asking for money for hosting teens tacky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s tacky to ask. If it were just one or two friends, it would be. But seven 17 year olds for five nights? That’s a lot of food.

Then don't invite 7!

I don’t know, it sounds more like 8 kids are lucky to have a free beach house to use for their own trip. Not so much that they’re invited guests of the OP. (Even though she worded it that way. I have a 17 year old and that’s how I’d see it.)

Not lucky. She wants them to entertain her kids.

[Anonymous]

It is tacky to do. Plus you must be very wealthy to even offer to do this because feeding this many for so long would fund a whole vacation for most people! That being said the families should send their dcs with money, or clear instructions to offer to pay for some things at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please let us know how this goes. I would be happy to pay for my kid to join you. It's all about the way you phrase it. Maybe:

Sending this along since a few of you have asked. if you are inclined, please either send snacks or Venmo funds to xxx for meals/snacks. Please let me know if your boys have any dietary restrictions.

This! It’s perfect.

[Anonymous]

It is tacky to ask.

Here's what I would do: Keep your meals simple and basic. Know that they will probably go out A LOT. (My kids are this age and it drives me crazy, but this is what they do.)

At least a few of the families will probably ask you if they can send something. Say yes. Suggest snacks, or a case of water, or a couple of boxes of cereal. Protein bars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were talking last night and I’d love a third-party perspective.

Our 17-year-old son is planning to have around 7 friends stay at our beach house for five nights this summer, and we’re more than happy to host. I’ll plan on having breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the boys (and probably ordering pizza one night), plus having snacks around etc… though I’m sure the boys will also grab food when they’re out.

My question is: would it be tacky to ask each parent to Venmo a small amount to help cover food for the week? If so, how much I am leaning towards yes. DH brought it up- I wouldn’t think twice about covering it if it were a one-time thing, but last summer we had kids in and out nearly every weekend. I love having the kids there and am always happy to have extra kids around so I don’t want this to imply any different.

Yes, it’s tacky. If you cannot host them, don’t had them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please let us know how this goes. I would be happy to pay for my kid to join you. It's all about the way you phrase it. Maybe:

Sending this along since a few of you have asked. if you are inclined, please either send snacks or Venmo funds to xxx for meals/snacks. Please let me know if your boys have any dietary restrictions.

This! It’s perfect.

Another "this is perfect"
But I'm still hung up on the OP. She said if it was a one-time thing it's no problem. It does sound like a one-time thing, no? Or are you extrapolating from last summer when it was every weekend. Will it be the same 7 boys every weekend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its tacky to ask. Its also tacky of their parents not to offer to Venmo you a contribution.

It’s tacky to ask for money! It’s not tacky to NOT offer to pay. Many people would be offended if you suggest they cannot pay to host you or your kid. It’s the same as asking for a contribution when you invite someone to a wedding.

[Anonymous]

OP and her husband are graciously hosting. No parent would blink twice at this request. I would keep it $100 and under. Just enough to offset things. I promise parents are thrilled you are willing to take this on. Godspeed, and have fun!

[Anonymous]

OP, is this week like a high school "beach week" graduation event? If so, it is not tacky at all to ask for money to cover expenses. OP is already providing the greatest service in providing the house. Everyone should help handle the costs.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all the responses - I was torn and it was good to get a second opinion.

FWIW- it was my parents beach house and they passed so not “ultra wealthy” like some posters have said- but definitely lucky and thankful we can do this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the word tacky. Not applicable in this situation

Anyway, I dont think you can ask. I think if they offer you can accept. I would offer.
You can just say if they want to send some money to cover food that would be great.

Tacky is the exact right word for this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this week like a high school "beach week" graduation event? If so, it is not tacky at all to ask for money to cover expenses. OP is already providing the greatest service in providing the house. Everyone should help handle the costs.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to ask.

Here's what I would do: Keep your meals simple and basic. Know that they will probably go out A LOT. (My kids are this age and it drives me crazy, but this is what they do.)

At least a few of the families will probably ask you if they can send something. Say yes. Suggest snacks, or a case of water, or a couple of boxes of cereal. Protein bars.

They go out a lot as you allow it and pay for it. Mine don't go out that much. Do a taco night, spaghetti night, Mac and cheese night, baked potato night, cereal, eggs, pancakes for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the responses - I was torn and it was good to get a second opinion.

FWIW- it was my parents beach house and they passed so not “ultra wealthy” like some posters have said- but definitely lucky and thankful we can do this!

Yes, you are ultra wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its tacky to ask. Its also tacky of their parents not to offer to Venmo you a contribution.

It’s tacky to ask for money! It’s not tacky to NOT offer to pay. Many people would be offended if you suggest they cannot pay to host you or your kid. It’s the same as asking for a contribution when you invite someone to a wedding.

lol.