How many of you cut off your MAGA relatives?

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Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

Isn’t actually being racist worse than voting for Trump?

They’re one and the same.

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[Anonymous]

You don’t have to give a reason for not wanting to move. You are and adult and it’s your life. This should really be moved to family relationships.

We have people with extreme political views on both sides in our family and we don’t live near either of them because we don’t want to live in those parts of the country. We visit and have relationships with all of them because our relationships are a lot more than politics and everyone can be respectful. Our conversations are never 100% political.

I had to cut off a friend that was actually way on the left because it was all she ever spoke about and it became exhausting to be around. If your relatives are like that and Trump, then I can see avoiding them. If they just support him and but don’t make it their life and are good to your kids then put it aside. You still don’t have to move anywhere you don’t want to.

And I still suggest moving this to family relationships.

[Anonymous]

Low contact with my MAGA mother and step father. One of my kids is in college and one is a recent grad. As a matter of policy and sanity, I don’t interfere with my adult children’s relationships with relatives. One kid identifies as LGBTQ. But refuses to come out to the MAGA grandparents, which is an act of self protection I understand. My stepfather has a gay uncle, and I have never heard them refer to him without using the word “gay”. “We heard your gay uncle Ralph has COVID.” They consider themselves tolerant because they are willing to attend family events he is at— although this part of my family will not include his partner/husband of 30 years in wedding invites, etc. So yeah— I wouldn’t go there either with them if I were LGBTQ.

My mother went on an anti trans rant with all the “trans isn’t real it’s an excuse to sneak into women’s locker rooms” tropes at the oldest kids graduation— in front of my kids and in the home that the graduating kid had rented with a trans friend. The other kid is very active in her campus LGBTQ community and has a close trans friend and her brother is very supportive and protective. Neither of them said anything at the time, because they know they would get nowhere. But both have also gone low/no contact with their grandparents since then.

They also have a history of proudly bigoted anti-immigrant, anti-Muslim rants. And my DMV kids have a lot of immigrant and Muslim friends. Which they know. So that doesn’t help the situation.

My mother is confused. I tell her to talk to her adult grandchildren if she has an issue with their relationship with them. And to ask them what the issues are if she is confused. And listen to the answers with acceptance and understanding. I’m certainly not outing my kid to her. But she won’t. She just wanders around making passive aggressive comments and blaming me for not raising the kids to respect her intolerant opinions that insult them and their friends instead. Add it the list of the ways I failed Mom.

Shrug. I don’t blame my kids for being uncomfortable with the spewing of ugly stereotypes. I understand their belief that discussing this would get them nowhere. I’ve spent my whole life explaining to my mother and a sad how some of the things they say hurt me personally and being told to suck it up. I don’t expect my kids would get any further.

Did I mention my sister has no kids? So these are their only grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

I’m am sure they are so happy not to have to deal with your liberal leaning socialist views.

You did them a favor!!

[Anonymous]

Somewhere there is a thread on a conservative message board where people are cheering cutting off their liberal leaning socialist family members like yourselves.

[Anonymous]

My spouse is trans, and I stopped seeing some relatives who would pointedly use his old name/pronouns in front of our child. I still see Trump voting relatives who don't do that, though.

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No, did not cut them off but both parties are careful not to bring up politics. We've also hidden one another on social media. We had a recent death in the family and we need to lean on one another. I can put politics aside if it means honoring the person who passed away.

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Anonymous wrote:Somewhere there is a thread on a conservative message board where people are cheering cutting off their liberal leaning socialist family members like yourselves.

They can’t get fired, they quit!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

I have difficulty with the word "love" when it comes to mine. I try not to confuse loving us with loving being grandparents. Mine are MAGA to the core and clearly do not care if DH and I lose our jobs due to Trump's policies. We could lose our jobs this month and never ONCE do my parents ask if we're ok. They're not stupid-- they're just ignoring news that makes them uncomfortable. It's more important to "save the country from the Communists" in their aging brains than for their grandchildren to have a house.

[Anonymous]

I cut off my MAGA relatives before MAGA was even a thing - because the hateful bigoted abusive values that underscore MAGA were already present in them, which is why they leapt at the opportunity to embrace MAGA daddy when he arrived on the scene.

Watching MAGA daddy's toxic rule unfold in this country is simply a revisitation of the toxic abusive family of origin experience I had as a child and young adult, until I estranged myself to protect myself from further abuse - 30 years of it was enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere there is a thread on a conservative message board where people are cheering cutting off their liberal leaning socialist family members like yourselves.

+1

You can find low IQ fruitcakes on all sides of the political spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low contact with my MAGA mother and step father. One of my kids is in college and one is a recent grad. As a matter of policy and sanity, I don’t interfere with my adult children’s relationships with relatives. One kid identifies as LGBTQ. But refuses to come out to the MAGA grandparents, which is an act of self protection I understand. My stepfather has a gay uncle, and I have never heard them refer to him without using the word “gay”. “We heard your gay uncle Ralph has COVID.” They consider themselves tolerant because they are willing to attend family events he is at— although this part of my family will not include his partner/husband of 30 years in wedding invites, etc. So yeah— I wouldn’t go there either with them if I were LGBTQ.

My mother went on an anti trans rant with all the “trans isn’t real it’s an excuse to sneak into women’s locker rooms” tropes at the oldest kids graduation— in front of my kids and in the home that the graduating kid had rented with a trans friend. The other kid is very active in her campus LGBTQ community and has a close trans friend and her brother is very supportive and protective. Neither of them said anything at the time, because they know they would get nowhere. But both have also gone low/no contact with their grandparents since then.

