Curious - are posters on this forum "unfriendly" because they are anonymous..

[Anonymous]

Some posters, as a PP indicated, comment on the hypocrisy, rudeness, jealousy and other such human failings they read in other people's postings. That is okay.

Similarly, it is fine for other posters to comment in ways that may appear self-centered, imperious, rude or "snarky" to others.

In the end, one hopes that the community allows for healthy venting of all sorts of problems, questions, life issues, opinions, insecurities and (dare I say it) neuroses we face.

And that as a result all people can be better, nicer and happier with/to each other as we move through our everyday lives.

Think of it as an inexpensive form of therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: 14:01 here. I seem to have struck a nerve. ....
Go ahead, flame away. I really don't care what obnoxious people like 15:55 and 16:15 have to say about me, because their obnoxious posts tell you everything you need to know about them.

While I've generally appreciated (what I take to be) your interventions, there is a point at which you start risking becoming (or resembling) what you deplore (e.g. when you fight fire with fire, so to speak). You're veering close here.

Maybe the way to avoid that is to identify the problem once (which I think you do quite clearly) and then remember that if the response you get is obviously obnoxious, other people will recognize that without you telling them. And that if the response you get is obnoxious (vs. say apologetic or defensive), then the person you're dealing with is now deliberately being a jerk .and there's no longer any realistic hope that your intervention will lead to that poster's enlightenment or reform.

[Anonymous]

14:01 has deemed herself judge, jury, and executioner. I don't think this is ever a good thing. I think it's far healthier and more productive to give people the benefit of the doubt. Most folks are just trying to get advice and share information and don't need to be harrassed.

I tried to reason with her on the other thread (my child tested at 131, now what?) and instead of just letting it be she's decided to bring it up again on another thread I assume with the hopes of getting support from another audience.

I know these threads are anonymous but it's pretty clear this is the same person.

I'm asking 14:01 to please just live and let live. Enjoy the topics on these boards that interest you and ignore the ones that don't. I swear that no one benefits from your judgement. You're just hurting feelings and your intentions are misguided.

[Anonymous]

She critiques, you critique. No one is executed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She critiques, you critique. No one is executed.

It is a figure of speech of course. Her execution is blasting someone for their perceived slight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I tried to reason with her on the other thread (my child tested at 131, now what?) and instead of just letting it be she's decided to bring it up again on another thread I assume with the hopes of getting support from another audience.

Wait, haven't you just done the same thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I tried to reason with her on the other thread (my child tested at 131, now what?) and instead of just letting it be she's decided to bring it up again on another thread I assume with the hopes of getting support from another audience.

Wait, haven't you just done the same thing?

No because I didn't decide to bring it up again on another thread. I'm not out to get anyone and I have not decided what should or should not be posted on these boards. She's trying to censor discussions by shaming others into silence. Don't you see how this is a bad thing for this community or any community?

What I decided to do was try to insert a voice of reason in response to her assertion. Do you see the difference?

Maybe a better way to go about trying to get the harrassment to end is to report all the unnecesarily nasty posts and hopefully a pattern will emerge and will be dealt with as the moderators see fit.

[Anonymous]

If uou don't like it, don't read it. How difficult is that to understand?

[Anonymous]

No, honestly, I don't see the difference.

You chastised her on a different thread and when you were unsatisfied with the outcome there, you brought the incident up here.

And each of you thinks you're doing what's necessary and appropriate to make DCUM better/more civil.

[Anonymous]

It's.just.like.high.school.

[Anonymous]

"I think we should have free discussions on a wide range of issues - and we should discourage the jerks who distract us from the substance of the discussions. "

God, what a pretentious asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If uou don't like it, don't read it. How difficult is that to understand?

Because she inserts herself in any and all discussions related to parenting or educating gifted children. She also takes every opportunity to post degrading comments about these parents. She scans the boards looking for us and then starts up. I can't get away from her; she is a stalker.

My only requests are to live and let live, give people the benefit of the doubt, and to please don't feel the need to try and shame people into silence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I think we should have free discussions on a wide range of issues - and we should discourage the jerks who distract us from the substance of the discussions. "

God, what a pretentious asshole.

That's sarcasm, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, honestly, I don't see the difference.

You chastised her on a different thread and when you were unsatisfied with the outcome there, you brought the incident up here.

And each of you thinks you're doing what's necessary and appropriate to make DCUM better/more civil.

I didn't chastise her. I tried to reason with her so that hopefully she would leave us alone.

[Anonymous]

Okay, it's the peacemaker here again. Please stop this back-and-forth on whether people should express irritating or annoying viewpoints on this site.

One more time, as long as nothing truly hateful, vile, dangerous or inflammatory gets posted, then why should we much care if one person posts comments that appear self-absorbed or braggy, and another poster responds with comments which appear snarky or condescending. That's the whole point of this site, isn't it, to interact like a large and slightly dysfunctional "family"?