Have you ever been attracted to someone you’re not “supposed to” be attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Spouse’s brother or sister. Spouse’s best friend. Neighbor. Something like that.

[Anonymous]

Yes! And more frequently than I’d like. It passes quickly though. I love my spouse and wouldn’t act on it.

[Anonymous]

Your premise is incorrect. Your body is going to be attracted to whoever it's attracted to. That's not something you can control. What you CAN control is what you do with that attraction.

Yes, I had a mild interest in one of my husband's brothers for a short while, as well as a friend's husband. Both were easy to ignore - they didn't even come up to crush level.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Psychiatrist. For many years.

At times I've thought it likely to be mutual, but we've never spoken of it and have certainly never acted on it.

[Anonymous]

I'm a married man with attractions to other (younger) men. But I don't act on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a married man with attractions to other (younger) men. But I don't act on it.

How old are you? Are you married to a woman?

[Anonymous]

Never physically. But there have been men who I grew attracted to because I liked their personalities. Nothing happened though.

[Anonymous]

If we're counting medical professionals, I was really into the nurse my wife saw during pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

most of my wife's female friends and one guy at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:most of my wife's female friends and one guy at work.

Does wife know you're bi

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:most of my wife's female friends and one guy at work.

Does wife know you're bi

No, not going to say anything either, if I am bi it's only for one guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse’s brother or sister. Spouse’s best friend. Neighbor. Something like that.

Not while I was married and it always passed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your premise is incorrect. Your body is going to be attracted to whoever it's attracted to. That's not something you can control. What you CAN control is what you do with that attraction.

Yes, I had a mild interest in one of my husband's brothers for a short while, as well as a friend's husband. Both were easy to ignore - they didn't even come up to crush level.

Thank you for saying this. I say it all the time and people don’t agree with me.
I am attracted to my sons and nephews.
I can’t control it. It’s not my fault. I have not acted on it.

[Anonymous]

You mean like my boss? Gay guys? Yes and yes. It's fun to have a crush!

[Anonymous]

Yes I developed a huge crush on my surgeon when I had to have surgery. Even when it was happening, I understood that it was sort of a psychological trick -- I was in a huge amount of pain and he was going to get rid of my pain, he was very kind to me during a very difficult time in my life, and also I was completely vulnerable to him during surgery. But even though I understood why it was happening it was super embarrassing to feel that way about my doctor.

To this day I wonder if I said anything inappropriate to him or anyone else on the staff while going under or while waking up (zero memory of either). I am sure it happens, even if I didn't. Now I think back on it and feel so embarrassed by the whole thing.