Are there styles you consider off limits after 40?

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Anonymous wrote:basically anything that the RHOC wear.

Agree!!

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Anonymous wrote:You are seriously asking the Dankso crew this question?

Why are you reading this forum if you have such a low opinion of the people who post here regularly?

You must wear Danskos.

I have a pair of Dansko clogs and LOVE THEM and I am a young married woman. They are so comfy and I normally wear them schlepping around in the fall/ winter with jeans. I see no problem with wearing them. I also have Jimmy Choo's and Chanel handbags and wear target clothes all the way to buying at NM. Who cares!?!?!

Ah yes- I also have a Burberry quilted jacket

SO you wear Dankos and are a label Whore. Awesome.

No not a label whore at all. If you learned to read pp I buy target clothes that are no name labels and I also buy shoes from there and cheap zappos work ones. I mix it up soI can look great and invest in some classics but also shop without spending a ton. Sorry you feel the need to judge people to make yourself feel superior.

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

What about Michelle Obama?

Well, I haven't seen her up close, but she certainly does look great in pictures. AA women tend to have much nicer-looking skin for much longer.

But I stand by my assertion that too many of my almost-cohort have arm skin that's far too loose and papery-looking to expose at close range. It doesn't seem to start right at 40, but it's there a few years after.

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Daisy dukes

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

Sorry - on my way to 48 here - and have none of this. And i'm not even the most toned woman! And none of my same-aged friends have it, either!

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

Sorry - on my way to 48 here - and have none of this. And i'm not even the most toned woman! And none of my same-aged friends have it, either!

I know, right?

My mom is 55 and has none of what that poster is describing. My mom also works out quite a bit and it toned. She has taken impeccable care of her skin, diet, and fitness her entire life. Genetics also play a role. My mother does not have even a speck of stretch mark or loose skin on her body.

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I'm 48 and the "bad arm syndrome" is definitely true in middle age. And I say this because I go out a lot with friends in their mid 20's and trust me standing next to someone that young you see the difference. I am not in bad shape and I don't look bad, but I know I can't wear what they wear and I don't try. I look good in my own way, which is why I can still blend in w younger friends but it's not easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Last summer, my mom tried to buy a frayed denim miniskirt. I literally had to beg her to put it down and then resort to telling her how absolutely assinine she would look in it.

Glad you're not my kid.
Signed, a non-Dansko-wearing over-40 mom

My mom is great looking and youthful and I don't expect her to EVER wear Danskos... but at 48, the frayed denim American Eagle miniskirt is just off limits. It was an atrocious skirt on its own; combined with her age, it would have made her look foolish. I was doing her a favor. There's hot, and there's "mature woman trying to be 22"- which is so not hot.

Your mother is 48? How old are you? Do you have kids? I'm 50 and have an 11 yr old.

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Anonymous wrote:Last summer, my mom tried to buy a frayed denim miniskirt. I literally had to beg her to put it down and then resort to telling her how absolutely assinine she would look in it.

Glad you're not my kid.
Signed, a non-Dansko-wearing over-40 mom

My mom is great looking and youthful and I don't expect her to EVER wear Danskos... but at 48, the frayed denim American Eagle miniskirt is just off limits. It was an atrocious skirt on its own; combined with her age, it would have made her look foolish. I was doing her a favor. There's hot, and there's "mature woman trying to be 22"- which is so not hot.

Your mother is 48? How old are you? Do you have kids? I'm 50 and have an 11 yr old.

I'm 28. I have one child. I'm not from DC; in most parts of the country people don't have kids so late. I don't say that to be snarky, just to explain- my mom had me at 20. Where I'm from, most 50 year olds have college aged kids.

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

There is no shame in being older, and no reason to hide anything.
If you are wearing something (e.g. a tiny skirt) that sends a message that seems ridiculous for your age (or any age) - than that is probably unwise, but if your message is "It's hot today and I am comfortable enough in my skin to wear no sleeves even if my arms aren't perfect" I think you are fine.

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Anonymous wrote:This is coming from a 32 year old, but I think almost everything can be adjusted to be age appropriate. For instance, I saw one of those ruffle skirts in the Garnett Hill catalog that a 40+ could wear. It was just above the knee, and a pewter colored cotton. The model wore it with a white tank and flat sandals, and a fun necklace. This was a couple years ago, but I want to say it was called the Barcelona skirt?

Funny, I just ordered this, and it's going back because the fabric is too flimsy, and the ends of the ruffles flip up. I think you can wear a lot of styles at 40+ but not cheap fabric or construction.

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

Sorry - on my way to 48 here - and have none of this. And i'm not even the most toned woman! And none of my same-aged friends have it, either!

Like a PP said, stand next to a 20 year-old and take note of the difference. There's a certain papery quality that's not possible to escape.

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What is papery quality? Don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:NP getting scarily close to 40 here. I don't think fatness or even general tone is the issue so much as dried-up middle-aged ladyskin.

Even the most toned women have this after 40. It's natural, but I intend to hide it, no matter the temperature and RH!

Sorry - on my way to 48 here - and have none of this. And i'm not even the most toned woman! And none of my same-aged friends have it, either!

Like a PP said, stand next to a 20 year-old and take note of the difference. There's a certain papery quality that's not possible to escape.

Not if you were smart enough to stay out of the sun. Think Marcia Cross, Kim Basinger, etc. I'm super-pale and could never tan, and wow, am I glad for it now (at 42).

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Anyone who wears JUICY or PINK across their bums.