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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This whole thread seems as fictional as any other on this forum.[/quote]

I was just thinking the same thing.

OP, if you and your gf are exclusive and in love with each other great! I have to say that being in my mid-forties, I think you sound so much younger than a 40 some year old.  My DH is 6 younger than I; when we met, it was not love or lust at first sight. We were co-workers and built our relationship through friendship first, then things eventually turned romantic. I was 33 when I met him, while I was fully aware of my biological clock, I knew I was active, healthy and in great shape, so I didn't fall all over him doing things for him.  In fact he's the one that after 18 months of dating asked me to move in with him and even then I waited another 6 months.

Relationships are all you make them to be, if you are in love (and this story is not fictional) with this woman, go for it  ---- but honestly to me this sounds very high schoolish!
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High schooling? :) lol. Yeah, I'm 45. And there's nothing fictional about what I've written. I don't sound like my age? Hmmm...well, I guess "love" makes you feel young. My girlfriend says I'm very mature. *shrugs*. Maybe I'm not as mature as I think I am?

When my first marriage ended, after 20 years, I was an absolute mess. I didn't give a damn about my future--I didn't believe I really had a future. I was angry, bitter, and fatalistic. I didn't believe in love, commitment, the church, or women. Women's words of "love" and promises were all empty, shallow lies. Women were all lying, greedy, materialistic, selfish whores, unfit and undeserving of any real love and commitment from a man. Women were to be endlessly used to my own pleasure and desire, never trusted, and discarded at a man's whim. I would never love a woman again, not would I ever get married.

That's the popular thought to many men, including several of my friends that have also been divorced. I felt like my world came to an end, and I was cast down into a burning hell of savage, relentless agony. I felt like God had abandoned me, and turned his back to me. *everything* I believed in seemed to be a sad, horrible lie. I stopped going to church in 2006. I lost many friends, my dogs, my house, everything I had built over 20 years, was gone.

I crawled out of my dungeon of despair, and started dating. Heh. Many women, from 22 to 50. I was ruthless in pursuing my own pleasure, always remaining aloof, and in total control.

After awhile, you know what? It gets boring. And hollow. An endless parade of women and sex, one date blending into another, but with no hope of any of it really mattering, or meaning anything. Nihilism. Pointless hedonism.

No thank you. Without love and commitment, trust, loyalty, true companionship, a loving family, there isn't much worthwhile in life. Everything else is just charades, going through the motions of life.

So, to truly live life, I had to believe in love again. I had to trust God again. I had to reconnect and rebuild myself as the man I truly am, and have always been. Life seems far better and sweeter than being jaded and bitter and hopeless, wallowing in empty hedonism.

I hope this relationship works out. Either way, though, it can only work if I trust it to work, make it work, and have faith.

Centurion[/quote]

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