If you aren't sexually attracted to your husband...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again - I also hate the messiness of sex. Easier to masturbate - no clean-up!

This is really pathetic. Glory in the natural messiness of it! Either that, or swallow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here - also,I am very orgasmic and can orgasm in a minute. I get exhausted and turned off as my husband goes on and on and turns the whole process into a gymnastics routine of different positions, etc until he gets off. Its a turn-off!!

Why don't you try to get off again? That's the nice thing about being a woman-- you can have more orgasms if you want to. Or you could try to hold off and then when you do come, the orgasm will be more powerful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use it or lose it. I follow the once a week minimum rule whether I'm in the mood or not. Does absolute wonders for our marriage!

If DH would be satisfied with once a week I could do that! He feels rejected and angry and resentful if not at least every other night. After 18 years,two kids, financial problems, etc - I am so exhausted and turned off. Quite frankly, I don't understand how men can sustain their sex drive. I wish my husband would lose interest. Also, he is no longer physically attractive to me (and yes,I am better looking and in better shape than when we met) but I am not interested in others, either. Just no longer sexual. I am 46.

I'm a 46 year old female who would love sex every other night. Why are you exhausted?

are you a MILF? if so, every night is better for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me it's totally lack of interest in any sex. I guess it's hormones, but I don't feel any interest in other men, women, or even want to masturbate.
To be honest it really sucks. I asked my gyn and he just said yeah it's really common. Wow. Thanks for your help buddy

ditto. If I never had sex again that would be fine with me. I guess I could be called "asexual"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me it's totally lack of interest in any sex. I guess it's hormones, but I don't feel any interest in other men, women, or even want to masturbate.
To be honest it really sucks. I asked my gyn and he just said yeah it's really common. Wow. Thanks for your help buddy

ditto. If I never had sex again that would be fine with me. I guess I could be called "asexual"

+1. If only DH didnt still want it, i'd be totally happy never having sex again - and actually enjoying cuddling, massages, etc. mch more not thinking about how he's angling for something in return

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use it or lose it. I follow the once a week minimum rule whether I'm in the mood or not. Does absolute wonders for our marriage!

If DH would be satisfied with once a week I could do that! He feels rejected and angry and resentful if not at least every other night. After 18 years,two kids, financial problems, etc - I am so exhausted and turned off. Quite frankly, I don't understand how men can sustain their sex drive. I wish my husband would lose interest. Also, he is no longer physically attractive to me (and yes,I am better looking and in better shape than when we met) but I am not interested in others, either. Just no longer sexual. I am 46.

I'm a 46 year old female who would love sex every other night. Why are you exhausted?

What are you doing on the other nights?!????!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me it's totally lack of interest in any sex. I guess it's hormones, but I don't feel any interest in other men, women, or even want to masturbate.
To be honest it really sucks. I asked my gyn and he just said yeah it's really common. Wow. Thanks for your help buddy

ditto. If I never had sex again that would be fine with me. I guess I could be called "asexual"

Do you think your asexuality has to do with lack of attraction to your spouse?
Or do you think you are just asexual, period?

[Anonymous]

OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

Yes and this has been the bigger mistake of my life. We dated for 7 years before marrying and if I'm bein perfectly honest, I was never sexually attracted to him. He was smaller, less experienced and not as adventurous as previous partners. BUT, he was/is a GOOD MAN who has always treated me well. He is a good provider, a wonderful father and and awesome friend.

But here we are..10 years later and im wondering how much longer I can continue to do this. He has "problems" so our sex life is practically non-existent. We are both early 30's, attractive and fit. I have cheated on him several times over the years and will probably have to continue if I stay in this marriage.

If only I could press rewind....

[Anonymous]

"Smaller?" So his cock is too small for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

Yes and this has been the bigger mistake of my life. We dated for 7 years before marrying and if I'm bein perfectly honest, I was never sexually attracted to him. He was smaller, less experienced and not as adventurous as previous partners. BUT, he was/is a GOOD MAN who has always treated me well. He is a good provider, a wonderful father and and awesome friend.

But here we are..10 years later and im wondering how much longer I can continue to do this. He has "problems" so our sex life is practically non-existent. We are both early 30's, attractive and fit. I have cheated on him several times over the years and will probably have to continue if I stay in this marriage.

If only I could press rewind....

Do you have kids? Can you divorce? You are too young to be staying in it for the kids, even if you have them......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

Yes and this has been the bigger mistake of my life. We dated for 7 years before marrying and if I'm bein perfectly honest, I was never sexually attracted to him. He was smaller, less experienced and not as adventurous as previous partners. BUT, he was/is a GOOD MAN who has always treated me well. He is a good provider, a wonderful father and and awesome friend.

But here we are..10 years later and im wondering how much longer I can continue to do this. He has "problems" so our sex life is practically non-existent. We are both early 30's, attractive and fit. I have cheated on him several times over the years and will probably have to continue if I stay in this marriage.

If only I could press rewind....

Wow, you're a terrible person. Your "good provider, wonderful father and awesome friend" is at risk of cuckoldry and deadly STD's because you have no morals. I hope he finds out as soon as possible and he can find a woman who respects him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

Yes and this has been the bigger mistake of my life. We dated for 7 years before marrying and if I'm bein perfectly honest, I was never sexually attracted to him. He was smaller, less experienced and not as adventurous as previous partners. BUT, he was/is a GOOD MAN who has always treated me well. He is a good provider, a wonderful father and and awesome friend.

But here we are..10 years later and im wondering how much longer I can continue to do this. He has "problems" so our sex life is practically non-existent. We are both early 30's, attractive and fit. I have cheated on him several times over the years and will probably have to continue if I stay in this marriage.

If only I could press rewind....

Do you have kids? Can you divorce? You are too young to be staying in it for the kids, even if you have them......

Yes, we have one young son. Divorce has crossed my mind more than once but I hesitate giving up on an otherwise great relationship. Sometimes I wonder if sex will be as important to me in 10, 15 years and most importantly, I want my sonto have the loving, two parent household that I never had. So here I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Smaller?" So his cock is too small for you?

If I had my choice, it would be bigger. Much bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again (I was PP) - what I'm asking is - were you ever sexually attracted to your spouse or did you marry someone you weren't really sexually attracted to. If the latter is true, I think years in that situation could make one feel
asexual when it's not necessarily the case.

Yes and this has been the bigger mistake of my life. We dated for 7 years before marrying and if I'm bein perfectly honest, I was never sexually attracted to him. He was smaller, less experienced and not as adventurous as previous partners. BUT, he was/is a GOOD MAN who has always treated me well. He is a good provider, a wonderful father and and awesome friend.

But here we are..10 years later and im wondering how much longer I can continue to do this. He has "problems" so our sex life is practically non-existent. We are both early 30's, attractive and fit. I have cheated on him several times over the years and will probably have to continue if I stay in this marriage.

If only I could press rewind....

Wow, you're a terrible person. Your "good provider, wonderful father and awesome friend" is at risk of cuckoldry and deadly STD's because you have no morals. I hope he finds out as soon as possible and he can find a woman who respects him.

My feelings are hurt...really :-/

I highly doubt that he could find a woman who has been everything I have been to him and be happy in a sexless marriage.