My 22 Year Old Stepdaughter Lives at Home and I’m Unsure How to Handle Her Behavior

[Anonymous]

How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, the obvious question is, what is her father doing about it?

Overarching, this is for her parents to handle. For you, at a minimum stop doing her laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, the obvious question is, what is her father doing about it?

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Anonymous wrote:The laundry is the giveaway that this is a troll. That makes no sense. Why would OP be doing her laundry?

She’s very lazy, and didn’t do laundry even as a teen, so she’s gone back to that routine.

Why are you doing it, though? If she wants clean clothes she can wash them.

She’s asks me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

Yikes!

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

So your judgment is worse than hers, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

I feel so sorry for this 22 yo.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

And SD at age 20 was "talking" with a 35 year old man living across the country and went to live with him....

Yikes.

She tried to get that male daddy approval by excelling but kept getting new baby hslf sibs so then found and got preyed on by her very own 35 year old...who was a predator. Surprise!

Make family therapy a prerequisite for continuing with her in house. Tell DH that is that. Then the work on getting her some kind of college degree assp.

[Anonymous]

Is she your only step kid? Does she have any siblings?

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

So your judgment is worse than hers, lol.

I don’t think I have bad judgement. My husband is a great husband and a amazing father, I’ve never regretted marrying him. We were done at 2 kids, but he really wanted a third, so we did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she your only step kid? Does she have any siblings?

My husband also has another daughter, she’s 19.

[Anonymous]

Sit her, your husband and her mom down for an intervention and tell them that you've too much on your hands with kids and pregnancy so being the adult child, she needs to start pitching in with chores.

Also ask her to lay out her future plans as aging parents can't support her lifestyle for ever. Recommend enrolling in college, getting a job and a therapist to figure out life.

Don't be emotional or critical but matter of fact and calm. Keep it as an intellectual discussion, not a blame game.

[Anonymous]

On second thought, have a meeting with your DH and his ex and lay out your worries and ask them to have a discussion with her to put her back on a constructive life path.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you became her stepmom? 20?

I’m 35, so I was 20 at the time. My husband was 36 then and is now 51. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year-old son, and we’re expecting another boy in June.

So your judgment is worse than hers, lol.

I don’t think I have bad judgement. My husband is a great husband and an amazing father, I’ve never regretted marrying him. We were done at 2 kids, but he really wanted a third, so we did it.

Gross. You are completely disregarding that he had a kid, and he now has four, and is a total parenting fail by not only marrying a woman half his age when his kid needed him, but now neglecting his oldest and most important child.