Tell Me The Truth…..Was I Out Of Line Here??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Thank you everyone for your responses!

I have learned a lot from this experience & will behave better in public from now on!

I wish I could apologize to this poor woman for what I said.

I don't understand how you're an adult and needed to be told by internet strangers that you were out of line? Do you often struggle with understanding social situations?

[Anonymous]

When I see a kid having a tantrum I either look at the mom empathetically and move on or really do not even watch at all and move on. I remember how mortifying it is. I actually think it's super weird everyone was gawking at this poor woman having a very normal but distressing moment and contributed to her saying what she did.

[Anonymous]

Typical Walmart behavior from all parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Thank you everyone for your responses!

I have learned a lot from this experience & will behave better in public from now on!

I wish I could apologize to this poor woman for what I said.

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Good for you, OP. Not too many DCUM posters will admit they were wrong! I'll bet you're a nice person and you were just having a bit of a moment yourself.

As for those of you criticizing the mom for shopping with her kiddo, you realize not everyone can just hire help, right? Also, how do your children learn to behave in a store if you never take them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday I was shopping in Walmart with my sister.

There was a child in the aisle crying very loudly, begging her mother for a toy.
Typical temper tantrum.
The mother was telling her daughter to go and sit inside the shopping cart and her child would not - she was kicking ➕ screaming NO!
Again extremely loudly.

Everyone (of course!) was watching the chaotic commotion and the mother appeared worn out and stressed to the max.

She turned to all the shoppers in the aisle and remarked to us “Listen people…..this is the reason you do not have kids!”

Now as a mother myself, in all honesty I HAVE thought this to myself when my own children were being difficult.
I think that ALL parents have had this thought at one time or another while raising their kids.

So I am the last person to judge this mother.
However I have never verbalized this in front of my child.

This woman’s child appeared between the age of 4-5.
I told the woman that she shouldn’t have said that in front of her daughter angrily and the woman simply rolled her eyes at me.

Afterward my sister chastised me and told me the woman was simply in the throes of her child’s tantrum and was simply venting out of frustration.

What say you??

You were completely out of line. Good Lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes you were

Was OP the same one who pushed someone's grocery cart into a far away aisle when that cart's shopper went off looking for an item?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Thank you everyone for your responses!

I have learned a lot from this experience & will behave better in public from now on!

I wish I could apologize to this poor woman for what I said.

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Good for you, OP. Not too many DCUM posters will admit they were wrong! I'll bet you're a nice person and you were just having a bit of a moment yourself.

As for those of you criticizing the mom for shopping with her kiddo, you realize not everyone can just hire help, right? Also, how do your children learn to behave in a store if you never take them?

I rarely if ever see an op (original poster) come back and eat crow.

And all parents at one time or another have had moments where they themselves wished that they did not have children.
Especially during stressful periods. Any parent who denies this fact would be a complete liar.
This mother in the store was venting what she was feeling inside.

If her child were younger than two, I would be sympathetic. However to voice that people should rethink having kids in front of a child who is old enough to store that info in their head is just wrong.
Later on in life this same child may use this incident in her childhood as a catalyst for how she never felt loved by her own mom. Or perhaps she will remember being humiliated in front of strangers and how negatively it affected how she views herself.

[Anonymous]

You could habe said something like, your daughter will understand when she jas her own kids.

[Anonymous]

I think in general it's rude to criticism cuz someone in that situation BUT OP did it for the girl and OP is right. Maybe the experience will give that woman pause the next time. I think it was worth it to speak up in this situation.

My parents both really openly resented having kids and being parents and it had a very bad impact on their relationship with us. Hearing stuff like that as a kid can follow you your whole life. Children need to feel wanted. It's essential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think in general it's rude to criticism cuz someone in that situation BUT OP did it for the girl and OP is right. Maybe the experience will give that woman pause the next time. I think it was worth it to speak up in this situation.

My parents both really openly resented having kids and being parents and it had a very bad impact on their relationship with us. Hearing stuff like that as a kid can follow you your whole life. Children need to feel wanted. It's essential.

Are you a parent now?

ANd OP did not do it for the girl. She did it for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Thank you everyone for your responses!

I have learned a lot from this experience & will behave better in public from now on!

I wish I could apologize to this poor woman for what I said.

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Good for you, OP. Not too many DCUM posters will admit they were wrong! I'll bet you're a nice person and you were just having a bit of a moment yourself.

As for those of you criticizing the mom for shopping with her kiddo, you realize not everyone can just hire help, right? Also, how do your children learn to behave in a store if you never take them?

+1 to all of this.

Don’t beat yourself up OP. I’m sure the mom is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think in general it's rude to criticism cuz someone in that situation BUT OP did it for the girl and OP is right. Maybe the experience will give that woman pause the next time. I think it was worth it to speak up in this situation.

My parents both really openly resented having kids and being parents and it had a very bad impact on their relationship with us. Hearing stuff like that as a kid can follow you your whole life. Children need to feel wanted. It's essential.

You don’t know their relationship, so you can’t jump to this conclusion. If a kid is wanted they’ll know it, even if mommy makes some sarcastic jokes sometimes.

I used to tell my kids I was going to sell them on the internet. I was joking and they knew that, but they also knew that was the “knock it off right now” joke.

[Anonymous]

What OP did isn't great but what the mother did is really horrible and damaging.

[Anonymous]

YWTA. The kid in the middle of a hysterical tantrum did not hear what was said, and even if he did, there’s no way he comprehended the meaning of what was said.

Next time, walk away, don’t kick someone when they’re down. You suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to Walmart was your first mistake.