DCUM archetypes I'm very, very tired of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The SAHM telling the WOHMs that strangers are raising our kids and we don't love our kids as much as her.
I secretly think this poster is just one person. And very insecure.

No, I think there are many people who believe this, even if they don't say so publicly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fall into both categories too. Instead of getting tired of it, why not just recognize that these are clearly issues in our geographical region? Its expensive to live here and the area attracts highly educated workers, so, both parents work in many households and have little time, hence, power struggles regarding chores, and, because it is so expensive, those parents end up strapped for time and money, despite their relative wealth. It is called the rat race, and those of us who are caught up in it are strugglign with how to change it.

There are many, many ways to change both situations. You either do not want to make the tough decisions or just like to whine.

You're saying that I should just divorce DH because he won't do his fair share of the housework? We have cleaners every other week, I'm talking about the myriad other things he doesn't and won't do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I fall into both categories too. Instead of getting tired of it, why not just recognize that these are clearly issues in our geographical region? Its expensive to live here and the area attracts highly educated workers, so, both parents work in many households and have little time, hence, power struggles regarding chores, and, because it is so expensive, those parents end up strapped for time and money, despite their relative wealth. It is called the rat race, and those of us who are caught up in it are strugglign with how to change it.

There are many, many ways to change both situations. You either do not want to make the tough decisions or just like to whine.

By this logic, why should those with no money get to whine? There are many, many ways to make the tough decisions and sacrifices to make more. Go back to school, work more hours, etc. Oh, wait, you have the cornerstone on whining.

No, I'm not a whiner by nature. I have chosen less money over flexible time & a better commute. I have chosen an affordable neighborhood and childcare that many of you would turn your noses up at. I'm just saying, venting is one thing, but the high income households whining about the cost of living is nauseating. You have choices, many do not. Now it's time to make them.

[Anonymous]

Oh, these PPs just wouldn't stand for these lazy husbands! They would kick them right on out. As for HHI of $300K plus, they wouldn't stand for that either! They're ruthless! That's why they have it allll figured out. Nothing to whine about on this forum.

Its pretty easy to be all hard core about someone else's life and struggles, bit harder when they are your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But don't these posts have self-explanatory titles? Ones you know you shouldn't read because they drive you crazy?

No, PP! Some posters are sneaky in what they write in the subject line!

It's a trap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, these PPs just wouldn't stand for these lazy husbands! They would kick them right on out. As for HHI of $300K plus, they wouldn't stand for that either! They're ruthless! That's why they have it allll figured out. Nothing to whine about on this forum.

Its pretty easy to be all hard core about someone else's life and struggles, bit harder when they are your own.

Strange. I don't fall into either category. Somehow I manage to negotiate a fair chore distribution with my husband, to refuse to allow myself to be taken advantage of, and to live in a home that I can afford. Oh, and I don't call myself poor when I have a household income that places me in the top 1% of this country, because that's just crass and stupid and really, really, obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to hear about how "sad" you feel that it has "come to this" -- nannies and the "help" "raising" "our" children. They are not your children. Do not worry about it. Worry about your own children. And, yes, how you will get back into the job market in ten years.

People should save the word sad for death of a loved one, serious illness, natural disaster, etc. Referring to behavior that is legal and common as "sad" is ridiculous lady aggression.

[Anonymous]

The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

Yes, but why get worked up? Just ignore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

My problem is that people like you who don't like these posts all have less money and don't understand the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

My problem is that people like you who don't like these posts all have less money and don't understand the situation.

Riiiiiiight. We don't understand how hard it is to economize. A household that is poor could never understand your struggles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

My problem is that people like you who don't like these posts all have less money and don't understand the situation.

Riiiiiiight. We don't understand how hard it is to economize. A household that is poor could never understand your struggles.

Nope. It's not about economizing, it's about the tradeoffs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reason the whining about making 300k+ is annoying is because it's not an actual problem- you make more than 90% of the people in America, and you're still in the top % in this region as well. You're saving money. You're helping your parents. You live in school districts that are good. But somehow, that's a problem? Because... you don't feel rich? You don't drive a Mercedes? It's VERY HARD to sympathize with this, and the way some people write about their situation does not make it any easier.

My problem is that people like you who don't like these posts all have less money and don't understand the situation.

Maybe I have less than you.


Or maybe not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

Me too. Other than "marry a different guy, " I'd love to hear the solution.

No one is saying there is an easy solution. JUST.STOP.WHINING. Your problems with your $800,000 "poverty" do not make others sympathetic.