asking for money for hosting teens tacky?

[Anonymous]

So tacky, but if you had the guts to do this, I would happily send it and be thankful you were inviting my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think that the parents of high school kids would be sending their kids with some money.

Don't the kids all have Apple Pay? I'd send them out to get dinner and lunch sometimes and assume they are all paying for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would think that the parents of high school kids would be sending their kids with some money.

Don't the kids all have Apple Pay? I'd send them out to get dinner and lunch sometimes and assume they are all paying for themselves.

My kids know that they should always endeavor to cover their own meals when on a trip with friends. Sometimes, parents insist but otherwise they should pay.

[Anonymous]

No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

[Anonymous]

You should invite fewer people if you cannot cover the costs. It's tacky to ask for money and if you ask for people to bring things, it might be too much to transport. Just make meals that are not expensive.

[Anonymous]

Yes, don’t invite them as you really aren’t happy hosting and doing this to make money. I have no issue paying food but I’d decline as no way you are adequately supervising that many kids and just using it to entertain yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s tacky to ask. If it were just one or two friends, it would be. But seven 17 year olds for five nights? That’s a lot of food.

Then don't invite 7!

I don’t know, it sounds more like 8 kids are lucky to have a free beach house to use for their own trip. Not so much that they’re invited guests of the OP. (Even though she worded it that way. I have a 17 year old and that’s how I’d see it.)

Nope. You don't get to play dumb. If you didn't want 7 teenagers there, you should have told your 17 year old not to invite them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would think that the parents of high school kids would be sending their kids with some money.

Don't the kids all have Apple Pay? I'd send them out to get dinner and lunch sometimes and assume they are all paying for themselves.

My kids know that they should always endeavor to cover their own meals when on a trip with friends. Sometimes, parents insist but otherwise they should pay.

Meals out, not in the house. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s tacky to ask. If it were just one or two friends, it would be. But seven 17 year olds for five nights? That’s a lot of food.

Then don't invite 7!

I don’t know, it sounds more like 8 kids are lucky to have a free beach house to use for their own trip. Not so much that they’re invited guests of the OP. (Even though she worded it that way. I have a 17 year old and that’s how I’d see it.)

This is exactly it! Happy to have them but at this age also view them as independent. Anyhow, I will convince DH we don’t need to ask and just cover it.

You're just cheap. I'm glad you listened to the advice and decided against asking for money.

[Anonymous]

Tacky to ask. But we also have a similar set up and every time, the friend has arrived with money that their parents have told them to give us. As well as spending money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

No, that’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

My opinion depends on how this all came to be. Did you initiate the idea & extend an invitation? Then yes, it tacky.

Or, have they been plotting and trying to figure out a trip and decided to ask if you’d let them stay there?

In this case, not tacky at all. Any parent would be fine sending $75. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I would not let fears of “tackiness” deter you. You are kind enough to host, and NO parent will judge you! If they do, I am pretty sure they’re the “tacky” ones.

[Anonymous]

Please let us know how this goes. I would be happy to pay for my kid to join you. It's all about the way you phrase it. Maybe:

Sending this along since a few of you have asked. if you are inclined, please either send snacks or Venmo funds to xxx for meals/snacks. Please let me know if your boys have any dietary restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My opinion depends on how this all came to be. Did you initiate the idea & extend an invitation? Then yes, it tacky.

Or, have they been plotting and trying to figure out a trip and decided to ask if you’d let them stay there?

In this case, not tacky at all. Any parent would be fine sending $75. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I would not let fears of “tackiness” deter you. You are kind enough to host, and NO parent will judge you! If they do, I am pretty sure they’re the “tacky” ones.

This.

[Anonymous]

I hate the word tacky. Not applicable in this situation

Anyway, I dont think you can ask. I think if they offer you can accept. I would offer.
You can just say if they want to send some money to cover food that would be great.