Why do SAHMs need a nanny when their kids are in middle school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:a.) b/c they can

b.) who cares?

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OP, get a life!

- WOHM with 3 kids - no nanny!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have twins on the same team? If not the practices and games are in different places. Really what do you care? Maybe the mom is taking care of her elderly parents or is sick herself. I should add I don't have a nanny but if I had the money I would use one so that my middle schoolers are not alone at home after school. By middle school there often isn't after school care available.

OP here. I do have twins, as a matter of fact, of the opposite sex who play on different sports teams. When one has an away game and one has a home game, I go to the home game and tell the other twin I can't make it. They know I can't be all places at the same time. They ride the bus back with their teammates from away games, which they enjoy. They would be disappointed to see a nanny at a game. I chucked the nanny when they were 3 and put them in daycare once I realized the nannies congregate in the play parks and ignore the kids. And, I have an elderly parent that I help care for by providing a caregiver and check in during the week and weekends. If you can afford a nanny, you should be able to afford a caregiver. We pay extra for our kids to go to an after school program. They had an after school program in the public school as well. So, not sure where you live that after school programming is not available.

Maybe you could get a nanny just so you'd have more time to judge others. Seems like something you enjoy.

LOL ! +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you don't seem like a nice person. I hope my friends don't secretly judge all of my life decisions. And BTW you have NO idea if they would rather see the nanny at their game...maybe they love their nanny and look forward to seeing her? Seems like such an odd judgement claiming no child should love anyone or accept anyone besides mom??

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[Anonymous]

I have a high functioning SN middle schooler and other kids. While we don't need a nanny, I could understand that a multiply challenged SN in MS could require a nanny.

Don't judge until you walk the walk yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be an au pair, which in some ways is easier. Either way, nanny or au pair between parent teacher conference days, snow days, holidays, summer vacation, and kids being sick, I imagine ome parents have a nanny to cover all of this-- which adds up a lot. So they have a nanny go to a game, maybe while they go to another sibling game who knows but no judgement - we are all parents trying to make things work and enjoy it at the same time.

Plus an au pair is a cultural exchange.

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I don't need our nanny to work with us, but it makes life less complicated and much more pleasant. We have two children, my husband travels a lot for work, I take care of my father who lives nearby, and I travel along with my husband a fair amount as well. Our children's nanny is with us half time, which allows me reliable time for appointments and meetings. I am guessing I am more engaged and outside activities than many stay-at-home parents. I am on the governing board of our children's school, am on the working boards of two non-profits, and am on two additional boards that require little more than a few meetings per year. I commit time to these organizations both because I feel it is a valuable use of my time and skills, and because it keeps me connected with professional contacts. By way of example, I am now on the boards of two former clients. So, having extra help with the kids, whether to help driving, or to allow me to attend a school or other event easily, is worth it. Also, our nanny has been with us since our first child was born. She is terrific, and adds great value to our lives. It's a good arrangement that works well for us all.

[Anonymous]

Is it really considered a nanny if it just after school care? I know SAHMs who have multiple kids at different age levels who need help driving the kids to different activities. Why is this a bad thing?

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We have a woman who started as a nanny and now is more of a mother's helper. Does everything from getting cars washed to going to games to prepping food for dinner:-0

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Anonymous wrote:Well, middle school kids can't drive yet and many parents don't get home from work until 6pm or after with a commute. Unless the kids can walk to their after-school activities, somebody has to drive them.

The SAHM can't pick the kid up?

[Anonymous]

If I can afford it - I will outsource everything that I can! Why is this anyone's concern? I am helping the economy! That is my contribution.

Bite me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, middle school kids can't drive yet and many parents don't get home from work until 6pm or after with a commute. Unless the kids can walk to their after-school activities, somebody has to drive them.

The SAHM can't pick the kid up?

Evidently it works best for that family to have a nanny. Why do you do everything you do, the way you do it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, middle school kids can't drive yet and many parents don't get home from work until 6pm or after with a commute. Unless the kids can walk to their after-school activities, somebody has to drive them.

The SAHM can't pick the kid up?

I was talking about families where both parents work. I am a single mother and if I could afford a nanny, I would love to have some help. I'm sick of doing every single little thing all of the time. If you can afford a nanny, housekeeper, etc etc etc, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe mom has some sort of chronic illness?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The families I know with nannies for middle schoolers, are those who have had a long term relationship with a specific caregiver. I had 2 friends in college whose families employed the same person from the day the oldest child came home from the hospital until the day the youngest left for college, at which point the nanny was retired with a pension. The nanny and "children" enjoyed a warm loving relationship and would have been welcomed on the sidelines of a game, for example.

I know other families who employ people to help provide supervision and transportation for their middle schoolers after school, but it's usually a very different relationship between the connection between a nanny and a child. Often times people are either given other responsibilities as well such as tutoring, household management, cooking, etc . . . . Or they're simply there to drive and supervise.

Yeah, but the classless ones who question this, who are low life gossips, could never afford them, so they try to put the families who can afford them down. The don't realize how stupid they look gossiping about others.

Wait until they try to hire them at half the price and the nanny all but spits on them!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have twins on the same team? If not the practices and games are in different places. Really what do you care? Maybe the mom is taking care of her elderly parents or is sick herself. I should add I don't have a nanny but if I had the money I would use one so that my middle schoolers are not alone at home after school. By middle school there often isn't after school care available.

OP here. I do have twins, as a matter of fact, of the opposite sex who play on different sports teams. When one has an away game and one has a home game, I go to the home game and tell the other twin I can't make it. They know I can't be all places at the same time. They ride the bus back with their teammates from away games, which they enjoy. They would be disappointed to see a nanny at a game. I chucked the nanny when they were 3 and put them in daycare once I realized the nannies congregate in the play parks and ignore the kids. And, I have an elderly parent that I help care for by providing a caregiver and check in during the week and weekends. If you can afford a nanny, you should be able to afford a caregiver. We pay extra for our kids to go to an after school program. They had an after school program in the public school as well. So, not sure where you live that after school programming is not available.

Maybe you could get a nanny just so you'd have more time to judge others. Seems like something you enjoy.

A favorite hobby of hers.