Anyone experience jealousy or friendship problems because your child got into AAP?

[Anonymous]

Glanced at the catalog. Got to the school lunches section, and they spelled "approximately" wrong. Jeesh, edit much? It's one thing to have typos on the Internet and quite another on a school catalog.

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Anonymous wrote:The strangest parents we ever encountered were Asian parents of Orchestra students. All the kids were in AAP and advanced orchestra.

They paid no attention and talked to each other when the less advanced groups played. No applause. Then when their kids started to play they rushed the stage with cameras and video recorders, and clapped at the end like it was the frigging Philharmonic.

It really was a cultural thing. They hadn't a clue that such total indifference to other children is considered rude. I'm sure the next generation will act like other Americans.

Nothing we saw during sports events was remotely as weird.

Longfellow course catalog:
http://www.fcps.edu/LongfellowMS/pages/2011-2012LMSCourseCatalog.pdf

And then there is TJHSST.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Glanced at the catalog. Got to the school lunches section, and they spelled "approximately" wrong. Jeesh, edit much? It's one thing to have typos on the Internet and quite another on a school catalog.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The strangest parents we ever encountered were Asian parents of Orchestra students. All the kids were in AAP and advanced orchestra.

They paid no attention and talked to each other when the less advanced groups played. No applause. Then when their kids started to play they rushed the stage with cameras and video recorders, and clapped at the end like it was the frigging Philharmonic.

It really was a cultural thing. They hadn't a clue that such total indifference to other children is considered rude. I'm sure the next generation will act like other Americans.

Nothing we saw during sports events was remotely as weird.

Longfellow course catalog:
http://www.fcps.edu/LongfellowMS/pages/2011-2012LMSCourseCatalog.pdf

And then there is TJHSST.

honest question - does that catalog have anything to do with strange Asian parents??? help me see the relevance. tks.

[Anonymous]

Who said this was at Longfellow anyway?

[Anonymous]

I'm so confused.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, all these posts from AAP parents and their attitudes, makes me want to consider pulling mine from AAP. Children have different strengths and weaknesses. We purposefully did not make a big thing about it to our ds.

You are reading extremist comments on an anonymous message board about AAP and you have absolutely no idea if the posters really have kids in AAP but it "makes me want to consider pulling mine from AAP"?!? Dramatic much?

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I was joking of course, did you really think I was going to pull my child based on a DCUM thread? I will say, I told my son that being in AAP is not something he goes around bragging about, which is exactly what I have seen with some parents. What do people expect, a pat on the back? I have seen this already in 4th grade with children as well, "why is so and so not in AAP", etc. What I am trying to avoid, is my child forming an opinion that he is better than someone, just due to his academic status. We stress to all of our children that they all have strengths and weaknesses, as do all people. I have found that with 3 children of my own, who have such academic, athletic, creative differences, I know it is not just parenting/genetics that contributes to academic success. Just an opinion.

Fair enough. It's fine to instill in our AAP children to be humble and focus on the work, not bragging about it. It should be that way to all children who are gifted in some way (athletically, artistically, socially). It's important also that we don't downplay it so much that our children think that being acadmically strong is not something cool. It is.

[Anonymous]

Also, all parents should grow up and understand that every child needs to have their accomplishments acknowledged. Whatever it is.

My friend with child with learning disabilities congratulated me on my child's acceptance in AAP. I in turn congratulated her on her son's making an all star team in his sport. We even went and cheered for him. We support him in his endeavors 100%.

It's a two way street. We don't know if the OP was supportive of the friend's child's accomplishment. But if she was, and the friend still doesn't acknowledge anything about the OP's child, then I could see where she would be hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, all parents should grow up and understand that every child needs to have their accomplishments acknowledged. Whatever it is.

My friend with child with learning disabilities congratulated me on my child's acceptance in AAP. I in turn congratulated her on her son's making an all star team in his sport. We even went and cheered for him. We support him in his endeavors 100%.

It's a two way street. We don't know if the OP was supportive of the friend's child's accomplishment. But if she was, and the friend still doesn't acknowledge anything about the OP's child, then I could see where she would be hurt.

If there was no AAP, would you have expected to receive congratulations because your child got put in the advanced reading group in Mrs. Hinklebottom's class? What is it that is so special about an AAP placement that it warrants special recognition? Did you get too many gold ribbons as a child, or not enough?

