Anyone experience jealousy or friendship problems because your child got into AAP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
you're wasting your time with 11:57

Wow. That's really snarky. ITA with the 11:57 comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, all parents should grow up and understand that every child needs to have their accomplishments acknowledged. Whatever it is.

My friend with child with learning disabilities congratulated me on my child's acceptance in AAP. I in turn congratulated her on her son's making an all star team in his sport. We even went and cheered for him. We support him in his endeavors 100%.

It's a two way street. We don't know if the OP was supportive of the friend's child's accomplishment. But if she was, and the friend still doesn't acknowledge anything about the OP's child, then I could see where she would be hurt.

If there was no AAP, would you have expected to receive congratulations because your child got put in the advanced reading group in Mrs. Hinklebottom's class? What is it that is so special about an AAP placement that it warrants special recognition? Did you get too many gold ribbons as a child, or not enough?

Totally agree with this post.

[Anonymous]

16:09 Which part do you agree with? The first part, or the part that shows that the preson who replied knows absolutely nothing about how difficult it is to get into AAP and is comparing it to something that is no comparison?

AAP is a great achievement that in no way, shape or form compare to making a top reading group in a class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16:09 Which part do you agree with? The first part, or the part that shows that the preson who replied knows absolutely nothing about how difficult it is to get into AAP and is comparing it to something that is no comparison?

AAP is a great achievement that in no way, shape or form compare to making a top reading group in a class.

I hope the OP has sorted things out with her friend by now, because I don't think comments from the likes of 16:45 are going to help her much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16:09 Which part do you agree with? The first part, or the part that shows that the preson who replied knows absolutely nothing about how difficult it is to get into AAP and is comparing it to something that is no comparison?

AAP is a great achievement that in no way, shape or form compare to making a top reading group in a class.

LOL, isn't it something like the top 15%? BFD.

[Anonymous]

No sense in arguing with those who don't get it.

OP, any follow ups?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16:09 Which part do you agree with? The first part, or the part that shows that the preson who replied knows absolutely nothing about how difficult it is to get into AAP and is comparing it to something that is no comparison?

AAP is a great achievement that in no way, shape or form compare to making a top reading group in a class.

16:09 here. I have a child in AAP. As far as how difficult it is to get in, well, for us, we went through the county process, did not get any additional testing, did not prep him for the school tests (to be honest, I did not even know when they took, them) etc. so for us, short of collecting a few letters, and work samples, I did not find the process difficult. Am I proud that my son is in AAP, sure, but more than anything, I am happy that he is getting the challenge he needs.

Do I think I deserve a medal, or a pat on the back from anyone? Not particularly. That was the point of the reading group comparison I agreed with.

I have always encouraged my children to do their best, and try to help them to the best of my ability. I assume my friends have their children's best interests at heart just as I do. Anyone who expects a friend to congratulate them about AAP acceptance, when they themselves were hoping for the same and did not get in, is just insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The strangest parents we ever encountered were Asian parents of Orchestra students. All the kids were in AAP and advanced orchestra.

They paid no attention and talked to each other when the less advanced groups played. No applause. Then when their kids started to play they rushed the stage with cameras and video recorders, and clapped at the end like it was the frigging Philharmonic.

It really was a cultural thing. They hadn't a clue that such total indifference to other children is considered rude. I'm sure the next generation will act like other Americans.

Nothing we saw during sports events was remotely as weird.

I'm an Asian with kids in AAP. Not sure about the overall atmosphere of the event, but that's not a cultural thing. I don't recognize it.
That's just plain rude. Common sense.

[Anonymous]

So if your child DID get into AP - how would you normally share this news with your good friends? I guess this is not the kind of thing I would normally tell anyone except her grandparents. Not going to put "So proud little Susie got into AAP" on my FB or something. Next thing you know I'd be on the narcissistic FB thread on DCUM....

[Anonymous]

So if your child DID get into AP - how would you normally share this news with your good friends? I guess this is not the kind of thing I would normally tell anyone except her grandparents. Not going to put "So proud little Susie got into AAP" on my FB or something. Next thing you know I'd be on the narcissistic FB thread on DCUM....

Right on! "Hey everybody, my child is in the top 15 percent of students", shouted from the roof tops. Followed by, "and all of those other students in my child's AAP class are frauds who were pushed into the program by their rampaging egotistical parents who are destroying the program for my child and the other true geniuses."

Just pathetic. I'd love to know the identity of the person posting all of this deranged stuff about AAP in this forum just so I can avoid them.

[Anonymous]

The irony is that if the complainers got into AAP, they WOULD be shouting it from the rooftops! I know no one in AAP who has breathed one word about it. It is not a topic of conversation.

If you need something to talk about PP, how about current events? History? World Politics? Leave my kid out of it.

There is at least one really, really bitter anti-AAP poster on here. I hope the administration knows who it is. Something tells me they do

Do your kid a favor and stop telling them how inept and unacceptable you think they are by your dwelling unnecessarily on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The irony is that if the complainers got into AAP, they WOULD be shouting it from the rooftops! I know no one in AAP who has breathed one word about it. It is not a topic of conversation.

If you need something to talk about PP, how about current events? History? World Politics? Leave my kid out of it.

There is at least one really, really bitter anti-AAP poster on here. I hope the administration knows who it is. Something tells me they do

Do your kid a favor and stop telling them how inept and unacceptable you think they are by your dwelling unnecessarily on this.

Well the biggest topic for parents is the kids and their education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, all these posts from AAP parents and their attitudes, makes me want to consider pulling mine from AAP. Children have different strengths and weaknesses. We purposefully did not make a big thing about it to our ds.

Nothing's wrong with praising or complementing your kids strength.

If your DS was good at singing, wouldn't you praise her that she is such a good singer with beautiful voice?
If your DS was good at art or sports, wouldn't you give her compliment how good she is?
Or would you purposely pretend you are indifferent of your kids natural talent + effort?

Nothing's wrong with some acknowledgment and encouragement of your kids smartness.
You just need to be careful not over do it, and teach them to respect others.

[Anonymous]

Earlier in this thread some poster(s) said, maybe the friend wonders why OP didn't tell the friend directly. Maybe friend is unhappy because she had to overhear a conversation to find out.

SO, if you are supposed to TELL your friends, but as another poster said, "AP is not discussed", how do you win here? Hide the fact that your kid changed school? Ignore it? Only talk about politics and the weather, really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SO, if you are supposed to TELL your friends, but as another poster said, "AP is not discussed", how do you win here? Hide the fact that your kid changed school? Ignore it? Only talk about politics and the weather, really?

"Billy's going to Haycock this year. He gets out of school 15 minutes later as they have a later start bell. I wonder how that will affect him getting to soccer practice on time? Is Bobby going to play soccer again this year? Maybe we could carpool."