FIL wants to be buried in the homeland

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Anonymous wrote:If it were my parent, I would tell them that this would be costly and time-consuming to arrange. Except that we'd never have this conversation, because they already know this and don't want to be a burden.

So tell your husband that if he says nothing right now, he will be facing a difficult choice after his father's death: not honor his wishes and live with that, or be entirely overwhelmed trying to make it happen.

Damn.
FIL should be asked if the homeland was not a possibility what would be his second choice.

[Anonymous]

Say sure and ask what arrangements have been made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were my parent, I would tell them that this would be costly and time-consuming to arrange. Except that we'd never have this conversation, because they already know this and don't want to be a burden.

So tell your husband that if he says nothing right now, he will be facing a difficult choice after his father's death: not honor his wishes and live with that, or be entirely overwhelmed trying to make it happen.

Agree. It’s a special kind of special who makes requests like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say sure and ask what arrangements have been made.

Lol

None.

[Anonymous]

Have DH inquire whether pre-arrangements have been made. My great uncle died in Kenya decades ago and I remember the family spent 10-15k to repatriate the embalmed remains (USA). I would imagine it’s much costlier now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd cremate and spread the ashes in his homeland. Keep it simple as it's DH's problem.

This is the answer. “Uh huh ok…”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about his wife?

Curious is she is from the same country he is or the country they have been living in for so long now.

Seems weird to me to not coordinate with your spouses cemetery plot or ashes plan. And go polar opposite back to one’s own family of origin. I assume that’s where the FIL bought a cemetery plot, near older family burials?

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Is FIL ok with cremation?

My father also wanted to be buried back in his homeland that he left 50 years ago. When we asked about cremation, he said whichever way it happens, so we brought the ashes. Was NBD as far as paperwork and a very important trip for my young adult children who haven’t been there before.

[Anonymous]

I prepaid my cremation/death expenses and bought special insurance that will bring my body back to be cremated if I die more than 100 miles from home. Or maybe it ships my cremains. Don’t know. But you need to find out if fil has prepaid anything.

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Where does the body go after it is cargo shipped there in a casket? Is there even a plan or you let the distant cousins figure it out?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore, nobody’s going to check

+1 Just be nice and say you'll try to make that happen while he's still alive.

I would think the man would be alarmed by the idea of being buried alive, in his homeland or anywhere else.

[Anonymous]

If you love him, I would say that you saw it in the will and will do your best to make it happen, but you think the whole family should take a trip there now.

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Is this Turkey? I flew on a commercial flight to Turkey with a patient in a hospital bed set up a few rows back and his two doctors, assumed he was at death’s door and was returning there to die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd cremate and spread the ashes in his homeland. Keep it simple as it's DH's problem.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore, nobody’s going to check

+1 Just be nice and say you'll try to make that happen while he's still alive.

I would think the man would be alarmed by the idea of being buried alive, in his homeland or anywhere else.

Omg 😂