Anyone experience jealousy or friendship problems because your child got into AAP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Earlier in this thread some poster(s) said, maybe the friend wonders why OP didn't tell the friend directly. Maybe friend is unhappy because she had to overhear a conversation to find out.

SO, if you are supposed to TELL your friends, but as another poster said, "AP is not discussed", how do you win here? Hide the fact that your kid changed school? Ignore it? Only talk about politics and the weather, really?

Well, if your child makes the pool or gets accepted....you certainly don't go around the neighborhood with a T SHIRT that says MY KID MADE THE AAP POOL or MY KID MADE AAP! Facebook is a definite NO-NO. AP is not discussed amongst casual acquaintances, but close friends certainly do discuss.

That's why I wonder if the OP's friend is all that close. If this friend is having a problem with the OP, I would hope she'd say so so they could clear the air. A close friend would ask "How did your kid do on the tests/pool/acceptance? I did have close friends who's children did not make the pool or final acceptance AAP when mine did. One lost her appeal. All had no problem asking me about dd and congratulating us when dd was accepted. All are still friends. All kids still play with each other after school and on weekends.

People do ask "what teacher did your child get" just before the school year. You can certainly give a low key " Junior is going to have Mrs. Finklehiggen at Farklestar Elementary".

[Anonymous]

OP I think you are making a mountain out of what may be nothing. So what, she turned around? Give her time. Maybe she turned around for another reason. Maybe she hasn't congratulated you because um...she has a parent newly diagnosed with cancer or she just lost her job or her nephew was just diagnosed with severe regressive autism or she's having marital problems or she's having health issues herself or she is busy following all the crises going on throughout the world. I think you need to take a step back and realize people face real challenges and there's a good chance this isn't about you. If it is about you and she is jealous so what? Let her have her feeling and be the bigger person.

Also, calm down about AAP. I tested gifted and went to an ivy and so did my siblings. Guess what? Our fellow "gifted" folk are no happier in life and no more successful with careers or personal life than those who *gasp* did not test out gifted or who struggled with LDs. Also, we were all good test takers and people pleasers. In reality we were no more gifted than anyone else. Everyone has gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Also, calm down about AAP. I tested gifted and went to an ivy and so did my siblings. Guess what? Our fellow "gifted" folk are no happier in life and no more successful with careers or personal life than those who *gasp* did not test out gifted or who struggled with LDs. Also, we were all good test takers and people pleasers. In reality we were no more gifted than anyone else. Everyone has gifts.

Of course...

Around top 10-15% 'proven' smartness is just another gift as other gifts such as in arts, music, sports, etc, etc... Nothing different.
Same thing as your kid made into varsity football team. Just need to treat it the same.

On the other hand, no need to intentionally ignore it or act like it's nothing.
Nothings wrong with parents feel good about discovering any type of gift kids got, and be proud of their children.
Nothing's wrong with giving them words of encouragements and compliments.
Of course you want to teach your kids that everyone has different gifts and to respect others at the same time.
Nothing different, nothing new.

[Anonymous]

Only daily self-loathing because my kids are smart than yours...

[Anonymous]

smart(er)