Have you ever been attracted to someone you’re not “supposed to” be attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Many times and I'm pretty sure some people were attracted to me a few times when they weren't supposed to be.

[Anonymous]

yes, a maasai from when I went on safari in tanzania. skin was so clear, huge white smile. soft spoken but a commanding presence.

this man lives in the bush, herds cows and goats, and wears a red shuka! i'm a city girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:most of my wife's female friends and one guy at work.

That's hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes, a maasai from when I went on safari in tanzania. skin was so clear, huge white smile. soft spoken but a commanding presence.

this man lives in the bush, herds cows and goats, and wears a red shuka! i'm a city girl.

How Stella Got Her Groove Back

[Anonymous]

Sure lots of times

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I have.

I'm a guy and I have a co-worker who I guess wants to be a woman. He wears make up and for Halloween wore a dress to work. He was privately ridiculed by some co-workers, but I have to admit, he looked good.

Shut the front door!

[Anonymous]

yes - I am a happily married white woman who has found myself attracted to Black men a couple of times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes, a maasai from when I went on safari in tanzania. skin was so clear, huge white smile. soft spoken but a commanding presence.

this man lives in the bush, herds cows and goats, and wears a red shuka! i'm a city girl.

This could be a Hallmark move, no? City girl goes on a safari in Africa ..

[Anonymous]

Various crushes through the years but didn't act on them - a client who was much younger than me, a healthcare employee who was helping me through a long recovery process, and an employee of a building I lived in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I developed a huge crush on my surgeon when I had to have surgery. Even when it was happening, I understood that it was sort of a psychological trick -- I was in a huge amount of pain and he was going to get rid of my pain, he was very kind to me during a very difficult time in my life, and also I was completely vulnerable to him during surgery. But even though I understood why it was happening it was super embarrassing to feel that way about my doctor.

To this day I wonder if I said anything inappropriate to him or anyone else on the staff while going under or while waking up (zero memory of either). I am sure it happens, even if I didn't. Now I think back on it and feel so embarrassed by the whole thing.

This has happened to me -- it was really intense. I think it's a thing. They are saving you, and they also just are handling your body is this very visceral way. You have to trust them. You have to give your body to them for a while.

It faded after a few months, luckily.

PP here and yes, it totally faded. I had to go in for a follow up a couple months later to make sure I was in the clear, and while I was still very grateful to him (and feeling super embarrassed by the memory of my very intense feelings for him previously), it had pretty much gone away and normalized.

I feel like it must happen all the time. This particular surgeon had amazing bedside manner, even my DH commented on how comforting and reassuring he is. I bet lots of his patients have fallen for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yes, a maasai from when I went on safari in tanzania. skin was so clear, huge white smile. soft spoken but a commanding presence.

this man lives in the bush, herds cows and goats, and wears a red shuka! i'm a city girl.

This could be a Hallmark move, no? City girl goes on a safari in Africa ..

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_White_Masai_(novel)

[Anonymous]

My first crush as a tween was Gene Kelly. Also I liked Paul McCartney. Weird to me that I liked them - maybe I was drawn to their talent?

I’ve been happily married 18 years and with my husband for 25 years. I have a crush on one of his really good friends from grad school who was then also his coworker for awhile. My husband knows this, I suspect the friend knows this. He lives across the country from us now and I wouldn’t act on it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think is pretty common. Just don’t act on it and keep it as your secret platonic crush

[Anonymous]

My son’s former coach. Have fantasized about him going on 5 years. I would never act on it and I’m assuming this is a story as old as day. Ran into him recently and we hugged for just a second longer than we should have. That was nice.

[Anonymous]

It’s a crush but more along the lines of admiration. There is a neighbor I admire but we are both married so we just wave hello. Nothing more.