Don't interview me!

[Anonymous]

Well here’s the rub, OP. I’m a woman. I date for sex and companionship- not marriage and I’m upfront about that. Because I am loathe to do “the interview” of -“ where do you work, do you live around here? Are you divorced and how long? What’s your custody schedule? Do you have a home? Are you a convicted felon? Are you gay? Are you looking for someone in “the lifestyle”- etc.

As a result I’ve been on dates with homeless men, convicted felons, and guys who were looking for a woman to cruise men with them for MMF threesones.

I don’t know what the balance is. I tend to want to meet asap as OLD seems to have turned into a bunch of lonely people looking for short intent conversations with no real intent or plan to meet.

I don’t understand how your date both interviewed you and monopolized the conversation, however. Did you give short or non open ended responses to her questions, prompting her to talk to fill the space?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have a long list of requirements for a man to meet in order to be considered worthy.

There's a reason so many women are single.

I mean….would you prefer any person, man or woman, have zero requirements for who they want to partner with?

I guess for me, as a woman, I always knew I had to be outstanding. I learned how to make men feel comfortable, I learned how to massage their egos and tend to their domestic needs. I’m super good at it.

I don’t see the same kind of reciprocity or capability in the men I’ve been asked out by or gone on dates with.

I wonder if dating was just so easy for men, or if the prexumltion of sex was so taken for granted in the age of “if they’re drunk they asked for it” and casual date rape. I think men now are being called to either step up as a fully grown adult- capable of managing a well rounded life without a woman and capable of being an equal partner- or they turn bitter - like you.

[Anonymous]

She may have been a little nervous so her questions may have come off as interview questions.

However if it truly bothered you how she articulated her questions for you it is best for both of you to not go out a second time.

I wish you luck in your dating - - it sometimes is a lot of trial ➕ error.

[Anonymous]

Mr Beast conducts his first dates like interviews so he can figure out who is a gold digger and isn’t compatible with his lifestyle. People applaud men for that, not sure why you think women shouldn’t also do this.

[Anonymous]

Okay!
Sounds to me you're butthurt because she didn't fawn over your career.

Also sounds like you aren't much of a conversationalist yourself.

But go ahead with your little tantrum, Mr. THERE WON'T BE A SECOND DATE! Oh no! Like we care. go call your mommy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mr Beast conducts his first dates like interviews so he can figure out who is a gold digger and isn’t compatible with his lifestyle. People applaud men for that, not sure why you think women shouldn’t also do this.

Mr beast is wealthy.

Regardless of his sex or gender, he’s rich. Rich people- men or women/ should protect themselves. I do.

-woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have a long list of requirements for a man to meet in order to be considered worthy.

There's a reason so many women are single.

Starting with 1) they are smart. 2) they have standards. 3) it is better to be alone than with a deadbeat, needy man.

You bet your a$$ there is a list of requirements. Staring with holding a job, having good relationships with family and friends, being emotionally stable, taking care of house and home, being a feminist.

You can't manage that? Well, self-respecting, intelligent women may not want you.

[Anonymous]

It wasn't a fit, but such is life. Why are you so upset? Keep trying and you will eventually find a better match.

[Anonymous]

As a result I’ve been on dates with homeless men, convicted felons, and guys who were looking for a woman to cruise men with them for MMF threesones.

Wow. I'd be fine dating a convicted felon if he was reformed and had a steady job and lifestyle. But the other two categories would be hard nos for me at the outset.

[Anonymous]

Well duh yes me too! But because I didn’t “interview” them in chat I had to learn it face to face on the first meet. I bounced on the homeless guy (he was living in an extended stay hotel, we had matched that morning and schedules aligned. He wildly exaggerated his job and appeared to be a fairly traditional, housed. Person. The felon busted out his story after steak and before cake/ opening with @your profile said you were ope. Minded…….”. Then proceeded to tell me how his white collar corporate espionage was “like office space

So that’s what’s rough. Interrogate and men make posts like these ( don’t think a man made this post) don’t do so and discover you’re on a date with a real strange guy.

[Anonymous]

But because I didn’t “interview” them in chat I had to learn it face to face on the first meet.

If you don't ask some basic getting to know you questions in the chat, do you just screen entirely on looks, then? Obviously you don't have time to meet every person who indicates interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have a long list of requirements for a man to meet in order to be considered worthy.

There's a reason so many women are single.

Disagree. Most of the women I know who are single left abusive relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mr Beast conducts his first dates like interviews so he can figure out who is a gold digger and isn’t compatible with his lifestyle. People applaud men for that, not sure why you think women shouldn’t also do this.

Mr beast is wealthy.

Regardless of his sex or gender, he’s rich. Rich people- men or women/ should protect themselves. I do.

-woman

You don't need to have money to respect your own worth. Everyone should protect themselves. Even if you don't have financial wealth to steal, being drained of your time, health, safety, and other resources isn't advantageous to anyone. There are gold diggers, sure. There are also labor diggers, and people looking for scapegoats, and all sorts of other ways to end up broke/broken in a bad relationship.

Not having your guard at least somewhat up on a first date should be considered a flag for someone with low self-esteem/self-respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay!
Sounds to me you're butthurt because she didn't fawn over your career.

Also sounds like you aren't much of a conversationalist yourself.

But go ahead with your little tantrum, Mr. THERE WON'T BE A SECOND DATE! Oh no! Like we care. go call your mommy.

Lolol yes all of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound dramatic. Stop dating.

Have you done OLD? I have been married for nearly two decades but still shudder when I think of my OLD experience. It is a long, hard slog. People are rarely how they appear in their profiles -- and I am not talking about deliberate deception, though there is some of that, too, but just that it is so hard to get a sense of people from profiles. Anyway, just saying, i think OP just wants to vent because he is tired of the process. He was probably excited about this woman and thought they would be a good fit and then the date was terrible. It is not that deep. Just a vent.

OP here thanks all for responding. I did have high hopes, but in person she was just a different person. Perhaps "interview" is the wrong term to use. You know the feeling when you are talking with someone and all they do is talk about themselves without taking a break as if they memorized what they wanted to say and wanted to dump it all out asap.

Anyways I am done with OLD. I'll try my luck in person. Height and look are not enough. I am 6'1 and not bad looking. And in my post I didn't judge all women. I just said that particualr woman. I just needed to vent.