My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad

[Anonymous]

OP- I understand. I am sorry. Hope your day improves!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.

Was your DH still in bed at 7:30?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, don't listen to half of these comments! That would make me really sad for my son too and think less of my husband. Don't beat yourself up for his short comings though. Hopefully he is there when it really counts and maybe if you bring these things to his attention he might see how important even these "little" things are to the children? Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you are pregnant with your third and stressed.

Try and relax and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you get pregnant again?

With a loser?

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Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.

Yes, he sounds awful. Horrible. Terrible. Kick him out immediately. Without question.

[Anonymous]

You didn't hit a homerun with their mom either!
I JS!

[Anonymous]

I bet it's not his first time to act like a jerk towards the kids.
I think he is blind as a bat, and an insensitive jerk.Did he not notice that he hurt his son's feeling?!
Has to google how to tie a tie? Was it a bow tie?
I'd tell him that he was a jerk to his son.
I'm with you on this one and not because I'm 8 months pregnant.More because he didn't seem to notice how his behavior affected his son.

[Anonymous]

Hey, it's no better on the other side sometimes. My ex-wife was uninvolved despite my best attempts to get her on board with things. The first three years, she probably took our daughter to the playground once. She had no interest in school functions, playing with her after work or doing any type of mommy-and-me activities.

I wrote her off (and filed for divorce) after her first day of preschool: she snapped at me for taking pictures. She said she didn't see the big deal. "She'll be going to school for the rest of her life. What makes this so special." She said this in the class in front of other parents taking pictures.

I feel bad for my daughter because THAT is her mom. She wouldn't be here without her, but she's a great kid who deserves so much better.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for you and your children. To your son: Good for you for figuring out how to tie that tie! You look so grown up and handsome. You can only control your own reaction.

[Anonymous]

OP, is this a joke post? To highlight the fact that you have so little problems in your life compared to so many people with abusive parents, no food in the house or desperately looking for work?

Please congratulate your son on his independence, accept that some people are not at their best in the morning, and don't procreate any more with this husband of yours.

Sheesh. Massive eye-roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet it's not his first time to act like a jerk towards the kids.
I think he is blind as a bat, and an insensitive jerk.Did he not notice that he hurt his son's feeling?!
Has to google how to tie a tie? Was it a bow tie?
I'd tell him that he was a jerk to his son.
I'm with you on this one and not because I'm 8 months pregnant.More because he didn't seem to notice how his behavior affected his son.

+1

There seem to be a lot of people on this board who would tell a 7 year old to get out of their face and let them get some sleep but would probably need xanax if their cat died.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet it's not his first time to act like a jerk towards the kids.
I think he is blind as a bat, and an insensitive jerk.Did he not notice that he hurt his son's feeling?!
Has to google how to tie a tie? Was it a bow tie?
I'd tell him that he was a jerk to his son.
I'm with you on this one and not because I'm 8 months pregnant.More because he didn't seem to notice how his behavior affected his son.

+1

There seem to be a lot of people on this board who would tell a 7 year old to get out of their face and let them get some sleep but would probably need xanax if their cat died.

Because that's an equal comparison...

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry people are being such jerks. I can see why this broke your heart. I am sure it is one example of many where you watched your kids feel badly because their dad ignored them or ruined their excitement. Sending you hugs.

[Anonymous]

1. Give up new baby for adoption, and have yourself sterilized.
2. Strangle husband with his own tie.
3. Report back for further instructions.