Are those grandparents who are worried about being "too far away" from grandchildren unaware of airplanes?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what dose of entirely not medically indicated testosterone are you taking? May want to revisit that with your functional medicine concierge doc. It’s not serving you well

If you’re as amazing as you imagine yourself to be, another career opportunity will surely come up in your current locale. You can let this one go.

Deciding you want to stan for selfish boomers who try to guilt their families into giving up opportunities so they can try to "helicopter grandparent" is a helluva hill to make your stand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what dose of entirely not medically indicated testosterone are you taking? May want to revisit that with your functional medicine concierge doc. It’s not serving you well

If you’re as amazing as you imagine yourself to be, another career opportunity will surely come up in your current locale. You can let this one go.

Deciding you want to stan for selfish boomers who try to guilt their families into giving up opportunities so they can try to "helicopter grandparent" is a helluva hill to make your stand.

Nah, just pointing out your inchoate fury is going to eat you alive. Maybe skip a dose?

[Anonymous]

Wow OP you need to cut the cord. Make peace with your choices

[Anonymous]

I don’t want my grandparents that far away. We have a set that’s 10 min away from us and it’s been life changing. Emergency? Grandparents are easily there. Kids are sick? Grandparents.

Frankly I get sick of traveling to the grandparents that live further away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, you can get on a plane and be there for any signficant events your family wants you there for and you won't haunt them when they don't want you...

Not everyone one wants to be a vacation and holiday grandparent.

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My parents live 2.5 hours away from us, in the house where grew up. I moved to my current area for work and need to stay here. We see them numerous times per year, I’d say every other month. And yet—my brother who lives half an hour away from them sees them every week and they provide frequent babysitting, even ensuring they didn’t need to pay a nanny when his kids were infants. Some real benefits to proximity!

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Anonymous wrote:As grandparents get older they also have a lot more health issues and flying and travel in general, isn’t quite as simple as it seems.

This, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, you can get on a plane and be there for any signficant events your family wants you there for and you won't haunt them when they don't want you...

Why generalize your personal toxicity? If you've a problem with your parents or in-laws, talk to them as adults grown adult so they know that they need to respect your boundaries. Now if these boundaries are reasonable or not, for that y'all need to seek family therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone can afford to fly, OP.

OP would also want them to stay in a hotel , eat at a restaurant and rent a car or Uber so she doesn't have to accompany them.

[Anonymous]

My local parents see the grandkids about 200x the ones a plane ride away. They constantly backstop our childcare for us and we go there to hang out, especially when they were babies.

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Anonymous wrote:As grandparents get older they also have a lot more health issues and flying and travel in general, isn’t quite as simple as it seems.

This, unfortunately.

OP doesn’t give a chit - he’s got a JOB offer, didn’t you know?

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Anonymous wrote:We are foreigners and are part of the international community in DC, who usually has grandparents living abroad in people's home countries.

If there's enough money and health, distance is not a problem. When one or both are missing, then distance becomes a problem. And when it comes to eldercare at a distance when all able-bodied younger relatives are far away - there is a HUGE problem.

So please have a little more humility and respect, OP, for adverse situations in life.

If you've bring overseas parents here in elder years, they'll be logistically fully dependent on you and probably financially as well so make that decision with full awareness.

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Anonymous wrote:As grandparents get older they also have a lot more health issues and flying and travel in general, isn’t quite as simple as it seems.

I did have grandparents myself, I'm aware that at some point you visit them more than they visit you.

Which would not be acceptable for OP to stay their or pay for flights and hotels and use PTO on that.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like what they're wanting is not a significant-events-only relationship, but instead smaller amounts of contact more frequently like would be possible if you lived nearby.
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Its not just about what they want, OP and her DH's wants matter as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d like to be at insignificant events too.

Then try in court to get their custody as they are OP's kids and you can only get as much time as she sees fit.