Tell Me The Truth…..Was I Out Of Line Here??

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I was shopping in Walmart with my sister.

There was a child in the aisle crying very loudly, begging her mother for a toy.
Typical temper tantrum.
The mother was telling her daughter to go and sit inside the shopping cart and her child would not - she was kicking ➕ screaming NO!
Again extremely loudly.

Everyone (of course!) was watching the chaotic commotion and the mother appeared worn out and stressed to the max.

She turned to all the shoppers in the aisle and remarked to us “Listen people…..this is the reason you do not have kids!”

Now as a mother myself, in all honesty I HAVE thought this to myself when my own children were being difficult.
I think that ALL parents have had this thought at one time or another while raising their kids.

So I am the last person to judge this mother.
However I have never verbalized this in front of my child.

This woman’s child appeared between the age of 4-5.
I told the woman that she shouldn’t have said that in front of her daughter angrily and the woman simply rolled her eyes at me.

Afterward my sister chastised me and told me the woman was simply in the throes of her child’s tantrum and was simply venting out of frustration.

What say you??

[Anonymous]

yes you were

[Anonymous]

Definitely out of line. What’s wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Kicking someone when they are down is never a good thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Going to Walmart was your first mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kicking someone when they are down is never a good thing to do.

This. I probably would have laughed and briefly commiserated with her.

[Anonymous]

Of course you were. I agree with you in that you shouldn't say something like that in front of your kid. You knew the woman was already on edge, stressed, and embarrassed. Why did you feel the need to belittle her? Sometimes (often) , it's ok to keep thoughts to yourself. You don't always have to be on your high horse and let everyone know you're better than them.

[Anonymous]

YTA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kicking someone when they are down is never a good thing to do.

The fact that OP had to even post to ask if she was out of line means she does this on the regular. Either OP lacks some EQ or she's just a raging B.

[Anonymous]

It is INCREDIBLY stressful when your kids throw a tantrum in public. You should know that OP. And of course you were out of line.

[Anonymous]

Yes, totally out of line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday I was shopping in Walmart with my sister.

There was a child in the aisle crying very loudly, begging her mother for a toy.
Typical temper tantrum.
The mother was telling her daughter to go and sit inside the shopping cart and her child would not - she was kicking ➕ screaming NO!
Again extremely loudly.

Everyone (of course!) was watching the chaotic commotion and the mother appeared worn out and stressed to the max.

She turned to all the shoppers in the aisle and remarked to us “Listen people…..this is the reason you do not have kids!”

Now as a mother myself, in all honesty I HAVE thought this to myself when my own children were being difficult.
I think that ALL parents have had this thought at one time or another while raising their kids.

So I am the last person to judge this mother.
However I have never verbalized this in front of my child.

This woman’s child appeared between the age of 4-5.
I told the woman that she shouldn’t have said that in front of her daughter angrily and the woman simply rolled her eyes at me.

Afterward my sister chastised me and told me the woman was simply in the throes of her child’s tantrum and was simply venting out of frustration.

What say you??

Here's where you went wrong. As a mother yourself, gawping at a meltdown instead of moving along made it into even more of a spectacle, made her feel like she had to somehow say something to all the adults watching to show that she realized her kid was out of line. Were her words well-chosen? No, but she was overwhelmed and in crisis mode. You were in entertainment mode, and then decided you were appointed a critic. So yeah, you were out of line from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

This is so obviously either a troll or stolen off a site like Reddit. No one is this obtuse.

[Anonymous]

I would have made a crazy face at the kid to see if it would slow their tantrum.

I don't talk to strangers about their parenting.

Anyway...she addressed you and the rest of the audience so it's not too big a deal that you said something.

I don't believe the kid will be traumatized for life either. Some families are a little rougher verbally and can be sarcastic without creating trauma.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why people stand around and watch a toddler having a temper tantrum. Why were you just standing there watching? That's so weird.