Ideas for little things to accidentally do when you’re not happy with spouse

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Anonymous wrote:Stop it. you're hormonal. unless you are trying to head for divorce and want to do 100% of it on your own and work full time with less than half the money you have now.
and believe me, that situation sucks. i know.

I’m sure her husband is going to divorce her for hiding his laundry. According to someone above it makes her a sociopath. Y’all are pathetic.

You must have really horrible relationships to indulgence this childish BS.

Op admitted it was immature. Calling someone sociopath because of this is not accurate. That’s what I was pointing out and especially given she’s pregnant is even worse. It’s something an actual sociopath would do. It proves you’re cruel PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop it. you're hormonal. unless you are trying to head for divorce and want to do 100% of it on your own and work full time with less than half the money you have now.
and believe me, that situation sucks. i know.

I’m sure her husband is going to divorce her for hiding his laundry. According to someone above it makes her a sociopath. Y’all are pathetic.

I would divorce in a heartbeat if my spouse did something that petty while I was trying to go about the business of living life. That is someone who will just drag a spouse down. What a loser you are OP.

No one cares Pp. You sound cruel. It was a joke obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop it. you're hormonal. unless you are trying to head for divorce and want to do 100% of it on your own and work full time with less than half the money you have now.
and believe me, that situation sucks. i know.

I’m sure her husband is going to divorce her for hiding his laundry. According to someone above it makes her a sociopath. Y’all are pathetic.

I would divorce in a heartbeat if my spouse did something that petty while I was trying to go about the business of living life. That is someone who will just drag a spouse down. What a loser you are OP.

No one cares Pp. You sound cruel. It was a joke obviously.

What was the joke part? Certainly not the laundry because she was trying to get back at him for not doing his part, right?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

She’s asking him to contact his HR to find out if they have a back up childcare benefit. She can’t do that for him.

DP, Our HR benefits responds to spouses on the plan. That, of course, is a different issue than how house/kid stuff should be split between spouses

I’ve never heard of this and I’ve never contacted my spouses HR. Her husband can take a few seconds out of his day and email HR. She’s carrying a baby for 9 months and he can’t spend a few minutes sending an email. Ridiculous

The laundry thing isn’t the best idea but her husband isn’t pulling his weight. Sounds like she’s working full time without full time childcare. Her husbands job may have a way to give them more childcare but dh is too busy and lazy to email hr. I would be pissed if I was pregnant and this happened to me. She needs a break now more than ever.

+1 I don’t agree with revenge but PPs are enjoying calling OP a loser WAY too much. It’s filling a need in them. And it’s unkind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

She’s asking him to contact his HR to find out if they have a back up childcare benefit. She can’t do that for him.

Actually I’d be shocked if they wouldn’t tell her.

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Is dcum all trolls at this point? Why am I here at all?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop it. you're hormonal. unless you are trying to head for divorce and want to do 100% of it on your own and work full time with less than half the money you have now.
and believe me, that situation sucks. i know.

I’m sure her husband is going to divorce her for hiding his laundry. According to someone above it makes her a sociopath. Y’all are pathetic.

No one cares that she is pregnant. What a ridiculous excuse and cop-out for psychotic behavior.
You must have really horrible relationships to indulgence this childish BS.

Op admitted it was immature. Calling someone sociopath because of this is not accurate. That’s what I was pointing out and especially given she’s pregnant is even worse. It’s something an actual sociopath would do. It proves you’re cruel PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

She’s asking him to contact his HR to find out if they have a back up childcare benefit. She can’t do that for him.

Actually I’d be shocked if they wouldn’t tell her.

She would need to know HR email and why should she need to go through all these hoops for something her husband could get. It’s nonsense. Pregnant or not this guy is lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is dcum all trolls at this point? Why am I here at all?

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all and I know it’s immature. I’m near the end of my pregnancy and dh is making me mad because he’s not helpful and he works constantly even though he has a normal 9-5 job. He spends hours in the house office after work and on the weekends. We already have one child. I have been asking him for MONTHS to look into backup childcare benefit for his work from care.com as my job has a great one and I’m almost positive his company has backup as well. We pay a copay for backup childcare. It’s been working well with my job. We send our preschooler on 4 times a month to a daycare and he loves it. The daycare is fine with us using it like this. His company is a lot larger and I know in the past we got a care.com membership through his work. Anyway today I decided to hide all his dirty clothes. I usually do the laundry and the cooking. Once he runs outs of underwear it’s going to be funny when he comes and asks me where I put the clean ones. I know I am being immature but I was hoping some of you highly educated people could help me out with some more ideas. I’m home bound and it’s really hard!

No.

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I’m confused. What did he do wrong? Why don’t you have normal daycare? Why did you have a second baby with someone you can’t stand clearly?

[Anonymous]

I diagnose OP as having some sort of personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

She’s asking him to contact his HR to find out if they have a back up childcare benefit. She can’t do that for him.

Sure she can - she sends him an email and asks him to forward/add the appropriate HR person at his firm so he can give permission to his wife to learn from HR about daycare benefits.

It’s lame she has to do hubs work for him, but at least she can find out.

Another option, OP, is to just announce that you will only handle every other daycare need with your kid. Hubs handles every other either by taking off work and providing the care or h3 figures out his company’s day care.

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I will admit I don’t understand the daycare situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

She’s asking him to contact his HR to find out if they have a back up childcare benefit. She can’t do that for him.

Actually I’d be shocked if they wouldn’t tell her.

She would need to know HR email and why should she need to go through all these hoops for something her husband could get. It’s nonsense. Pregnant or not this guy is lazy.

OP doesn’t have solid childcare and is hiding her husband’s clothes. Now that’s nonsense.