My 22 Year Old Stepdaughter Lives at Home and I’m Unsure How to Handle Her Behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The laundry is the giveaway that this is a troll. That makes no sense. Why would OP be doing her laundry?

She’s very lazy, and didn’t do laundry even as a teen, so she’s gone back to that routine.

Why are you doing it, though? If she wants clean clothes she can wash them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, the obvious question is, what is her father doing about it?

He’s present, but he doesn’t know how to handle this either.

Well isn’t that nice. He damn well needs to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

No advice but it sounds incredibly tough.

I also have an adult child living at home (special needs), and have therapy for myself to be really helpful. Just an idea.

[Anonymous]

Drugs kick her out

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she's in a funk after that boyfriend experience. Given that he was in finance, who knows if she was dreaming of hooking that kind of spouse or if she is demoralized at the pittance most people earn in comparison.
At this point, she needs a 'come to Jesus' talk. In 10 years, how will she look back on this period of her life? Will she regret the directionless time she is spending now at home? She was so close to finishing her degree - she needs to get excited about the last year of school and what doors it can open for her. Because, right now, 30 will happen faster than she thinks.
Tell her she has family support for - you determine it, school, a job, a training program, whatever works for you. But no family support if she doesn't have a direction and give her an end date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, the obvious question is, what is her father doing about it?

He’s present, but he doesn’t know how to handle this either.

Well isn’t that nice. He damn well needs to figure it out.

I know, and he’s my husband and needs my help, so that’s all I’m trying to do, help him.

[Anonymous]

This has to be fake. Stop cooking, cleaning and paying for things. Tell her to get a job and pay for it herself.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP is real but no way a human would write sentences like “she threw herself into her studies and campus life, consistently excelling in her classes and taking on opportunities to travel, work, and explore new experiences”. Total AI writing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I’m pregnant after 15 years of being a stepmom, with my third child. -OP

Maybe she is just tired of babies being popped out into her space for the past 15 years?!

In that case she should be out of there ASAP, right?

[Anonymous]

She clearly needs to go back to school and finish.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, this sounds like a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Her father started banging a much younger woman then she started banging a much older guy.

Surprise, Surprise,

[Anonymous]

Troll overreach with the “oh I’m pregnant”

[Anonymous]

Who is paying for her lifestyle (car, insurance, and her social life?)

[Anonymous]

If not a troll, the step-daughter is one of the high-performing people who don't make a transition to real life easily and would rather be a lifelong student.
Give her two months to move out or keep her as a nanny.