They also have a history of proudly bigoted anti-immigrant, anti-Muslim rants. And my DMV kids have a lot of immigrant and Muslim friends. Which they know. So that doesn’t help the situation.

My mother is confused. I tell her to talk to her adult grandchildren if she has an issue with their relationship with them. And to ask them what the issues are if she is confused. And listen to the answers with acceptance and understanding. I’m certainly not outing my kid to her. But she won’t. She just wanders around making passive aggressive comments and blaming me for not raising the kids to respect her intolerant opinions that insult them and their friends instead. Add it the list of the ways I failed Mom.

Shrug. I don’t blame my kids for being uncomfortable with the spewing of ugly stereotypes. I understand their belief that discussing this would get them nowhere. I’ve spent my whole life explaining to my mother and a sad how some of the things they say hurt me personally and being told to suck it up. I don’t expect my kids would get any further.

Did I mention my sister has no kids? So these are their only grandkids.

A wall of text. Get a shrink.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low contact with my MAGA mother and step father. One of my kids is in college and one is a recent grad. As a matter of policy and sanity, I don’t interfere with my adult children’s relationships with relatives. One kid identifies as LGBTQ. But refuses to come out to the MAGA grandparents, which is an act of self protection I understand. My stepfather has a gay uncle, and I have never heard them refer to him without using the word “gay”. “We heard your gay uncle Ralph has COVID.” They consider themselves tolerant because they are willing to attend family events he is at— although this part of my family will not include his partner/husband of 30 years in wedding invites, etc. So yeah— I wouldn’t go there either with them if I were LGBTQ.

My mother went on an anti trans rant with all the “trans isn’t real it’s an excuse to sneak into women’s locker rooms” tropes at the oldest kids graduation— in front of my kids and in the home that the graduating kid had rented with a trans friend. The other kid is very active in her campus LGBTQ community and has a close trans friend and her brother is very supportive and protective. Neither of them said anything at the time, because they know they would get nowhere. But both have also gone low/no contact with their grandparents since then.

They also have a history of proudly bigoted anti-immigrant, anti-Muslim rants. And my DMV kids have a lot of immigrant and Muslim friends. Which they know. So that doesn’t help the situation.

My mother is confused. I tell her to talk to her adult grandchildren if she has an issue with their relationship with them. And to ask them what the issues are if she is confused. And listen to the answers with acceptance and understanding. I’m certainly not outing my kid to her. But she won’t. She just wanders around making passive aggressive comments and blaming me for not raising the kids to respect her intolerant opinions that insult them and their friends instead. Add it the list of the ways I failed Mom.

Shrug. I don’t blame my kids for being uncomfortable with the spewing of ugly stereotypes. I understand their belief that discussing this would get them nowhere. I’ve spent my whole life explaining to my mother and a sad how some of the things they say hurt me personally and being told to suck it up. I don’t expect my kids would get any further.

Did I mention my sister has no kids? So these are their only grandkids.

A wall of text. Get a shrink.

It’s written in paragraphs. Are you familiar with such?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low contact with my MAGA mother and step father. One of my kids is in college and one is a recent grad. As a matter of policy and sanity, I don’t interfere with my adult children’s relationships with relatives. One kid identifies as LGBTQ. But refuses to come out to the MAGA grandparents, which is an act of self protection I understand. My stepfather has a gay uncle, and I have never heard them refer to him without using the word “gay”. “We heard your gay uncle Ralph has COVID.” They consider themselves tolerant because they are willing to attend family events he is at— although this part of my family will not include his partner/husband of 30 years in wedding invites, etc. So yeah— I wouldn’t go there either with them if I were LGBTQ.

My mother went on an anti trans rant with all the “trans isn’t real it’s an excuse to sneak into women’s locker rooms” tropes at the oldest kids graduation— in front of my kids and in the home that the graduating kid had rented with a trans friend. The other kid is very active in her campus LGBTQ community and has a close trans friend and her brother is very supportive and protective. Neither of them said anything at the time, because they know they would get nowhere. But both have also gone low/no contact with their grandparents since then.

They also have a history of proudly bigoted anti-immigrant, anti-Muslim rants. And my DMV kids have a lot of immigrant and Muslim friends. Which they know. So that doesn’t help the situation.

My mother is confused. I tell her to talk to her adult grandchildren if she has an issue with their relationship with them. And to ask them what the issues are if she is confused. And listen to the answers with acceptance and understanding. I’m certainly not outing my kid to her. But she won’t. She just wanders around making passive aggressive comments and blaming me for not raising the kids to respect her intolerant opinions that insult them and their friends instead. Add it the list of the ways I failed Mom.

Shrug. I don’t blame my kids for being uncomfortable with the spewing of ugly stereotypes. I understand their belief that discussing this would get them nowhere. I’ve spent my whole life explaining to my mother and a sad how some of the things they say hurt me personally and being told to suck it up. I don’t expect my kids would get any further.

Did I mention my sister has no kids? So these are their only grandkids.

A wall of text. Get a shrink.

Aww too much reading for your little brain?
That was a relevant post and worth reading.

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Anonymous wrote:As a proud MAGA 🇦🇺, we want to stop MAGA and Christian hate. Trump is the holiest president ever.

I hope you start a thread and explain the Aussie MAGA movement. I'm getting some wild reels on fb from Aussie MAGA, very Knights Templar themed. Love it.

You know how Facebook algorithm works, right?

I do, but if you're excited to share that's okay too.