New Employer Requiring Me To Disclose Nature of My DD's Dr. Visit.
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Anonymous
Are you a man, OP? I wonder if your manager thinks that it's weird for a dad, instead of a mom, to take their kid to the doctor, and that's making him suspicious. |
Anonymous
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I would get the note and just keep on repeating she needed medical care.
Would assume he's trying to shame you for being a man taking his child to the doctor. |
Anonymous
No, legally you are able to use your sick time for immediate family members. |
Anonymous
Sure, J1 J2 guy. You know you should be playing on the internet. Did you steal the memory care nurse’s phone again? |
Anonymous
+1 Don't even get me started on sports physicals, braces, therapy, etc. |
Anonymous
| What is the J1 J2 thing? |
Anonymous
My husband had a female boss who responded: "Don't you have a wife?" when he let her know he needed to be off later that week for an appointment for our son, who was sick and had multiple issues. I was almost in negative leave balance, so it wasn't like I wasn't using mine first. |
Anonymous
Legally? Is the OP in the public sector or work for the federal government? |
Anonymous
Ahhh, doesnt matter . FMLA covers it. |
Anonymous
Doctors generally are not available off hours. PCP's, OB/GYN's, pediatricians, none of them are available during non-work hours. Whether or not the spouse is unavailable is irrelevant. One of the parents needs to care for the child. |
Anonymous
Malicious compliance might be the best course of action here (jk tell them to pound sand). |
Anonymous
OP's in a new job. No FMLA. Also, FMLA wouldn't apply to a single doctor's appointment. As to whether an employer can require this, the answer is yes. There may be a limit as to how specific the medical information would need to be - you'd have to check your state law for details. But, if you're missing work and if you're planning to take sick leave documentation can be required. Often sick leave has specific criteria that must be met in order to use it and your employer can require to you document that your leave qualifies. Also, for those who are saying that an employer has to allow an employee to use sick leave for their kids' medical appointments, that's not necessarily true. If you have a contract, like a collective bargaining agreement, that requires the employer to allow you to use sick leave for this purpose, then yes they are required. But this is not universal by any means. If you're not used to this, it can feel odd. But it's very typical in certain industries. Many/most doctors actually have a bad of excuses that they just have to check off. Now, it's also common to have electronic excuses. This is especially true of pediatricians who need to provide kids with a note so that kids can return to school and not get an unexcused absence. |
Anonymous
It is for the company, but one of the things it does for the company is protect them from liability when their employees violate employment laws. Thus, when you are confident that you are in the right on an employment issue, they can be a useful ally because they will intervene to protect you in order to avoid exposing themselves to a potential lawsuit for your boss's behavior. You have to be careful with them and always makes sure to document everything and consult an outside attorney as necessary, but they can be useful when dealing with a supervisor or colleague who is clearly violating the law. |
Anonymous
| Can’t imagine why women aren’t having kids |
Anonymous
+1 if a workplace has typical 40-hour work week hours, which are also generally when doctors, dentists, and physical therapists operate, it is assumed you will use sick leave for regular appointments. You don't have some obligation to schedule your kid's doctor's appointments for the sliver of Saturday morning the pediatrician is open just because you work Mon-Fri, that's stupid. This is the whole point of sick leave. |