How many of you cut off your MAGA relatives?

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Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

Isn’t actually being racist worse than voting for Trump?

They’re one and the same.

[Anonymous]

I have no MAGA relatives that I’m aware of.

[Anonymous]

MAGA family members are dead. There were two of them. Unrelated to one another, but they knew better than experts, and it cost them their lives. They both left the hospital AMA during serious medical events. It had adverse effects that killed them.

If their leaders keep disparaging scientists, I suspect many more with health issues will meet the same fate.

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“Cutting off” implies that you’re no longer visiting or interacting with them. That’s much more drastic than simply declining to uproot your lives to live closer.
I would never cut off a parent unless they’ve been actually abusive. Set boundaries, yes. But cutting otherwise decent parents off because of their beliefs is cruel to them and your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no MAGA relatives that I’m aware of.

Same, but if I did I’d definitely cut them off. It doesn’t have to be dramatic.

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Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

How truly sad for the children and their grandparents.

[Anonymous]

No. Have definitely had some conflicts, like when I tried to convince my brother to get the COVID vaccine in 2021 and his son angrily stared it changed his DNA and he should not get it. My brother did eventually get it and I think his son, my nephew, was quite angry about it. However, got over it.

I still love my family, we learned to avoid politics. I do not believe cutting people off solved things, especially when people live in media bubbles nowadays, unaware of what is being said on the other side.

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Is there a more liberal city you can move to that is closer but not six hours away?

Tough question - nothing is more important to me than family but I couldn’t see myself moving to say, Texas, Florida or Alabama or some deeply red state.

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Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

Isn’t actually being racist worse than voting for Trump?

They’re one and the same.

Trump legitimized and validates racism for the racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - to add context DH and I both work remotely and could work anywhere. So blaming jobs won’t get us very far. It comes up all the time and I just want to tell them the truth.

You could lose those jobs. I would choose to stay near in-person job sources. But you may have different considerations.

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Pretty much 90% of my first cousins and several aunts and uncles have been completely off. No cards, phone calls, gifts, social media connections. Radio silence. Been years and it hasn't really been seen a a “loss” for me.

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A couple thoughts-
1) you didn't cut off your relatives and are being dramatic.
2) Most people don't want to move back to their "maga heartland" tiny towns and take it from me, that wouldn't be different if you shared their political affiliation.
3) why can't you people just win the argument? Present your views in a compelling manner and make them realize that you're correct? There's always some kind of emotional blackmail, like in this case, "vote for Kamala or I will withhold my presence and affection." It's f--ing weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: “Cutting off” implies that you’re no longer visiting or interacting with them. That’s much more drastic than simply declining to uproot your lives to live closer.
I would never cut off a parent unless they’ve been actually abusive. Set boundaries, yes. But cutting otherwise decent parents off because of their beliefs is cruel to them and your kids.

+1 Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much 90% of my first cousins and several aunts and uncles have been completely off. No cards, phone calls, gifts, social media connections. Radio silence. Been years and it hasn't really been seen a a “loss” for me.

There's something deeply wrong with you and your family members. Very sad.

[Anonymous]

I am so, so happy and relieved that every single independent and Republican in my family hates the current administration and didn't vote for Trump. All siblings, spouses, and parents on both my husband's and my sides are disgusted by this administration. I do have one cousin who split from long-term boyfriend because his total apathy wasn't cutting it. I think I felt more sorry about the end of their relationship than she did. Just Trump Making America Miserable Again.