I’m exhausted with my fiancé

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh, life is full of stressors big and small, especially with kids and running a household. The fact that he actually slept on the couch over a conversation topic…get out now. It’s so much easier before the baby comes.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and NOT normal.

[Anonymous]

Don't get married! Move on

[Anonymous]

If he routinely acts like this now, how will he react when there’s the stress of a new baby? Sorry but it’s time to end things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It feels like he’s always getting upset about small things. For example, last night, I was just about to pop into the bathroom to get ready for bed, when a news report popped up about the UK grooming gangs that has been in the news lately. I was chatting to him about it, because he had never heard of it. Granted, I get it’s a bit of a depressing topic, but next thing I know he had stormed out and insisted on sleeping on the couch because “I don’t want to hear about this before I go to bed”. I get that, in retrospect, I should have maybe kept it to myself and just gotten ready for bed. But I honestly didn’t think it, and, in any case, it feels like I have to walk on eggshells around him, that he’s not good at managing his emotions and freaks out over the smallest things. Unfortunately I am (accidentally) pregnant so leaving isn’t so easy, but I’m afraid when we have a child together it will be a million times worse. I’m not sure if this kind of thing, a guy who always seems upset, is a legitimate red flag or I’m just suffering from pregnancy hormones. And if it is really bad, then IDK whether I should leave now or wait till after the child arrives

Before you started "chatting" did you gague if he was in a chatty mood? In life we don't just have to start talking and assume that just because we are talking those around us have to take it in right then and there.

Gmafb. Adults who are not in a chatty mood say so and their partner respects them enough to back off. What you are encouraging is for the OP to continue to try to interpret his moods instead of for the adult man to use his big boy words to set a boundary when he doesn’t want to hear something upsetting.

OP, people aren’t perfect, but his behavior is not normal and will be really hard to navigate long term.

he went to go sleep on the couch. OP sounds like a huge drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels like he’s always getting upset about small things. For example, last night, I was just about to pop into the bathroom to get ready for bed, when a news report popped up about the UK grooming gangs that has been in the news lately. I was chatting to him about it, because he had never heard of it. Granted, I get it’s a bit of a depressing topic, but next thing I know he had stormed out and insisted on sleeping on the couch because “I don’t want to hear about this before I go to bed”. I get that, in retrospect, I should have maybe kept it to myself and just gotten ready for bed. But I honestly didn’t think it, and, in any case, it feels like I have to walk on eggshells around him, that he’s not good at managing his emotions and freaks out over the smallest things. Unfortunately I am (accidentally) pregnant so leaving isn’t so easy, but I’m afraid when we have a child together it will be a million times worse. I’m not sure if this kind of thing, a guy who always seems upset, is a legitimate red flag or I’m just suffering from pregnancy hormones. And if it is really bad, then IDK whether I should leave now or wait till after the child arrives

Counseling or leave now. Feeling like you are "walking on eggshells" is a very bad indicator for the future.

[Anonymous]

Get out now. Triggered, volatile, sensitive, emotional, turning it around to blame you. Imagine this is one incident about news on a telephone. Then imagine all of the other real life issues you'll deal with. It is already abusive. Get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out now. Triggered, volatile, sensitive, emotional, turning it around to blame you. Imagine this is one incident about news on a telephone. Then imagine all of the other real life issues you'll deal with. It is already abusive. Get out.

Abusive because he didn’t want to hear about the latest MAGA conspiracy theory right when he was going to bed …?

I can believe OP feels stressed but that raises the question of why she’s having a baby with someone who appears to be annoyed by her. Abortion was an option.

[Anonymous]

How did he react to news about the pregnancy? Did you decide to get married after you found out you were pregnant? If so, I would definitely leave. This does not bode well for your future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How far along? If early, I would be aborting that pregnancy. If not, move out immediately without telling this guy where you’re going and give it up for adoption. The baby will destroy what’s left of your relationship anyway.

Agree.

He’s abusive, you can’t stay. You also can’t bring a kid into the world and hand it over to him to abuse 50% of the time. This guy can’t be allowed to be a father, so suck it up OP and don’t let that happen.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he needs therapy

[Anonymous]

Why do women even put up with this? He better be very attractive if he’s doing all of this

[Anonymous]

OP you're pregnancy hormones are making you crazy, and you seem very immature to begin with (accidentally pregnant in your first relationship, then a shotgun wedding?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women even put up with this? He better be very attractive if he’s doing all of this

Why do men put up with this?

[Anonymous]

I would abort. But whatever you decide with the baby I would leave now. Like tomorrow or Monday while he is at work.