Ideas for little things to accidentally do when you’re not happy with spouse

[Anonymous]

Title says it all and I know it’s immature. I’m near the end of my pregnancy and dh is making me mad because he’s not helpful and he works constantly even though he has a normal 9-5 job. He spends hours in the house office after work and on the weekends. We already have one child. I have been asking him for MONTHS to look into backup childcare benefit for his work from care.com as my job has a great one and I’m almost positive his company has backup as well. We pay a copay for backup childcare. It’s been working well with my job. We send our preschooler on 4 times a month to a daycare and he loves it. The daycare is fine with us using it like this. His company is a lot larger and I know in the past we got a care.com membership through his work. Anyway today I decided to hide all his dirty clothes. I usually do the laundry and the cooking. Once he runs outs of underwear it’s going to be funny when he comes and asks me where I put the clean ones. I know I am being immature but I was hoping some of you highly educated people could help me out with some more ideas. I’m home bound and it’s really hard!

[Anonymous]

Don't be silly, OP. He probably won't even notice or just get mad at you.

[Anonymous]

You sound crazy. Just do some revenge shopping and call it a day

[Anonymous]

Wifi

[Anonymous]

Switch coffee to decaf

[Anonymous]

Why would you hide the laundry. Just leave it there until he does it himself. Hire a housecleaner to come in once a week and clean to give you a break.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried doing better, OP?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm all in favor of men doing their share but don't understand this post. What are you asking for? For him to find part time child care help?

If so, might I suggest that, rather than hiding his clothes, you just realistically think about what's fair and what you are capable of doing, and then tell him. So if it\s too hard to manage laundry because you are pregnant and have another child tell him that: honey, I'm too exhausted to keep doing your laundry so you'll have to do it. Maybe I'll be able to get back to it once you find us that extra child care I've been talking about. Repeat as necessary for things like making his dinner, cleaning up, doing errands for him, etc.

[Anonymous]

Passive aggressiveness is tiring. Definitely not the way.

[Anonymous]

You sound pretty difficult. I feel for your DH. But then again he picked you, so there's that.

[Anonymous]

Ask him for whatever login, get the daycare signup materials, then tape them to his eating place.

Leave it there. That's aggressive enough.

Pranking your husband is dumb.

[Anonymous]

I would never do something just to piss off my spouse.

I also would never do an adult’s laundry. Why do you treat him like a child?

[Anonymous]

Stop being petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never do something just to piss off my spouse.

I also would never do an adult’s laundry. Why do you treat him like a child?

Really? We do family laundry. My husband mine all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound pretty difficult. I feel for your DH. But then again he picked you, so there's that.

For now. He can fix that mistake.