Why do SAHMs need a nanny when their kids are in middle school?

[Anonymous]

Op, it is because you are better than them.

[Anonymous]

OP, why don't you ask one? And if she answers, "What business is it of yours?" -- well, that would be my answer too, and I'm not a SAHM and I don't have a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because rich moms don't want to watch their kid's no matter what the age. They golf, tennis, country club or do lunches. No time for kids or their sports. If they can pay a nanny to be a mom for them, all the better. Have you seen the movie, The Help. Those moms are just like the ones around here.

But just like in the movie, they are better off being raised by nannies. Hopefully they won't turn out so self centered.

I'm exhausted after a day of country club sports so I have a nanny do some of the driving. This way I can make a nice dinner and we can all eat together as a family when everyone gets home.

[Anonymous]

Don't hate the player hate the game. Aka successful dh vs non successful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't hate the player hate the game. Aka successful dh vs non successful

Huh? Come again, "successful DH" but this time with something half way intelligent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't hate the player hate the game. Aka successful dh vs non successful

Lol. Lay for pay, my dear.

[Anonymous]

Well, middle school kids can't drive yet and many parents don't get home from work until 6pm or after with a commute. Unless the kids can walk to their after-school activities, somebody has to drive them.

[Anonymous]

The families I know with nannies for middle schoolers, are those who have had a long term relationship with a specific caregiver. I had 2 friends in college whose families employed the same person from the day the oldest child came home from the hospital until the day the youngest left for college, at which point the nanny was retired with a pension. The nanny and "children" enjoyed a warm loving relationship and would have been welcomed on the sidelines of a game, for example.

I know other families who employ people to help provide supervision and transportation for their middle schoolers after school, but it's usually a very different relationship between the connection between a nanny and a child. Often times people are either given other responsibilities as well such as tutoring, household management, cooking, etc . . . . Or they're simply there to drive and supervise.

[Anonymous]

Could be an au pair, which in some ways is easier. Either way, nanny or au pair between parent teacher conference days, snow days, holidays, summer vacation, and kids being sick, I imagine ome parents have a nanny to cover all of this-- which adds up a lot. So they have a nanny go to a game, maybe while they go to another sibling game who knows but no judgement - we are all parents trying to make things work and enjoy it at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, middle school kids can't drive yet and many parents don't get home from work until 6pm or after with a commute. Unless the kids can walk to their after-school activities, somebody has to drive them.

OP again. I work in downtown DC. Kids' school is in Potomac, MD. A lot of these moms live in Potomac or Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have twins on the same team? If not the practices and games are in different places. Really what do you care? Maybe the mom is taking care of her elderly parents or is sick herself. I should add I don't have a nanny but if I had the money I would use one so that my middle schoolers are not alone at home after school. By middle school there often isn't after school care available.

OP here. I do have twins, as a matter of fact, of the opposite sex who play on different sports teams. When one has an away game and one has a home game, I go to the home game and tell the other twin I can't make it. They know I can't be all places at the same time. They ride the bus back with their teammates from away games, which they enjoy. They would be disappointed to see a nanny at a game. I chucked the nanny when they were 3 and put them in daycare once I realized the nannies congregate in the play parks and ignore the kids. And, I have an elderly parent that I help care for by providing a caregiver and check in during the week and weekends. If you can afford a nanny, you should be able to afford a caregiver. We pay extra for our kids to go to an after school program. They had an after school program in the public school as well. So, not sure where you live that after school programming is not available.

Congratulations, OP. You are supermom.

[Anonymous]

Myob

[Anonymous]

Another post generally slamming SAHMs and "rich moms" who the poster does not actually know. Another example of one woman judging the parenting and family choices of another woman without truly knowing the family circumstances of the other.

OP, you really should mind your own (obviously extremely virtuous) business.

[Anonymous]

Yeah fuck the brady bunch and their Alice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:a.) b/c they can

b.) who cares?

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