Did anyone else's spouse kill it at Biglaw last month?

[Anonymous]

OP just needs to grow up a bit and will then understand her remark was insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate to call troll, but I have to wonder if OP is intentionally trying to hit DCUM's sensitive spot(s). If only she had added, now we'll have no problem paying for our Big 3 admission...

+1 If OP is real, she had an extra bowl of bi*ch flakes this morning.

[Anonymous]

I know someone like op. It is really sad and so many of us feel bad for her. Just last week she was telling me how depressed she was that while she had a lot of friends and people to hang out with, she really only had 2 true friends. I was trying to figure out how to politely tell her how she was turning people off, but couldn't figure out.a good way.

[Anonymous]

and how many times wa she there to say good night to the kids, have dineer witht hem, visit them at school?

Sorry, take you $$$ I would much rather have DH do all that than have money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone like op. It is really sad and so many of us feel bad for her. Just last week she was telling me how depressed she was that while she had a lot of friends and people to hang out with, she really only had 2 true friends. I was trying to figure out how to politely tell her how she was turning people off, but couldn't figure out.a good way.

That is sweet op you, PP to not tell her but tell DCUM forum. Really thoughtful and kind!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and how many times wa she there to say good night to the kids, have dineer witht hem, visit them at school?

Sorry, take you $$$ I would much rather have DH do all that than have money.

I don't get this. OP sounds like a trophy wife (given that her DH doesn't share any financial details withe her) so she is probably home with the kids all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and how many times wa she there to say good night to the kids, have dineer witht hem, visit them at school?

Sorry, take you $$$ I would much rather have DH do all that than have money.

I don't get this. OP sounds like a trophy wife (given that her DH doesn't share any financial details withe her) so she is probably home

with the kids all the time.

typo. meant He not she

[Anonymous]

I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and how many times wa she there to say good night to the kids, have dineer witht hem, visit them at school?

Sorry, take you $$$ I would much rather have DH do all that than have money.

Hubby leaves a lot to be desired as a spouse, but less to be desired as a dad. Home for kids to bed every night, (except when traveling) and even takes kiddos to school most mornings. Works extra hours mainly at night post 9pm. DH definitely has faults but the compensation makes dealing with some of the day-to-day stresses much easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

OP, you're just digging yourself deeper. Please stop.
The fact that you (and pp) can't discuss these kinds of things with your husbands is insane! Looking at internet forums for info about family finances? Instead of ASKING your husband? Then again, you probably never see him. Just - I have no words.
And people are losing their jobs, being furloughed etc - and you don't get why people think you're an asshole?
I really can't go any further with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

OP, you're just digging yourself deeper. Please stop.
The fact that you (and pp) can't discuss these kinds of things with your husbands is insane! Looking at internet forums for info about family finances? Instead of ASKING your husband? Then again, you probably never see him. Just - I have no words.
And people are losing their jobs, being furloughed etc - and you don't get why people think you're an asshole?
I really can't go any further with you.

If I'm an asshole then you're a fool. I AM BEING FURLOUGHED. What is assholic about asking if other people in biglaw are seeing this bump?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

OP, you're just digging yourself deeper. Please stop.
The fact that you (and pp) can't discuss these kinds of things with your husbands is insane! Looking at internet forums for info about family finances? Instead of ASKING your husband? Then again, you probably never see him. Just - I have no words.
And people are losing their jobs, being furloughed etc - and you don't get why people think you're an asshole?
I really can't go any further with you.

If I'm an asshole then you're a fool. I AM BEING FURLOUGHED. What is assholic about asking if other people in biglaw are seeing this bump?

STOP. Your DH is making millions and I doubt your furlough even makes a dent. You are a totally horrible person. JUST STOP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

OP, you're just digging yourself deeper. Please stop.
The fact that you (and pp) can't discuss these kinds of things with your husbands is insane! Looking at internet forums for info about family finances? Instead of ASKING your husband? Then again, you probably never see him. Just - I have no words.
And people are losing their jobs, being furloughed etc - and you don't get why people think you're an asshole?
I really can't go any further with you.

If I'm an asshole then you're a fool. I AM BEING FURLOUGHED. What is assholic about asking if other people in biglaw are seeing this bump?

STOP. Your DH is making millions and I doubt your furlough even makes a dent. You are a totally horrible person. JUST STOP.

Right. I'm horrilbe! Because we don't have bills. Are you are horrible because your HHI is above someone else's? Do you think we don't have a mortgage, savings plans to contribute to things in our home that need repair/maintenance etc? Get a life. Newsflash- even people who make money spend it accordingly. So what if we spend 30% on our morgage just like you. Who cares? Should people under the poverty line hate you because you're comfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really blame op for asking, though she could have phrased it better. My husband hates talking about work. I often find myself having to google or trawl industry forums for information because he finds it too stressful to bring the subject up at home.

I'm not a trophy wife, I'm in charge of all the finances, he just finds work anxiety-inducing and hates to have that impinge on his limited time at home.

OP here, thanks for understanding! I'm glad there are others who get it. My husband is not a great communicator to begin with, and even worse about work/financial stuff. Calling me bitchy, dumb. or even worse a SAM/trohpy wife (gasp!) is ridiculous. I'm so far from any of the above (even thought there is nothing wrong with SAMs but it is not for me).

OP, you're just digging yourself deeper. Please stop.
The fact that you (and pp) can't discuss these kinds of things with your husbands is insane! Looking at internet forums for info about family finances? Instead of ASKING your husband? Then again, you probably never see him. Just - I have no words.
And people are losing their jobs, being furloughed etc - and you don't get why people think you're an asshole?
I really can't go any further with you.

If I'm an asshole then you're a fool. I AM BEING FURLOUGHED. What is assholic about asking if other people in biglaw are seeing this bump?

STOP. Your DH is making millions and I doubt your furlough even makes a dent. You are a totally horrible person. JUST STOP.

Right. I'm horrilbe! Because we don't have bills. Are you are horrible because your HHI is above someone else's? Do you think we don't have a mortgage, savings plans to contribute to things in our home that need repair/maintenance etc? Get a life. Newsflash- even people who make money spend it accordingly. So what if we spend 30% on our morgage just like you. Who cares? Should people under the poverty line hate you because you're comfortable?

Every post makes you sound even more charming. Why don't you go complain to your colleagues about being furloughed. You know, the ones whose lives will be severely affected. I won't post again.