Why do women like older men?
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Anonymous
Hello there! Hmmm...yes, I believe you're right. I am courteous and well mannered, and I treat her like a lady. I tell her, "baby...that's right, chiquita...you gotta be a lady in the street...and a freak in the sheets! Lol. She giggles at me and sticks her tongue out at me. Lol. She tells me that I'm very masculine, and I am kind and sweet to her. Centurion |
Anonymous
Thank you! She certainly appreciates that I'm a *man* and not some immature punk that still lives at home and is preoccupied with video games or their cell phone! She also likes that I have a job, and I'm ambitious and responsible. Being funny, intelligent, and educated don't hurt, either. And handsome, too. Centurion |
Anonymous
Alpha fucks and beta bucks! |
Anonymous
Maybe she has fallen in love with you. The age difference between 33 and 45 is not that much. Does she want kids, and can you give her that? Also, since you are divorced already - prenup. |
Anonymous
| Married to a man two years older, but had an affair for many years with a man 13 years older. Why? Because the older man had passed through the childrearing stage, the striving to get ahead at work stage. He knew for sure who he was, take it or leave it. And, frankly, to him I was young and hot, although I was in my late 30s. Loved feeling young and desirable again. |
Anonymous
I was just thinking the same thing. OP, if you and your gf are exclusive and in love with each other great! I have to say that being in my mid-forties, I think you sound so much younger than a 40 some year old. My DH is 6 younger than I; when we met, it was not love or lust at first sight. We were co-workers and built our relationship through friendship first, then things eventually turned romantic. I was 33 when I met him, while I was fully aware of my biological clock, I knew I was active, healthy and in great shape, so I didn't fall all over him doing things for him. In fact he's the one that after 18 months of dating asked me to move in with him and even then I waited another 6 months. Relationships are all you make them to be, if you are in love (and this story is not fictional) with this woman, go for it ---- but honestly to me this sounds very high schoolish! |
Anonymous
Plus, he was hot without having to experience any of his warts. I wonder if he got to enjoy some sweet young thing, too. |
Anonymous
I've noticed some Latinas get like this when they're in "relationship mode." OTOH, she might be to hold it back until she has the kids. |
Anonymous
Interesting! Almost 15 years older, huh? Do you share the same values and relationship expectations? I laugh at some of the little cultural details, like I will make a reference to Reagan, or Madonna or such and she'll remind me...I was in grade school then...or was in diapers...lol. I just smile, and say, "oh, right baby. That was before your time, girl!" It's lots of fun though. I shouldn't be too surprised though. In my girlfriends case, her father is 18 or 20 years older than his wife. My girlfriends cousin is 30 years old, and her husband is 16 years older than her, at 46. Her husband is very "old school" too. Nothing wrong with you liking older men, either. I didn't realize it was still such a popular preference. Certainly the maturity, confidence and life experiences of the older man has a strong influence on the relationship for the younger woman. Centurion |
Anonymous
Ah, well...my mistake, then. I generally consider 5 or less as "few" and anything more than 6 as "many" but it certainly can be relative, and contextual. My girlfriend seemed to think she dated a lot, considering her conservative, traditional Mexican familia and background. I've known of some white girls that dated more guys in their freshman year of college than my girlfriend has in her entire life. Lol. Centurion |
Anonymous
I see. Well, that kind of attitude certainly wouldn't fly with me. My girlfriend is very passionate, expressive, and adventurous. She's eager to try new things and do all kinds of crazy stuff with me. Centurion |
Anonymous
Fictional? No way. Yes, I and my girlfriend are entirely real, you'll be glad to know!  and, thank you for the compliment! "Quite charming". Very nice! Yes, my girlfriend is on me about swearing, drinking and smoking. Lol. My girlfriend says she wants me healthy and living a long time, so the cigar smoking has to stop or be cut way the hell back. I agreed, and I'm working on it, as well as going to the gym. Most of the men in her familia are as she says, "very Mexican" and drink *a lot*. So, I'm respectful of her and don't drink too much, even though it would be fun to get ripped with her uncles and cousins. Of course, at every party, the first thing they do is want to hand me a beer or a shot of tequila! Lol. I explain to her it's not exactly easy being respectful of her desire, by drinking little, when the men in her family want me to drink with them, and I also don't want to offend them by not joining with them. At family parties, the men all gather together away from the women and kids to talk, and smoke cigars and drink. So, it's kind of a tight balance I have to negotiate there. The cultural dynamics are somewhat different there than in typical white families. I'm working on reducing or modifying those things, however, so it's progress.
