Curious - are posters on this forum "unfriendly" because they are anonymous..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If uou don't like it, don't read it. How difficult is that to understand?

Because she inserts herself in any and all discussions related to parenting or educating gifted children. She also takes every opportunity to post degrading comments about these parents. She scans the boards looking for us and then starts up. I can't get away from her; she is a stalker.

My only requests are to live and let live, give people the benefit of the doubt, and to please don't feel the need to try and shame people into silence.

Introspection's not your strong suit, is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If uou don't like it, don't read it. How difficult is that to understand?

Because she inserts herself in any and all discussions related to parenting or educating gifted children. She also takes every opportunity to post degrading comments about these parents. She scans the boards looking for us and then starts up. I can't get away from her; she is a stalker.

My only requests are to live and let live, give people the benefit of the doubt, and to please don't feel the need to try and shame people into silence.

Introspection's not your strong suit, is it?

I take it you support the idea of vigilantes policing this forum and putting an end to discussions they deem unsavory?

You do realize this behavior will likely turn new people away from the boards? Maybe that would make you happy but I'm pretty sure that the owners of the site would rather expand the community rather than restrict it.

[Anonymous]

No, I just find it hard to distinguish between the anti-vigilante vigilantes and the vigilantes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I just find it hard to distinguish between the anti-vigilante vigilantes and the vigilantes.

Please be assured that the irony hasn't escaped me.

I just want her to leave these parents alone and try to stop drumming up support for her mission to silence them.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I think that the more effective way to prevent voices from being silenced is to be supportive of the poster(s) who got slammed (rather than slamming the slammer which just perpetuates the cycle). Letting people know that someone appreciates what they've said and/or agrees can go far toward keeping them engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, I think that the more effective way to prevent voices from being silenced is to be supportive of the poster(s) who got slammed (rather than slamming the slammer which just perpetuates the cycle). Letting people know that someone appreciates what they've said and/or agrees can go far toward keeping them engaged.

Great advice! In practice in can be difficult because supportive posters will likely get slammed too and it can derail any meaningful discussion eventually.

But, it's definitely one of the best ways we have to encourage all parents to freely share their thoughts and I will certainly take your advice to heart.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it sounds like everyone has agreed to disagree (in a civil manner)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's.just.like.high.school.

Speaking of HS I do notice most posters feel free to write about HS and some denigrate posts by actual HS er parents. Clueless.

[Anonymous]

14:01 here. I haven't posted since last night, but I feel I need to respond to the accusations of harassment and stalking.

On the IQ=130 thread there was at least one other poster besides me, I believe two other posters, who criticized the behavior of parents of gifted kids.

I first pointed out that someone (you?) revealed her kid's IQ is 155 twice on the same page of the thread. The discussion quickly broadened into a debate re whether parents of gifted kids share in the blame for why this topic can't be discussed on DCUM and, as I said, there were others sharing my view that both sides are to blame. YOU seemed to want to continue the discussion for 3+ pages, to deny that parents of gifted kids are equally guilty. This is NOT harassment, it's a debate you apparently wanted to have.

Also, I do not "stalk" gifted threads. I have a personal interest in the subject because my kids are now both in MoCo magnets, after having done private. Also, you were arguing against several people, not just against me, on the IQ=130 thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:01 here. I haven't posted since last night, but I feel I need to respond to the accusations of harassment and stalking.

On the IQ=130 thread there was at least one other poster besides me, I believe two other posters, who criticized the behavior of parents of gifted kids.

I first pointed out that someone (you?) revealed her kid's IQ is 155 twice on the same page of the thread. The discussion quickly broadened into a debate re whether parents of gifted kids share in the blame for why this topic can't be discussed on DCUM and, as I said, there were others sharing my view that both sides are to blame. YOU seemed to want to continue the discussion for 3+ pages, to deny that parents of gifted kids are equally guilty. This is NOT harassment, it's a debate you apparently wanted to have.

Also, I do not "stalk" gifted threads. I have a personal interest in the subject because my kids are now both in MoCo magnets, after having done private. Also, you were arguing against several people, not just against me, on the IQ=130 thread.

No, it wasn't me who stated my child's IQ. I was one of the posters defending the 155 IQ poster. I haven't ever stated an IQ score on these boards because I know better but people new to these forums may not realize it's a sensitive subject and should be given the benefit of the doubt rather than "called out" on it. After all that drama over there I was pretty dismayed to see that without any new provocation you decided to refer to us as "smug" and pretty much state that you have decided that it's your calling on these boards to put us in our place because someone has to do it. Just let it be.....a parent of a preschooler just hasn't figured all this out yet and deserves the benefit of the doubt.

[Anonymous]

New poster here. OP, your goals are noble, but you aren't the first person who has tried to reason with the problem poster. The issue seems to be more mental health than manners.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. To me, it seems like calling someone who disagrees with you a "stalker" or "harasser" is, as you yourself have said, "bad for the DCUM community.

[Anonymous]

"New poster here. OP, your goals are noble, but you aren't the first person who has tried to reason with the problem poster. The issue seems to be more mental health than manners."

While we're critizing bad posting behavior, can we condemn the "mental health" slurs? You see this all too frequently on DCUM, as a cheap way to dismiss opposing opinions (and usually right after calling someone a stalker). It's just a step above "you must have forgotten your meds today." It doesn't belong on a forum frequented by adults.

[Anonymous]

"While we're critizing bad posting behavior, can we condemn the "mental health" slurs? You see this all too frequently on DCUM, as a cheap way to dismiss opposing opinions (and usually right after calling someone a stalker). It's just a step above "you must have forgotten your meds today." It doesn't belong on a forum frequented by adults. "

Dunno about that, but there are some posters who really, really need to get laid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. To me, it seems like calling someone who disagrees with you a "stalker" or "harasser" is, as you yourself have said, "bad for the DCUM community.

I disagree with you but you are not a stalker or harasser. You are simply someone who has an opinion I don't agree with.

14:01 stated that she posted that the 155 IQ poster stated the IQ score twice in one thread. This is not an opinion or idea to disagree with. This was a way to "call out" the perceived smugness of that other poster. It brought no value to the conversation and did derail it.