17 year old daughter smashed car window

[Anonymous]

Would absolutely sell the car. If she wants a car she buys it and pays for it. She is beyond spoiled if she is deciding to destroy property. If she had paid for that car she would not have broken the window.

It is also time for a conversation, why is she so sure that she should not have to follow the family rules / expectations? Is it possible you have been too strict? Have a real back and forth and see if there is a better agreement you can come to and where she sets her punishment- when she doesn’t follow through as expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this the same teen who wouldn’t get out of the car for a school concert?

And has to be picked up and carried into church?

Someone should ask the moderator if all these crazy teen daughter threads is one bored troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or a school PTC?

Or is obsessed with panda eyeliner?

Or wants pink hair?

[Anonymous]

After she stole the credit cards and spent 2K on door dash?

[Anonymous]

sell the car

why does she feel so entitled to have a car? where the heck do you live?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a criminal offense. It’s also violent. This needs to be addressed with a therapist. Required anger management training. No privileges whatsoever until damages repaid. She should be asked how she will make this up to you.

It’s not criminal if it’s her car. She can do what she wants to her own property.
She sounds awful. I’d take the car away completely. She’s not mature enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did she use to smash the windows?

Pocket knife.

What? Troll.

[Anonymous]

I mean.... I'm so sorry but how did it get to this point? That she thought this level of disrespect and violence would be tolerated? When does she graduate? Kind of feels like the ship has sailed here.

Agree with others regarding therapy. What if she does this to people who are less forgiving? She seems like the type who would try to beat criminal charges with an affluenza defense. Go to therapy and be prepared to take a lot of responsibility for the situation.

[Anonymous]

Why did you buy her a car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a criminal offense. It’s also violent. This needs to be addressed with a therapist. Required anger management training. No privileges whatsoever until damages repaid. She should be asked how she will make this up to you.

It’s not criminal if it’s her car. She can do what she wants to her own property.
She sounds awful. I’d take the car away completely. She’s not mature enough.

The parents probably own the car

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a criminal offense. It’s also violent. This needs to be addressed with a therapist. Required anger management training. No privileges whatsoever until damages repaid. She should be asked how she will make this up to you.

It’s not criminal if it’s her car. She can do what she wants to her own property.
She sounds awful. I’d take the car away completely. She’s not mature enough.

Is the car titled and insured in this child’s name?
Did she pay for the car?

If not, it’s not her’s to do as she pleases.

Plus we simply don’t destroy things as a result of being punished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a criminal offense. It’s also violent. This needs to be addressed with a therapist. Required anger management training. No privileges whatsoever until damages repaid. She should be asked how she will make this up to you.

It’s not criminal if it’s her car. She can do what she wants to her own property.
She sounds awful. I’d take the car away completely. She’s not mature enough.

Is the car titled and insured in this child’s name?
Did she pay for the car?

If not, it’s not her’s to do as she pleases.

Plus we simply don’t destroy things as a result of being punished.

It doesn’t matter it’s not a criminal offense.

[Anonymous]

There’s something else going on that has nothing to do with your daughter, misbehaving or overreacting.

She needs therapy and you need therapy and you need family therapy.

When you see a child acting out like this there is something seriously wrong. Something is going on in your family. That is causing this.

And if you think being more strict is going to do anything, but make the situation worse, you are totally off your rocker.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one that is thinking this is the crazy behavior of someone with a drug issue?

Staying out late plus defiance, and breaking into the car but didn’t go anywhere ? Maybe she stashes her drugs in the car and had to get it out ?

I know a lot of defiant kids from friends troubles with their kids or former friends of my oldest who went a bad path - mostly the boys act like this and all of them who did had some combo of substance issues and mental health challenges.

Sometimes it’s from controlling parents but your actions sound pretty restrained, as you didn’t ground her from the car until she continued for a few days staying out late, so I assume there is something going on with the kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that is thinking this is the crazy behavior of someone with a drug issue?

Staying out late plus defiance, and breaking into the car but didn’t go anywhere ? Maybe she stashes her drugs in the car and had to get it out ?

I know a lot of defiant kids from friends troubles with their kids or former friends of my oldest who went a bad path - mostly the boys act like this and all of them who did had some combo of substance issues and mental health challenges.

Sometimes it’s from controlling parents but your actions sound pretty restrained, as you didn’t ground her from the car until she continued for a few days staying out late, so I assume there is something going on with the kid

To me it sounds like somebody who’s been abused or raped.