to sit in the front and "look at the neighborhood". Great way to drive down property values seeing this fat lady with her clothes from Target sitting out here. It takes her a minute to climb into my SUV because she's so fat. She talks with her mouth full (something she told me not to do as a kid). I could go on and on about the stuff she does. BTW my mom has a masters degree in child psychology and taught at a prestigious private school. She had an accident in 1999 and had surgery to clip nerves in her brain. After that she's been bumbler. She retired at 60 and the last 6 years has just put on weight.

Oh and I feel really really bad for feeling like this. I just had to write that to get it out. But I really love her.

Do you read what you're writing? And then you wonder why we are "mean" to you? Who on this Earth says that their Mum brings down property value because she's fat and wear cheap clothes? How can you even say something like that? How do this kind of thoughts even enter your mind at all.

Don't kid yourself. You do not love her. No one can say such horrible things about a person and love that person. No way in hell.

OP has a massive inferiority complex and is trying to fill it with stuff and by putting on a good face. Her mom reminds her that she is not her zip code.

You know, I want to cry for the OP's mum and I don't even know her. That poor, poor lady. I hope she has other children who actually love and value her, and not only this mean should-have-been-an-abortion "daughter".

[Anonymous]

Look I feel really bad ok. I admit that I hate harboring such thoughts but I do. I don't know why.

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Anonymous wrote:Look I feel really bad ok. I admit that I hate harboring such thoughts but I do. I don't know why.

You really believe your mom's weight will bring down properly values? And the fact that she shops at Target? You can't be for real. You just can't be. I thought the existence if people like you was an urban legend. How does your therapist not vomit in her mouth while you share these things? Most of us here have advanced degrees and shop at whole foods and are appalled at your shallowness. If you really are for real then I should ease up on you because clearly you are deeply insecure and I should feel sad for you but ugh...