How many of you cut off your MAGA relatives?

[Anonymous]

My family wants me to move back to our hometown. We have kids and the whole family wants us to live closer to them so they can see them grow up. My sister lives far away and her kids rarely see my parents.

BUT I cannot imagine living and raising them in a MAGA heartland where everyone is Republican and loud about it. Including my family.

I haven’t told them the reason why but it will never happen. We still see them but we will never move to live closer to them (currently 6+ hour drive away). Do I tell them the reason or just leave it be?

[Anonymous]

If you have a nice life where you are right now then why would you up and move? Just change the topic when it comes up. No need to start a debate.

[Anonymous]

Op - to add context DH and I both work remotely and could work anywhere. So blaming jobs won’t get us very far. It comes up all the time and I just want to tell them the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - to add context DH and I both work remotely and could work anywhere. So blaming jobs won’t get us very far. It comes up all the time and I just want to tell them the truth.

Is your sister happy living far from them?

[Anonymous]

I mean, you probably currently live in an area where everyone is liberal and loud about it. So which would be worse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op - to add context DH and I both work remotely and could work anywhere. So blaming jobs won’t get us very far. It comes up all the time and I just want to tell them the truth.

Is your sister happy living far from them?

Op - yes extremely happy. She sees my dad maybe once a year? Parents are divorced. She sees my mom a few more times a year. Her kids only see my dad once a year or every other year.

[Anonymous]

I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you probably currently live in an area where everyone is liberal and loud about it. So which would be worse?

Op - well I live in the DMV. It seems to be a mix of liberal and conservative where I live (lots of military folks).

[Anonymous]

Just tell them you are settled in your lives where you are now. 6 hour drive is really not that far. No way would I move to MAGAland and let my kids be influenced there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

[Anonymous]

My MAGA brother cut me off. BFF MAGA sister cut her off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

How do you know the grandparents aren't the ones who are awful. (notice I did not say evil. You trotting out that word with no real knowledge of the situation makes you seem pretty awful.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cut off the children from DH parents. They are MAGA Christians and live in a racist state.

When they send letters I just throw them in the trash.

You are evil and calculating to not allow your children to even visit their grandparents because of politics.

NP. Politics is a choice, and it's a two way street. It can be argued that the parents don't want to see their grandchildren by clinging to their MAGA politics as well.

For my part, I disagree strongly with my own parents politics, and my father-in-law is a dyed-in-the-wool MAGA. I made it quite clear with them all several years ago that if we are to see each other and be a family, there will be no discussion of politics and so far it's been working. Shortly after that, my father-in-law thought he could be Mr. Bossy Wise Guy and tried pushing his luck with some snarky yet stupid MAGA comments, and I immediately called the visit short, "we've got to be going, sorry" and left. Since doing that, he's been a lot more reasonable and kept his asinine politics to himself when we come to visit.

Agreed. There are lines that can't be crossed. Years ago, my inlaws made some racist comments in from of our kids. DH immediately said if you say things like that you are not welcome in this house. They left early in a huff that day, but things have been fine since. They keep that sh*t to themselves. We just focus on other things, because they love our kids. But if they got pushy about it, we would probably limit contact more.

Isn’t actually being racist worse than voting for Trump?