DCUM archetypes I'm very, very tired of.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the resentment of these posts even if you can't identify with them. This is an anonymous board - presumably for people with kids - to share their concerns, ask questions, vent, and discuss what's on their mind. If you don't like the topic, don't read it. If you can't relate, move on. But what you describe as archetypes are examples of people's real (or percieved) struggles. Offer a solution or skip the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

She already said it. STFU!!!!

I don't have a husband, family close by, make $60,000 and somehow whine less then you I bet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

No one is saying there is an easy solution. JUST.STOP.WHINING. Your problems with your $800,000 "poverty" do not make others sympathetic.

Having a husband who doesn't do his fair share is a much more complex, interesting problem than 95% of the crap that gets posted here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

She already said it. STFU!!!!

I don't have a husband, family close by, make $60,000 and somehow whine less then you I bet.

What do you whine about, or are you too busy posting threads about reality tv? And oh by the way, it's whine less THAN you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

Having a healthy relationship with your husband where you are not just spouses but partners in taking care of your home is not easy, and I can say for myself it took years. For many people it takes years of negotiating, battles, arguments, taking a stand, etc., to reach a point where you both just do what needs to be done in a fair way. My sense is that what many wives do is just do the housework themselves from the beginning because they don't want to have a discussion/fight about every. single. chore. or deal with DH not doing things "right" and as the years go on your apartment becomes a house then a larger house, you have kids, you have pets, and a bad precedent has been set, along with the fact that many women are just terrible at negotiating with men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

She already said it. STFU!!!!

I don't have a husband, family close by, make $60,000 and somehow whine less then you I bet.

What do you whine about, or are you too busy posting threads about reality tv? And oh by the way, it's whine less THAN you.

I'm going to ignore your stupid grammar correction. I'm sure you NEVER made a typo even though you knew better.

Here are the things that I struggle with, but no one really gives a shit about past the standard "of you poor thing."

1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The SAHM telling the WOHMs that strangers are raising our kids and we don't love our kids as much as her.
I secretly think this poster is just one person. And very insecure.

No, I think there are many people who believe this, even if they don't say so publicly.

It's probably more than just one person, but I don't think many women think this. Not even many women who SAH. I SAH but don't think more or less of any man's or woman's choices in organizing the division of labor in their household. Every family is different. Children have different needs; adults have different talents. Make the most of what you've got.

[Anonymous]

1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

I'm not divorced. I went without for years to save up money to buy a house. I shouldn't whine because I had a few luckier breaks in life than you did?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

She already said it. STFU!!!!

I don't have a husband, family close by, make $60,000 and somehow whine less then you I bet.

What do you whine about, or are you too busy posting threads about reality tv? And oh by the way, it's whine less THAN you.

I'm going to ignore your stupid grammar correction. I'm sure you NEVER made a typo even though you knew better.

Here are the things that I struggle with, but no one really gives a shit about past the standard "of you poor thing."

1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

If your ex is unemployed then why do you have to take a day off if your child is sick?

[Anonymous]

Just the usual parents who take themselves too seriously-

- no sugar/vegetarian/no tv/no cosmetics/whatever else you don't let your child do.

Do what you do, but just stop talking about it, already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But don't these posts have self-explanatory titles? Ones you know you shouldn't read because they drive you crazy?

If you don't like a topic, thread, post, complaint, whatever, just move on. It's not like childhood dinners where you're forced to sit there until you consume every last morsel on your plate. In DCUMville, you're free to move right along. Please do so. For your health's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

I'm not divorced. I went without for years to save up money to buy a house. I shouldn't whine because I had a few luckier breaks in life than you did?

Uhm, YES!!!! That is exactly what I'm saying. Realize that you are lucky and stop complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

I'm not divorced. I went without for years to save up money to buy a house. I shouldn't whine because I had a few luckier breaks in life than you did?

You can whine, but if you reveal either through your tone-deafness, or the things you write, that you don't have a healthy sense of perspective or an understanding of how much worse it could be, don't be surprised if other people find you annoying, shallow, or selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

She already said it. STFU!!!!

I don't have a husband, family close by, make $60,000 and somehow whine less then you I bet.

What do you whine about, or are you too busy posting threads about reality tv? And oh by the way, it's whine less THAN you.

I'm going to ignore your stupid grammar correction. I'm sure you NEVER made a typo even though you knew better.

Here are the things that I struggle with, but no one really gives a shit about past the standard "of you poor thing."

1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

If your ex is unemployed then why do you have to take a day off if your child is sick?

Because he is an ass! Welcome to my world!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Paying rent (owning is out of the question). I had to buy my son all new clothes (we're talking Target, consignment stores, etc.) and a new jacket so he doesn't freeze and now I'm short on rent. His dad has been unemployed for a year and child support is dwindling to nothing.

1) If I take another day off because my child gets sick I won't get paid. I didn't take a vacation this year. All of my time is spent on doctor appointments, sick days, etc.

3) We are going to be living in a one bedroom for God knows how long because that is the only way my child will get to go to a decent school (not great, but decent)

I mean really people, get some f***ing perspective. Get your head our of your ass and realize that you don't have a problem.

I'm not divorced. I went without for years to save up money to buy a house. I shouldn't whine because I had a few luckier breaks in life than you did?

You can whine, but if you reveal either through your tone-deafness, or the things you write, that you don't have a healthy sense of perspective or an understanding of how much worse it could be, don't be surprised if other people find you annoying, shallow, or selfish.

And you gathered though what exactly that I don't have a healthy sense of perspective?