Centurion |
Anonymous
Hmmm...well, she tells me that she is sexually attracted to me. She says that the way I look at her...the way I talk to her..."makes her tingle". And, well, she's constantly hungry and eager for sex. Perhaps she's lying and it's all just an elaborate game then? Crazy, huh? Some of my friends believe that *all* women are crazy!
Others, though, think Latinas are their own special *crazy*. Lol. My girlfriend's family is huge. Her sister, brother, cousins, are all married. All the women in the family are strong, direct, and vocal, though all of them are devoted to the men, and put a lot of conscious effort into catering and pleasing their men, and making the men their top priority and focus. Her aunts are all the same way as well. My girlfriend bristles at the thought of being "submissive"--though she is quick to comply and conform to most every desire and expectation that I have. Perhaps paradoxically, she is also demanding of me, and directly tells me what she likes, what she desires, and what she expects from me. She told me right to my face that "we are both strong, passionate people, and we will be like playdoh for each other--that I will mold and shape her to my desire, and she will mold and shape me to her desires, that this is how we grow and build us together. This is how we blend us together and build our union together as a family." Maybe Latinas are crazy. Her whole family has been very warm, gracious, and welcoming to me, embracing me with genuine enthusiasm and respect. It's all a little intimidating for me--I'm the only white man in the family! I seem to be very important to her family.
Centurion |
Anonymous
Hello! Yes, she would love to have children with me.
She says she is deeply in love with me, she wants to have my children, and she wants to spend her life with me. Centurion |
Anonymous
High schooling? lol. Yeah, I'm 45. And there's nothing fictional about what I've written. I don't sound like my age? Hmmm...well, I guess "love" makes you feel young. My girlfriend says I'm very mature. *shrugs*. Maybe I'm not as mature as I think I am?
When my first marriage ended, after 20 years, I was an absolute mess. I didn't give a damn about my future--I didn't believe I really had a future. I was angry, bitter, and fatalistic. I didn't believe in love, commitment, the church, or women. Women's words of "love" and promises were all empty, shallow lies. Women were all lying, greedy, materialistic, selfish whores, unfit and undeserving of any real love and commitment from a man. Women were to be endlessly used to my own pleasure and desire, never trusted, and discarded at a man's whim. I would never love a woman again, not would I ever get married. That's the popular thought to many men, including several of my friends that have also been divorced. I felt like my world came to an end, and I was cast down into a burning hell of savage, relentless agony. I felt like God had abandoned me, and turned his back to me. *everything* I believed in seemed to be a sad, horrible lie. I stopped going to church in 2006. I lost many friends, my dogs, my house, everything I had built over 20 years, was gone. I crawled out of my dungeon of despair, and started dating. Heh. Many women, from 22 to 50. I was ruthless in pursuing my own pleasure, always remaining aloof, and in total control. After awhile, you know what? It gets boring. And hollow. An endless parade of women and sex, one date blending into another, but with no hope of any of it really mattering, or meaning anything. Nihilism. Pointless hedonism. No thank you. Without love and commitment, trust, loyalty, true companionship, a loving family, there isn't much worthwhile in life. Everything else is just charades, going through the motions of life. So, to truly live life, I had to believe in love again. I had to trust God again. I had to reconnect and rebuild myself as the man I truly am, and have always been. Life seems far better and sweeter than being jaded and bitter and hopeless, wallowing in empty hedonism. I hope this relationship works out. Either way, though, it can only work if I trust it to work, make it work, and have faith. Centurion |