Tell Me The Truth…..Was I Out Of Line Here??
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Anonymous
| Yes, you were. When you see a stressed mom like that, call attention to anything good that she might have done. Encourage the good. Empathize. It is better for her and better for her child. |
Anonymous
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OP, I understand why you did this.
However, going forward when you have the urge to intervene, you must ask yourself these questions - - Are you doing this to feel better about yourself that you spoke up? Will your speaking up actually help the intended person? - If you feel the need to help someone by the way you deliver the message - help the situation or not really help the situation? So, if the mom was frazzled and she should not have said that in front of her child & everybody, then the only thing you could have said which would be helpful would have been along the lines of - "Oh dear, its hard on parents when kids this age become cranky. Can I be of any assistance to you right now?" |
Anonymous
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"She turned to all the shoppers in the aisle and remarked to us “Listen people…..this is the reason you do not have kids!”
You should have laughed and moved on with your day. The fact that your said that to someone struggling says more about you than it does her. You're the problem here and I can't understand your need to crowed source the answer. That's also very telling. |
Anonymous
| You can be right, but still out of line. It sucks but that looks like what happened here. |
Anonymous
Here Here! Yup. |
Anonymous
| OP already posted that she read replies, realized she was wrong, and will do better in the future. |
Anonymous
lol |
Anonymous
| MYOB. You were way out of line. How does adding fuel to a fire help? |
Anonymous
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You were 100 percent out of line. You should have followed the mom code which is to either completely ignore the situation or forgive her support. She was making a joke to try to deflect the attention.
I will never forget the day at preschool pick up when my son had a full meltdown on the floor right in front of the door. Every single parent stepped over him like nothing was happening and said hi to me. Because they all knew the best thing to do was give the kid no attention. |
Anonymous
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Apple and tree thing. People raise their own kind.
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Anonymous
| Yes! |
Anonymous
| Way, way, way out of line. Woman didn’t need to deal with another unruly child at that time. |
Anonymous
This person may be trolling, but I've been treated this way more than once when my kid was being a little gobshite and someone thought the best strategy would be to judge and criticize me instead of trying to actually help or simply minding their own business. |
Anonymous
The proper response to this is to throw the Katniss and tell the struggling mom "Yup. This job is a damned scam!" in solidarity. You're the AH, OP.
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Anonymous
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OMG!
I cannot believe any mother would say something like this to a bunch of strangers! How absolutely humiliating it must have been to the child for being put on blast like that! This mother does not deserve to be a parent. Because a good parent never speaks ill of her child to others. Especially perfect strangers in a store. |