[Anonymous]

13:59 - it is parents like you, with a gigantic chip on their shoulder (but so quick to try to deflect!) that corrupts your own children and makes them not have any friends. Stay away from our schools, AAP or not. You are the type of person who is not happy unless you are bullying and/or complaining and/or interfering unproductively somehow (and pretending you are not). You are bothering the teachers with your petty issues and clogging the system with things that simply do not matter. Get a job or get help, but stop bothering our schools. Let each children (and parent be), for crying out loud. Hell, try yoga. But just stop your insanity. We are sorry you are so down on yourself, but stop being so caustic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:59 - it is parents like you, with a gigantic chip on their shoulder (but so quick to try to deflect!) that corrupts your own children and makes them not have any friends. Stay away from our schools, AAP or not. You are the type of person who is not happy unless you are bullying and/or complaining and/or interfering unproductively somehow (and pretending you are not). You are bothering the teachers with your petty issues and clogging the system with things that simply do not matter. Get a job or get help, but stop bothering our schools. Let each children (and parent be), for crying out loud. Hell, try yoga. But just stop your insanity. We are sorry you are so down on yourself, but stop being so caustic.

My children have lots of friends, and so do we. We cheer for everyone, but don't expect to be congratulated when our kids are put in advanced classes or win a tournament. It sounds like you keep a ledger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

If there was no AAP, would you have expected to receive congratulations because your child got put in the advanced reading group in Mrs. Hinklebottom's class? What is it that is so special about an AAP placement that it warrants special recognition? Did you get too many gold ribbons as a child, or not enough?

Don't compare a child who makes a top reading group to a child who makes AAP. Its false equivalence. Clearly you know nothing about AAP and how a child is selected.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I told my son to be nice to EVERYONE in his grade, regardless of whether they are in AAP or not (my son is in AAP). As I told him, it might be a reason to tease kids now (which was happening last year in 3rd grade), but in a few years those teased kids are going to be picking on the nerdy GT kids and it is better to be their friend.

I can't wait to see the messages from other AAP parents that will insist that their kids are so special and will be the most popular kids in the school.

[Anonymous]

Wow, why am I not surprised at some of the bitterness on here? You can't brown nose your way into AAP.

[Anonymous]

AAP has nothing to do with popularity. Is your issue with popular kids or AAP kids or both? Not everyone will be your friend, and not everyone is in AAP. So what? Shouldn't you as the adult know and teach this to your own children and be minding your own children? It seems PP is deflecting their many issues onto their child/ren. Really, concentrate on something productive, but don't try to bully other children and/or parents through the teachers and admin. It will only backfire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I told my son to be nice to EVERYONE in his grade, regardless of whether they are in AAP or not (my son is in AAP). As I told him, it might be a reason to tease kids now (which was happening last year in 3rd grade), but in a few years those teased kids are going to be picking on the nerdy GT kids and it is better to be their friend.

I can't wait to see the messages from other AAP parents that will insist that their kids are so special and will be the most popular kids in the school.

I think it's nice that you spoke to your son. Not so sure about the message, though. A non-AAP kid might catch up with an AAP kid academically in a few years, or might pick on a "nerdy GT kid" next week if teased. It seemed as if you have a very clear expectation as to how the GT and non-GT kids are going to progress through life.

It can be pretty rough on GT kids if the message they get from their parents is that "you are a GT kid and always will be." When they do hit challenges - and they will at some point - you run the risk that they'll feel like an imposter.

This isn't a flame - just intended as food for thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I told my son to be nice to EVERYONE in his grade, regardless of whether they are in AAP or not (my son is in AAP). As I told him, it might be a reason to tease kids now (which was happening last year in 3rd grade), but in a few years those teased kids are going to be picking on the nerdy GT kids and it is better to be their friend.

I can't wait to see the messages from other AAP parents that will insist that their kids are so special and will be the most popular kids in the school.

I think it's nice that you spoke to your son. Not so sure about the message, though. A non-AAP kid might catch up with an AAP kid academically in a few years, or might pick on a "nerdy GT kid" next week if teased. It seemed as if you have a very clear expectation as to how the GT and non-GT kids are going to progress through life.

It can be pretty rough on GT kids if the message they get from their parents is that "you are a GT kid and always will be." When they do hit challenges - and they will at some point - you run the risk that they'll feel like an imposter.

This isn't a flame - just intended as food for thought.

you're wasting your time with 11:57