Horrifying day as a parent

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Anonymous wrote:Sad. However, 3 year old on the monkey bars mom? That is not a smart idea at all. You could not have been spotting or had your hands tightly gripped on the child if another kid could actually knock the child off the monkey bars. 3 is VERY young to be on the monkey bars even with supervision and this is probably why.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital, would you lay the fuck off?

OP I hope you go back to the park and try to find that boy and his parents and let them know what he caused.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital and she is on DCUM. GASP.

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Anonymous wrote:I just hope the mother of the evil boy saw this happening.

"Evil" boy? That's a bit harsh, I think.

OP, I'm sorry about this. Truly traumatic for your whole family and I trust that you and she will both be OK.

NP, here. I do not think evil is too harsh; perhaps we could compromise on "criminal".

Really? Do you even know how old the child was? Do you think the child was acting like a criminal if the child was like 5? Oh yea, let us charge the child.

5 years old is old enough to know not to violently push another child from a high place. If my DC did that, I would be making calls to a child psychiatrist.

[Anonymous]

Neighbor reporting in. . .

Everyone is okay. Mom is putting the twins down for the night. She left this page up on her laptop. My plan is to make her dinner, and open a bottle of red wine. Dad is still at the hospital. There is some swelling on the back of the head that they want to monitor.

I haven't read all of the posts, but I do know that she doesn't plan on pursuing the matter with the other kid. I might do something different, but it is not my call. They were at Foundry Park, and the playground attracts all ages.

My friend will surely read this thread during the week, and will appreciate your good wishes.

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Anonymous wrote:My nephew deliberately pushed a small child off the top of a playground, and broke the little one's arm. He was not punished or reprimanded, because he had been diagnosed as bipolar when he was five. He's much older now, and he is engaging in far more serious dangerous behaviors.

If the OP is able to identify the child who did this, it is not necessary to involve the legal system, but it would benefit the child to see the consequences of impulsive behavior and be given a chance to apologize and feel empathy.

My nephew shows no capacity for empathy, and has never apologized for anything. It's frightening.

Um, your has a diagnosed mental disorder. What makes you think it's applicable to this situation?

And forcing a child to apologize does not suddenly make him feel empathy.

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We don't the whole story WRT the boy. Was he a lot older? Big for his age and not really older? Did he realize he shoved the little kid, it likely was not a premedatated act, but an awful accident.

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DN (dear neighbor) - Thanks for the update. Please tell the family our thoughts and prayers are with them.

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Good lord people. Put down the pitchforks and torches, put away your armchair psychology degrees, and get a grip. Y'all are jumping to an awful lot of conclusions here.

To the OP, I hope your daughter is on the mend soon.

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Anonymous wrote:Neighbor reporting in. . .

Everyone is okay. Mom is putting the twins down for the night. She left this page up on her laptop. My plan is to make her dinner, and open a bottle of red wine. Dad is still at the hospital. There is some swelling on the back of the head that they want to monitor.

I haven't read all of the posts, but I do know that she doesn't plan on pursuing the matter with the other kid. I might do something different, but it is not my call. They were at Foundry Park, and the playground attracts all ages.

My friend will surely read this thread during the week, and will appreciate your good wishes.

A bit creepy....you should not be on her laptop.

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I am not trying to come across as a total asshole, but the wine might not be a good idea. I know dad is in the hospital right now, but IF her daughter ends up having a concussion or other issues, she might want to be sober and alert. I know we are probably talking about a glass of wine... but still.

OP wishing you all the best! I honestly would be furious about what happened, I truly hope the boy who pushed her realizes the consequences of his behavior. (if he can't because of an illness, I truly hope his caregiver realizes the consequences of his behavior!)

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OP, I hope your child recovers fully. I don't understand the hysteria against the other child by all the DCUMS who didn't even witness what happened. Kids fall all the time at playgrounds - mine did, broke his arm 2 weeks after I gave birth to his sibling. When we went to the hospital, it was filled with other kids, with (mostly, god willing) minor injuries from similar accidents. Key word here is accident - because that's what almost all of these sorts of incidents are, kids don't have much capacity to form intent and deliberately foresee the consequences of their actions.

And no one should be blaming anyone here, I have to admit that I also had the same reaction when I read your description as another PP: 3yo on monkey bars? I assume that was a mistype. OP, go to sleep and please turn off this page. I love this forum, but it's never the place to be when you're mid-crisis.

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Can everyone please lay off the assholery, at least for this thread, at least for 24 hours?

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Anonymous wrote:Neighbor reporting in. . .

Everyone is okay. Mom is putting the twins down for the night. She left this page up on her laptop. My plan is to make her dinner, and open a bottle of red wine. Dad is still at the hospital. There is some swelling on the back of the head that they want to monitor.

I haven't read all of the posts, but I do know that she doesn't plan on pursuing the matter with the other kid. I might do something different, but it is not my call. They were at Foundry Park, and the playground attracts all ages.

My friend will surely read this thread during the week, and will appreciate your good wishes.

A bit creepy....you should not be on her laptop.

I disagree. I have read this entire thread. It seems that the neighbor reached out after reading a post she recognized, and couldn't reach her friend via phone, so posted here. It all seems to have worked out, and the neighbor was just giving an update.

In my mind, this is DCUM at its best.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad. However, 3 year old on the monkey bars mom? That is not a smart idea at all. You could not have been spotting or had your hands tightly gripped on the child if another kid could actually knock the child off the monkey bars. 3 is VERY young to be on the monkey bars even with supervision and this is probably why.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital, would you lay the fuck off?

OP I hope you go back to the park and try to find that boy and his parents and let them know what he caused.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital and she is on DCUM. GASP.

You're a fucking bitch. What's OP supposed to be doing while she waits to hear from her DH? Put on a hair shirt and self flagellate? Be shopping online for a tazer so that the next rowdy older child who so much as looks at her DD the wrong way will get what's coming to him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to come across as a total asshole, but the wine might not be a good idea. I know dad is in the hospital right now, but IF her daughter ends up having a concussion or other issues, she might want to be sober and alert. I know we are probably talking about a glass of wine... but still.

OP wishing you all the best! I honestly would be furious about what happened, I truly hope the boy who pushed her realizes the consequences of his behavior. (if he can't because of an illness, I truly hope his caregiver realizes the consequences of his behavior!)

Not sure if asshole is the right word, but you do sound like a total prig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad. However, 3 year old on the monkey bars mom? That is not a smart idea at all. You could not have been spotting or had your hands tightly gripped on the child if another kid could actually knock the child off the monkey bars. 3 is VERY young to be on the monkey bars even with supervision and this is probably why.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital, would you lay the fuck off?

OP I hope you go back to the park and try to find that boy and his parents and let them know what he caused.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital and she is on DCUM. GASP.

You're a fucking bitch. What's OP supposed to be doing while she waits to hear from her DH? Put on a hair shirt and self flagellate? Be shopping online for a tazer so that the next rowdy older child who so much as looks at her DD the wrong way will get what's coming to him?

I know that when was at my wits end, and couldn't do anything but sit at the computer and reach out to strangers, it worked for me. The OP couldn't go anywhere or do anything. She had sleeping kids at home.